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barelynangel -> RE: How Can I tell if He's an alpha male? (12/28/2011 6:53:51 AM)
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I also seek alpha males, it is the type of man i am drawn too. What does this mean? There is no true, there is only what you end up defining as the qualities you must have in a man and whether or not you believe he possess the power in his own life. Personally, an alpha male is not someone who is successful in whatever he chooses to do, he lives his life pretty much by his determination and his determinations are based on his perception of the world around him and moves him to reaching his (to me) above the norm expectations and standards he has set for himself,which includes the concepts of honor and integrity. He expects the best out of himself. When he is not happy with something he will work to make the changes necessary for him to achieve that happiness -- whether its with his life, his career, his family, his friends, or himself. He is a master of himself.
All of the above is pretty much arbitrary and can fit any man who has set determinations for himself. So there is no "true" except what is true to you. However, you need to realize that whatever expectations of being an alpha male you set, each expectation will make your playing field smaller as the farther you move into any extreme the less candidates you will find that meet your criteria.
Also, whatever criteria you set for your definition of alpha male, you must also realize that these men will also have expectations for the women they seek to share themselves with.
My definition of alpha male is complex in many ways but my profile holds some pretty basic concepts i see as being an alpha male to me - all of the below are arbitrary due to the interpreter of same has to be the one who defines what is actually very arbitrary:
I love and need a dangerous man, not dangerous because i fear him, but dangerous because i desire him,
His will is such i can only be what naturally compels me
He exudes confidence, i, as a woman, know He possesses more than confidence; He possesses power. Power that comes not from practice, but that formed as a building block of his character.
and this one:
Not interested in those who confuse anger with power, bluster for, and annoyance for persuasion
paraphrased from The Waiter who writes Waiterrant blog
Yes, people tend to get their panties in a twist when someone asks about a specific type of man because they think a man is a man made up of qualities -- however, there ARE alpha men out there, people know it and there are men who aren't alpha, and people know it. All in all, its not bad or good to seek one or the other, it is simply preference. All in all, while you are defining in general the man you are seeking -- only you can define what that means to you. If you want an alpha male then YOU have to decide what that means to you. But remember the more criteria you expect a man to have means the smaller your playing field will get which means you may not have a lot of selection and then you have to remember that these men also have their criteria that you may not reach for them to select you.
angel
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