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Alacrity -> Endings (2/1/2012 9:40:43 PM)
Not sure this belongs on this forum, but need to vent a little and this seems the closest: We met several years ago. Over the course of several months she realized that she was very submissive and that she needed to play. Her fiance was not into BDSM, but was open minded enough to let us play. (I refused to go forward without his knowledge and permission.) We did so with great enthusiasm for a little over a year. Then he decided that he could not handle sharing her. He expressed great jealousy about me. Now, because she needs it, he is learning to top. I MUST let her go. I would not break up their relationship, and I can't give her what she wants (marriage, kids, etc.) Letting her go is the right thing....but I must confess, if only to myself and never to her, that it hurts. It's so difficult to find a great sub.....I will miss her.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Endings (2/2/2012 5:12:29 AM)
Ah...I am sorry. You did know she was only borrowed and not to be yours. That still doesn't make it easier though, does it. Best of luck to you as you move on and find the one who is truly yours.

RexCorvus -> RE: Endings (2/2/2012 6:26:57 AM)
Sorry, I know it sucks to be hurting like that. Went through a similar situation once. My experience is that in the long run you'll feel good about having lived up to your moral code. By being honest on the front end (refusing to go behind anyone's back) and being an adult about letting her go when you know it's the right thing to do you'll get through with your pride and self-esteem intact. It may seem like doing the right thing is cold comfort now, but in the long run I'm sure you'll be glad you did. Hope you get to happier times in the near future.

Ogrelord999 -> RE: Endings (2/2/2012 11:53:51 AM)
Loss is loss no matter how the story is told ... Condolences brother and thank you for remaining noble in principle in an unprincipled world ... Shawn

Exidor -> RE: Endings (2/3/2012 4:26:52 AM)
One of the measures of being a man is being able to let something go when it has run its course. It can still hurt like a bitch, though.

Fornica -> RE: Endings (2/3/2012 5:50:11 AM)
~gentle hugs~

Hillwilliam -> RE: Endings (2/3/2012 7:23:02 AM)
Sometimes, you have to do what's best for your partner and wish them good luck and godspeed. Hurts like a bitch tho doesn't it? We're still good friends tho.

Kana -> RE: Endings (2/3/2012 8:39:41 AM)
Reason #7 why folks shouldn't become overly attached to their toys

littlewonder -> RE: Endings (2/3/2012 1:31:44 PM)
hrmph <thinks he should think about that one a little longer>[;)]

xssve -> RE: Endings (2/3/2012 1:57:11 PM)
Also another reason not to get involved with married people. Better to have loved and lost, etc., I suppose, but I think I've endured the agony of one too many unrequited love affairs to jump into another one anytime soon. Not that you ever plan it that way of course.

amaidiamond -> RE: Endings (2/3/2012 4:46:06 PM)
Hugs... Well done on honor and integrity

ResidentSadist -> RE: Endings (2/3/2012 5:08:34 PM)
It really sucks when doing what is best for those you care about requires you to hurt yourself. Good luck.

Kana -> RE: Endings (2/4/2012 5:09:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder hrmph <thinks he should think about that one a little longer>[;)] Whaaa? Ya think I should have gone with one of the first 6?

Alacrity -> RE: Endings (2/5/2012 5:02:42 PM)
Thank you all for the kind words.

crazyml -> RE: Endings (2/6/2012 12:39:24 AM)
<tips hat> Fair play to you.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Endings (2/6/2012 3:45:20 AM)
Things like this do hurt, but it's best to be true to who you are and what you believe - sending good thoughts...

Buzzzz -> RE: Endings (2/6/2012 10:06:48 AM)
quote: One of the measures of being a man is being able to let something go when it has run its course. It can still hurt like a bitch, though ^^^^^^^ THIS ^^^^^^^

straponprincess1 -> RE: Endings (2/6/2012 12:44:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Alacrity Not sure this belongs on this forum, but need to vent a little and this seems the closest: We met several years ago. Over the course of several months she realized that she was very submissive and that she needed to play. Her fiance was not into BDSM, but was open minded enough to let us play. (I refused to go forward without his knowledge and permission.) We did so with great enthusiasm for a little over a year. Then he decided that he could not handle sharing her. He expressed great jealousy about me. Now, because she needs it, he is learning to top. I MUST let her go. I would not break up their relationship, and I can't give her what she wants (marriage, kids, etc.) Letting her go is the right thing....but I must confess, if only to myself and never to her, that it hurts. It's so difficult to find a great sub.....I will miss her. This is true it is hard to find a great sub:(

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