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So what is your "mode" - 5/30/2006 7:38:04 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Just when you think you have heard it all--I was chatting this evening and this submissive asks--so Mistress what are you like, how do you feel when You are in Domme "mode"?
 
and I had to stop a second--and went---uhm I don't have a mode. I'm Me, the Domme is Me and I am Her--there is no wind up key, no little switch that one flips--its what I am--so Ladies care to share Your "mode"?
 


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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/30/2006 7:45:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Mode huh? Hmm.. I hit, smack, bite, cut, wax, whip, pierce etc.. they scream.

That's about it. ;)

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/30/2006 7:47:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Dear MH00314, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Mode to me, means method, style, etc.  I agree, I am "myself" but, I usually find that they're attempting to find out if a dominant is sensual, Sadist, and or all the many ways a lady can be a dominant.

I agree there is no "off" switch or "on" switch.  However, I am discreet and not as obvious in vanilla circles as I am in familiar circles.  So, I tell them my dominant style is fluid and goes with the flow of my circumstances and surroundings.

I also ask the person using the "mode" word; what kind of mode they're in when submissive/slave. 

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/30/2006 8:09:49 PM   
MistressLorelei


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Status: offline 		I too am always me... not a wind up Domme, but I do suppose that my 'mode' can depend on my 'mood'.  It can be a torturous evening, a playful morning, or a cuddly afternoon.

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/30/2006 8:41:34 PM   
ladylexington


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Status: offline 		I agree with M. Hathor. I just have a dominant personality - even people in the vanilla world describe me as intimidating and direct. But, there are things that accentuate those traits. For example, a boy in chains just sets me off. A girl with her head on my lap triggers a deep nuturing feeling in me. And my body feels electric when I have the right toy in my hand. Perhaps that is what he was refering to.

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/30/2006 9:02:14 PM   
jamesthehumanrug


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Status: offline 		greetings ,great one,
i never knew you were a top, till now !
great to meet you; i ,always loved your writing ,and your unique funny name, ' m who ' ,....
that really got me...
speaking of "mode", altho you have a perfect reply ,to that question; i WAS trying today ,to think up a new kind of music ;calling it: some variation of  mode music ;(it has to be completely unlike anything else)
i had to come up with something signifigant ,after I INVENTED RAP ,AFTER MS.,MERRY FOX ,LETS RAP MUSIC ,AND, i made it out of being pissed ;fast talk,WHEN I WAS PISSED- OFF ,AND BEING PLAGAIRIZED; bootlegged by awful relatives,BUT, ....
RAP WAS TOO NEW,AND,i was'nt alowed to be pissed off and sing; while being filmed by mob connections ;it was a form of no respect;i got good at no respect on purpose much later in the nineties,too ;my dad used to panic after a roll and come RUNNING down TO ME ,and say; you know you're being filmed! ;you can't say certain things!!;he was scared,so to speak...but rap music is mine ,not afro american p.r.
IT'S THE ,ONLY THING THEY WAITED 10 YRS. TO RELEASE AND PLAGIARIZE !!,as opposed to the usual ;less than 2 weeks ....or it's recylced stuff ,i did ,that they never intended to use ,cause, i won't do anymore,to use...
guess it's one of those things: where  you, just gotta' be there kinda' thing ,in order ,to know what i'm really talking about....
NEVERMIND ,
MISTRESS GODDESS #1. ....

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/30/2006 9:30:47 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		hello james, dear one--so when you finish creating your new mode music, will you write to Me and tell Me how it makes you feel? Cuz rap was when you were pissed off--so I want to hear the "new mode"---smiles
 
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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/31/2006 6:33:24 AM   
MochaMistress


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Status: offline 		Interesting question. I don't have a mode. I'm just me, no off and on switch.

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/31/2006 7:09:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		I lay a dead fish wrapped in that morning’s newspaper on the chest of the dead body.
It’s my MO.  

But seriously…
I can understand the mode thing. The best example I can think of is age-players. They aren’t a little 4 year old girl at the core of who they are on a daily basis, but when they go into "little girl mode", they become so innocent and adorable. I’ve seen people shift into a primal/instinctual mode where they act out a certain level of violence that doesn’t accurately portray "who they are". I’ve also seen married D/s couples that tend to shift back and forth between "husband/wife" mode to "Dominant/submissive" mode. And many Switches will come flat out and say whether they are in Dominant or submissive mode.

I have modes, but they relate more to my actions than who I am at the core. I can get in a housecleaning mode, a writing mode, a studying mode, etc… I’ll usually refer to it as a kick. "I’m on a writing kick."
If I have a "Dominant mode", I can’t identify it. But I’m betting if I asked my subs "Describe my Dominant mode." they probably could.

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/31/2006 7:50:39 AM   
MHOO314


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

I lay a dead fish wrapped in that morning’s newspaper on the chest of the dead body.
It’s my MO.  



ROTFLMAO---THAT is priceless! You are a dear...and I love Your posts.

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/31/2006 8:01:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Just when you think you have heard it all--I was chatting this evening and this submissive asks--so Mistress what are you like, how do you feel when You are in Domme "mode"?
 


Maybe he was confusing "mode" with "mood." 

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/31/2006 8:25:01 AM   
champagnewishes


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Status: offline 		Hands MH a "mode ring"....
 
His questions makes me believe he is puting much too much thought into something that really doesn't require any thought to most.

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/31/2006 9:17:33 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Other than repeating what Proprietrix has already said, I guess my mode depends on my mooood.

As far as getting in a specific mood if a task I wish to complete requires it, as an example. Let's say I wake up feeling really laid back and mellow, it's a beautiful morning, everything around me is only contributing to that mellow happy mood. However, I have to counsel an employee. I have all men working for me. I cannot go into that counselling all happy and mellow or they (at least one of them) will just not get the severity of what I am trying to get accross. During our daily morning meetings I am always pretty cheerful and since we are a small close group the mood is usually pretty laid back. Any counselling is usually done right after that meeting unless its something that needs to be addressed immediately. If that is the case I am usually pretty pissy so the mood is not an issue. That is usually a rare case as I like to step back from things and think them thru before dealing with them. So, I have to take a minute, think thru what the problem is, why it is such a big problem, what needs to happen to correct it and then put on a little emotional armour, go into cold bitch mode and then call him in.
I find that in my personal life also, that same ability to switch gears works really well also. I used to be less sure of myself and more passive agressive. The learning I have done thru BDSM has really helped me lose that tendency.

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/31/2006 9:51:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		My mode?

I'm scary, I'm one of the scariest the things you will ever meet cause all of this, is the me without all the social restrictions on me and only what my heart and head tells me is right or wrong.

Being dominant is just part of me. Its not a role I put on.

And that, I have seen time and again, is really scary to most people.

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/31/2006 12:56:09 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Just when you think you have heard it all--I was chatting this evening and this submissive asks--so Mistress what are you like, how do you feel when You are in Domme "mode"?
 
and I had to stop a second--and went---uhm I don't have a mode. I'm Me, the Domme is Me and I am Her--there is no wind up key, no little switch that one flips--its what I am--so Ladies care to share Your "mode"?
 



I think I am Me all the time, I don't think I have a Domme mode.  I don't think I change from one moment to the next simply because I now have a needle or a candle or a whip in My hands.  It;s not the implement that I'm holding that makes Me a Domme, it's My mind, heart and soul, and those don't turn on and off.


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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/31/2006 2:12:13 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Just when you think you have heard it all--I was chatting this evening and this submissive asks--so Mistress what are you like, how do you feel when You are in Domme "mode"?
 
and I had to stop a second--and went---uhm I don't have a mode. I'm Me, the Domme is Me and I am Her--there is no wind up key, no little switch that one flips--its what I am--so Ladies care to share Your "mode"?
 






I have said exactly what You said.
There is no key or button you push.
Its there plain and simple.....Just gotta shake My head and laugh...mode....

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/31/2006 3:47:25 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

Mode huh? Hmm.. I hit, smack, bite, cut, wax, whip, pierce etc.. they scream.

That's about it. ;)

Celeste


lol- that's really funny because I'm training a new submissive and the first two days was all about fun. Now its all about work and I'm wondering how many days he'll last while I am in "this mode". lol


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RE: So what is your "mode" - 5/31/2006 7:01:59 PM   
TeeGO


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Status: offline 		Goddess - How is he holding up?  I've thought about him now and then.  The prospect of being in your hands is very scary.

As for Mode.  Could he have meant something more akin to protocal? How are you in high protocal as oppossed to low, that type of thing.

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 6/1/2006 12:16:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		This questions does come up from time to time.  I think boys are surprised to realize that I am always in Domme mode.  It is the fastest way to help a boy realize what it is he really wants out of this lifestyle. 
I honestly believe that when this question is posed, the boy (or girl) is not understanding that it is a personality and not a role that one can slip into and out of.  And yes, I think they are also trying to figure out the style of domination when it comes to play or scene time.  That is importnat, but it is just as important to realize that the domination doesn't end just because one isn't tied to the bed or being whipped. 
I am not a screaming shrew, but the response to a submissive or slave who forgets that he is not free to make decisions is automatic for Me. It can be very subtle much of the time, but it is always there.  I would have to consciously work to turn it off.  So I never do.
 

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RE: So what is your "mode" - 6/1/2006 4:53:15 PM   
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I am not sure, I don’t think people can be defined in such simple terms. I have more settings than a industrial strength vibrator.

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