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Questions by a new comer seeking events. - 2/26/2012 2:27:00 PM

TheBlackFoxx

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Howdy,

I've never been to any sort of 'munches', play meets, or workshop, but am fixing on attending an event very soon. I've never been to any sort of public event, and any experience I have with Dom/sub play was between me and my previous partner, and developed organically strictly between the two of us. As such, I'm wondering about the basic do's and dont's when attending one's first event? Is there a certain way to address or compose one's self around a mistress? How does one know if the other person is interested? It's really going to be a completely new experience for me, I just don't want to make a terrible impression my first time around. I'm interested in attending Master workshops for myself as well, but I'll save those questions for a different post. Thanks!

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RE: Questions by a new comer seeking events. - 2/26/2012 2:34:11 PM

kalikshama

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Munches tend to be very very vanilla events in vanilla settings, so wear street clothes and act as if you were having dinner with a group of vanilla friends. Munches are a way to network and meet people - the BDSM payoff often comes later.

If your munch is in a more private area of a restaurant, the conversation may become more graphic.

Treat Mistresses as humans unless/until they instruct you otherwise :)

Regarding the etiquette at more overtly BDSM events, that will depend on the event. If the etiquette is not covered on the event's website, ask the organizer.

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RE: Questions by a new comer seeking events. - 2/26/2012 2:41:21 PM

Madame4a

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Lots of events cater a lot to first time attendees, so I'd check the website -- wherever you're going. I've also found when I'm single that its great to have a friend to pal around with.. if you've been to munches and stuff -- see what other folks from your group are going and see if you can hook up with folks...

please don't expect to walk away on sunday with a partner.. but definitely meet folks and go to every single workshop that appeals to you... and enjoy everything the event has to offer... its just people.. talk, smile, be polite... and again.. smile...

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RE: Questions by a new comer seeking events. - 2/26/2012 3:26:54 PM

DarkSteven

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At a munch, show up dressed casually. No touching, no making obvious plays (asking for a phone number is okay), no making the group stand out to vanillas.

At play parties, frequently there is an orientation held for newbies to go over ground rules (what activities are permitted and prohibited, clean up after yourself, who the monitors are in case someone needs to be reported, DO NOT interfere with a scene unless there's an emergency, etc.).

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RE: Questions by a new comer seeking events. - 2/26/2012 4:03:09 PM

Madame4a

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argh.. and I misread that you'd been to munches and other stuff... sorry...

some events have the opportunity online, once you've registered to hookup before the event too... Dark Odyssey did the one year I went

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RE: Questions by a new comer seeking events. - 2/26/2012 6:27:28 PM

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Thanks all for your suggestions! Sorry if the questions seem a bit obvious and what not, I"m really just trying to get my feet wet. I'm glad that it seems it will be a casual scene for the most part. I definitely try never to get my hopes up.

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