I am VERY new to this lifestyle, and very curious about all the possibilities!I'm a 33 year old happily married woman, and we have been in the swinger lifestyle since day one of our relationship. By personality, I'm VERY domme, and even a bit sadistic. I've always been strong willed, stubborn, and want to be in control. But with my husband, I find it hard to be sexually dominant. I've always talked about wanting my very own "bitch boy", to use as I see fit, and though my hubby can be very submissive, I can't do that to him either!
Recently, we met a man who we had an incredible 3 some with. I've found out that he considers himself D, and he plans to "show" me this the next time we are together.
I've also met a willing male sub. online. He too. plans to visit soon.
So, the question is, is it really possible for me to switch? I've gotten mixed answers when I've asked each man, including my hubby. Thanks in advance for your insight on this!
But hon, if he's submissive, wouldn't he tend to follow your lead?
I'd hate to see you and he have issues if he's sub, you're Domme...and you chose to take the lead...in some fashion....isn't that what it's supposed to be?
"I've gotten mixed answers when I've asked each man, including my hubby."
Doll...you write the rules....it's (incredibly) nice of you to be concerned but....what does he really want?
Are you deferring?
Isn't he actually saying...."take me"?
Or is there more to this story?