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dirtyglam -> how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 2:47:34 PM)
ok so my boyfriend and i live together and we also agree on a 1950's household. he is my daddy and i am his babygirl. the thing is i have always been the domme in other relationships (with women and such). i find myself submissive with him most times, but there are times where my darker side wants to come out and really let him have it. he makes sure to remind me of my place and most times it is fine. my question is does the role i play in my lifestyle have room for my domme side or am i just a sub when it comes to him? am i a sub or am i a switch?

DBWhiskey -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 2:55:32 PM)
I would suggest that because you have played both dominant and submissive roles more or less comfortably, that you're clearly a switch, so don't sweat that. As for sometimes wanting to take control, totes normal. Not being at all times totally blissfully submissive doesn't mean you're just pretending. Part of the fun to me of the submission is controlling and channeling those feelings, and when I just want to take control oh so bad, I try to do it within the confines of the established structures. How does a 1950s housewife get her way?

kalikshama -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 2:59:18 PM)
quote: there are times where my darker side wants to come out and really let him have it. In or out of the bedroom? IOW, do you want to let him have it sexually or when he's slacking on his manly responsibilities such as taking out the trash?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 2:59:53 PM)
By skilful manipulation, and poison. [;)]

kalikshama -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 3:02:49 PM)
quote: How does a 1950s housewife get her way? Favorite meal followed by favorite sex act.

dirtyglam -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 3:10:46 PM)
normally a bj does the trick i love doing it for him and normally in return he gives me what i want. and by letting him have it i mean in the bedroom. sometimes i just want to run the show because im feeling it in the moment

DBWhiskey -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 4:29:21 PM)
Meals, sex, and poison, correct. But I suppose it's to be in the bedroom, so we might need to modify things... let's see... we need a plan.

mnottertail -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 4:31:37 PM)
The '50s Maxwell house wife, can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never ever let you forget youre a man (that is gonna get his ass dusted TONIGHT!!!!)

LadyHibiscus -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 4:33:25 PM)
YA silly!! That is a cologne commercial from the '70's!

mnottertail -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 4:34:11 PM)
Well its the 90's now, innit?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 4:40:08 PM)
Good point.

Baroana -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 4:43:57 PM)
It sounds as though, for reasons unknown, you and your boyfriend agreed on a few things. You agreed that he would be dominant and you would be submissive. You agreed that your relationship was going to be of the daddy/baby girl variety. Finally, you agreed to live in a traditional 1950's household arrangement. Presumably, and hopefully, all of the above were what you wanted at the time you made these agreements. It could be that some of your wants have changed since then. Don't worry, it's legal to change your mind. I'm curious about something. How well does your boyfriend uphold his part of the deal? Does he support you financially so that you do not have to work? That's one of the cornerstones of a 50's household in my view. Does he "know best" and provide you with sound advice and guidance?

DBWhiskey -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/26/2012 5:00:05 PM)
PLAN: Get him hammered. Hammered men are much less inhibited and much less thoughtful and much less aware of what is going on, they also tire comparatively easily, and like to lay down. Get him hammered and fuck the shit out of him and he will more than likely submit to it without complaint. I think this is a possible for a 1950s housewife, akin to poisoning? It works in my mind.

dirtyglam -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/27/2012 3:05:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Baroana I'm curious about something. How well does your boyfriend uphold his part of the deal? Does he support you financially so that you do not have to work? That's one of the cornerstones of a 50's household in my view. Does he "know best" and provide you with sound advice and guidance? that is why we have agreed on the 1950's that is the routine of the household. he works 12 hour days and he wants me home when hes working.

littlewonder -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/27/2012 7:24:56 AM)
have you told him of your desires? That's the first place to start. Maybe you'll find out he's a switch too. If not then you may want to ask him if you can go outside of your relationship to get that side fulfilled. If he says no then you're fucked. You agreed to this type of relationship you're in. You will have two choices then at that point...stay or leave.

NyxPontia -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/27/2012 11:32:07 AM)
I don't know particularly about your situation, but I do know that there are some Daddy Doms who don't mind letting their little girl take charge in a bedroom once in a while. It's not so much because they want to submit, but because they want to see her smile, or they find it adorable to see her go from sweet and obedient to barking commands and back again. Talk to him about it. It's your best option. Discuss your wants with him, and maybe you can set things up. Let him set rules to the scene and let him know that even though you'll be on top in the bedroom that night, he's still the one in control. Good luck!

dirtyglam -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/27/2012 5:47:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NyxPontia I don't know particularly about your situation, but I do know that there are some Daddy Doms who don't mind letting their little girl take charge in a bedroom once in a while. It's not so much because they want to submit, but because they want to see her smile, or they find it adorable to see her go from sweet and obedient to barking commands and back again. Talk to him about it. It's your best option. Discuss your wants with him, and maybe you can set things up. Let him set rules to the scene and let him know that even though you'll be on top in the bedroom that night, he's still the one in control. Good luck! i think you have said it best thank you!!

NyxPontia -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (1/27/2012 6:34:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dirtyglam quote: ORIGINAL: NyxPontia I don't know particularly about your situation, but I do know that there are some Daddy Doms who don't mind letting their little girl take charge in a bedroom once in a while. It's not so much because they want to submit, but because they want to see her smile, or they find it adorable to see her go from sweet and obedient to barking commands and back again. Talk to him about it. It's your best option. Discuss your wants with him, and maybe you can set things up. Let him set rules to the scene and let him know that even though you'll be on top in the bedroom that night, he's still the one in control. Good luck! i think you have said it best thank you!! Glad I could help [:D]

pghays04 -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (4/4/2012 3:22:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dirtyglam ok so my boyfriend and i live together and we also agree on a 1950's household. he is my daddy and i am his babygirl. the thing is i have always been the domme in other relationships (with women and such). i find myself submissive with him most times, but there are times where my darker side wants to come out and really let him have it. he makes sure to remind me of my place and most times it is fine. my question is does the role i play in my lifestyle have room for my domme side or am i just a sub when it comes to him? am i a sub or am i a switch? Did you ever consider getting a 'little sister'?

fucktoyprincess -> RE: how can my 1950's household work if i feel like im a switch (4/4/2012 4:21:02 PM)
I don't think 50s household necessarily means that the two of you couldn't switch in the bedroom (i.e., each of you takes on the Dominant or submissive role as it suits at different times. In other words do what any Switch couple would do and decide what the sexual ebb and flow is going to be in the bedroom). To me, the classic 50s household components are man working outside the home, and woman being stay-at-home wife and mother. Beyond that, I do not see that set up as necessarily implying anything one way or the other about what goes on in the bedroom. I really feel they are separate things. So I feel it is up to the two of you to determine what dynamic you would like in the bedroom. And that doesn't have to necessarily have to be what you've agreed to in terms of household responsibilities. [sm=2cents.gif]

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