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RE: limits - 12/28/2011 5:01:11 AM

Kana

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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The huge problem with the sub submitting the submissive checklist is that i have had doms tell me they are into the same things as me but they arent. They LIE cuz they think they can convert you and call it pushing your limits. I will not provide any list that allows a Dom to manipulate and fuck me around with. I say... let the Dom submit his bdsm checklist to me first.

This has happened to me too.

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well,.. i see a lot of Dom profiles that are basically blank.. hard to make any kind of assessment other than block delete.. If a Dom is interested in me then he has to tell me what he is into first, then I will be the one deciding if we are compatible enough. Until it has been decided by me and the Dom that we are to be together, we are just two people talking and there is no sub or dom, we are equals... Doing it this way will get me the right person for me and i wont be wasting my time with someone that is wrong for me.. no trying to fit a square peg in a round hole for me..

Rock on sister!

See, let me take this on from the flip side. Over the years there is really very little I haven't at least tried in BDSM, Some stuff I love, some stuff not so much. Some stuff I'm gonna want no matter what, like fucking her in the ass, some things I could care less about...like foot worship.
But these tend to be the outliers. In the center there's a whole lot of stuff that I may or may not enjoy, depending on the partner, the dynamic, their response and the way we groove off of each other.

So asking me to fill out a dom checklist wouldn't work to well.
Now I understand why this is being suggested, and that lots and lots of internet doms tend to have facile tastes/personalities that tend to be manufactured to correspond to whatever they think she wants/needs, but the reality is that despite that, for this cat, the dom checklist isn't such a great idea.

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