orimotis69 -> RE: Sir or Master (1/21/2012 4:55:12 PM)
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ORIGINAL: lizi Well, to start with, Master is kind of used as meaning more, as in that person has perhaps more time in the lifestyle, more experience, or more knowledge in an area. So it's kind like you start out as a Sir, and then grow into being a Master. There is also the distinction of Master/slave, or Sir/submissive - it kind of denotes what type of BDSM relationship you have. There are also distinctions in the leather community for the title of Master which I can't talk about since I'm not knowledgeable about that. At this point you probably don't want to call yourself a Master as that implies something you haven't grown into yet. In my relationship I call my Dominant by his first name or Pookie, Doll, Schnooks, Cutiepie, Handsome, Sweetpea, Honey, etc. I'm rather affectionate as you can see, which suits him- if it didn't I"m sure he'd give me more direction on what he'd prefer. He calls me by my first name or Baby. We have never used titles. Some people choose something significant to them other than Sir or Master, you can think about that and see if something fits you more comfortably. As to your questions: 1. I'm comfortable with whatever he tells me to call him. 2. My opinion on people using titles is that they can refer to themselves as whatever they like, if they want to be respected however it should fit them. If an 18 year old Dominant wanted to be called Master Imperious I'd call him that and then snicker, I'm not going to lie. Because to me, an 18 year old wouldn't have enough time doing this to have mastered it yet. I hope I didn't come off as me now calling myself Master. I wouldn't use the word unless I had some experience. Still working on that by the way. SO coming from a new comers point of view, if someone asks you to call them by their title, would you? I think I would feel a little uncomfortable because I don't know the person. Going back to my line of thought, if someone elses sub or slave referred to me as Sir, I would probably feel uncomfortable too. Which I know is weird but it stems from my days working with kids. Which in fact is even more weird considering your view of the word Master meaning slightly higher than Sir. look at me editing for grammar.
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