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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 1:20:10 AM

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I simply specify "height and weight proportional".
Anorexic thin, bulimic binges and severe obesity are
not good for the health. People come in all shapes
and sizes; diversity is good, variety is the spice
of life and beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 6:05:52 AM

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See when you title it as Very Big Men, I got all excited as I thought it was about penis size, lol.
I find it interesting though that overweight women are replying that they dislike overweight men. Reminds me of other threads re: overweight subs disliked by overweight Doms, or the reverse, with a twist and every variation. Proves that double standards are not a trait of males only.

But I didn't. I'm BBW and I like big men. I definitely prefer men around me who like BBWs too!

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 6:31:59 AM

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From a basic physical attraction standpoint....I absolutely love big guys. I am a bbw and find that I am most attracted to men who are taller and just a bit bigger than I am. The big teddy bear type so to speak. I love to cuddle and enjoy a man who can get his arms around me. Also, when things get rough I don't feel like I am going to break him. (forgive that visual for those of you that don't care for large people) My fiancee fits that body type and I am more comfortable than I have ever been in my life.

Speaking from a D/s point of view: BDSM for me is about 90% in the mind. The best Dom I ever had was about 20 years my senior and half my size. He took the time to get in my head. So, if I were to walk by him on the street I wouldn't have given him a second glance. However, he was able to get me to have orgasms for hours and hours and could get me to cum on cue.

It's all about chemistry. If you have that mental chemistry appearance plays no factor in my opinion.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 6:34:08 AM

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Being fat, the reactions I get range from slightly plus of neutral to "what a disgusting pig, I don't understand how he can stand to look at himself like that, I wonder when the last time he saw his dick was?" (hint, As a top, it's not a requirement that -I- see it.) For some people my weight is a problem, I've run into more than a few who for different reasons view it as attractive.
I find weight to be a nonissue when it comes to how I feel about others. No, wait, that's not exactly true, because I've never found anybody who would order a dry salad for lunch, to have anything to else going for them besides being thin.
As often as somebody says “My god, what do they ever see in THEM?” you would think by now, only the very young, or the very dull wouldn't realize that the attractive doesn't have a thing to do with either weight or features.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 7:04:24 AM

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Cool thread Loki, (I always wanna type Vulfie as in Mozart in Amadeus, I don't know why)

Anyhooo, I have seen several threads with similar subject matter and inevitably see a few nasty critisizms of "fat" people, alot of attempts at PC ( height/weight proportionate etc) and lots of defensiveness. Which then instantly reminds me of a study I read recently. It seems that people in this country would prefer to be broke and unemployed rather than fat, I kid you not. Given that our country is at an all time high for obeseity, even myself by the new medical and health insurance standards, I have to wonder if we all really hate ourselves that much?!?!
I make no secret about the fact I much prefer women over men at this point in life however since I have two children I must have seen something in a guy once right? I never had a set physical criteria for either male or female. I have always ignored the "perfect physical specimens" as they are usually about as mentally stimulating as a Playgirl or Playboy centrefold (for me, not at all). I like to have intelligent witty conversation. I like to learn from the people in my life. I like to be able to inhale without the overpowering smell of body odour. I like to be able to sleep comfortably at night in the knowledge that those that know where I live are not going to go wonky at 3AM causing me to sic the evil roosters on them. I am physically active in my free time, I like to be outdoors. Obviously if someone cannot do these sorts of things we are not going to get along real well and they will fall by the wayside in my life. I do not worry about wether or not they have a chubby belly instead of a flat bikini stomach or a single digit size whatever tush. I worry about how well they are going to treat my family and furry babies and wether or not they are going to "get" my obnoxious sense of humour!

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 7:08:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

I am curious to get the communities views and very large men.

How do you feel about very large or obese Doms?

How do you feel about very large or obese sub/slaves?

Which ever may apply.

Well, I have always been very open and vocal about the fact that I am a health fanatic

Physical looks are the first thing that attract me to a man. One who is overweight, and out of shape will not even get an extended first look from me.
This is just me though

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 8:26:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld
How do you feel about very large or obese sub/slaves?

Personally, I'm not attracted to very large or obese sub/slaves. If they want me to be their Dom or Master, we would have to discuss wieght-loss to what I deem to be an acceptable wieght level. Now, this is not to say that I haven't had over wieght sub/slaves before. I just have a limit as to what I find exceptable, if I don't find it exceptable, it'll be changed.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 9:57:25 AM

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Good Afternoon A/all,

Where I set my sights in looking at a man is someone who is a little soft in the middle, without being obese. The aforementioned Teddy Bear is great. I do not like very large or very skinny guys as a general rule. My former Dom was 6'4" and probably 230-240, Yummy

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That being said, I am rather voluptuous myself. I have been actively working on getting my weight down by exercising and trying to eat better. I am doing that for me so I feel better about myself. I would also love to get more responses to my looks as hot and/or sexy; rather than just cute and/or pretty! Not that I mind cute and pretty

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 10:15:09 AM

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I've had short men, tall men, middle sized men. Some were thin, some were heavy, some were average. I enjoyed who they were as a person and that's why I was with them.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 10:15:54 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld
How do you feel about very large or obese sub/slaves?

I have a definite preference regarding a male submissive's appearance. I like a man who is stockily built and has some padding. When I run My hands over someone's body, I like the feeling of flesh, not bones. Also, being a larger-sized lady Myself, I feel more comfortable with a larger-sized man. In addition, I happen to prefer males somewhat taller than Me with dark hair and dark eyes.

That being said, I realize that I would be extremely foolish to limit Myself to submissives who are that particular type. While I have a certain preferences, I look beyond the physical to get to know the real person. I find that there are many other qualities, such as integrity, sense of humor, intelligence, and just basic compatability, that attract Me to a man much more than his physical appearance. The more I know someone, the less important the physical aspects become.

Lady Topaz

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 10:18:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

I am curious to get the communities views and very large men.

How do you feel about very large or obese Doms?

How do you feel about very large or obese sub/slaves?

Which ever may apply.

Inspire my mind and you will inspire my heart. Acknowledge my dreams, and you will earn a place in the vision. Serve with precision and dignity, and you will find a place at my feet.

Body is the least of the aspects on which I judge. It is the calling and the spirit and the drive to live that inspire me to find out more about a person. I follow the premise that we are not physical beings having a spiritual experience, but spiritual beings having a physical experience, so for me, the drive and the calling are paramount.

Of course, this also implies that the individual who is so motivated will be a person who cares for him or herself -- but also a person who acknowledges and revels in what he or she loves. If I am bringing a servant in as a chef, that servant had better love food -- and if he or she wears a body that acknowledges that love of food, that is only as it should be. If I am bringing in a servant as a personal trainer, that person had better show in his or her body that he or she LOVES personal training and fitness. I want to -see- the person's passion in the way that he or she presents him or herself, talks about things and embraces his or her calling. If I can see that, and feel that, the person will find him or herself respected and cherished in my presence for all that he or she is, has been, or will ever be. On the other hand, I do not find it attractive when people -apologize- for themselves, or otherwise indicate that they are dissatisfied with what they have been created to be. I don't appreciate people who are small and whimper about being so fragile and delicate, nor do I appreciate people who are large and who complain that "if only" they could lose however many pounds, they would start living their lives... Live your life NOW. Find people who appreciate you NOW. Find out why you are here in this place and in this time and start doing something about it, and you won't worry about whether your body is the right size -- it will be everything you need it to be -now- to suit the purpose for which you are here ... or, as you start living for the reason you are here, the body will reshape itself in response.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 12:30:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: KennelDeSade2

As often as somebody says “My god, what do they ever see in THEM?” you would think by now, only the very young, or the very dull wouldn't realize that the attractive doesn't have a thing to do with either weight or features.

Loved this quote. My Master is a rather large man. I was incredibly attracted to him before I ever saw him. His essence called to mine, and I was captivated. Over the years, my own weight has gone from perfectly fit to very obese, to somewhere in the middle, and seems to constantly vary. I have extreme reactions to foods. I have to love when people say heavy people are lazy, as Master juggles a career, two off-shoot "sub-careers", a million hobbies, and volunteer services that takes up a lot of his time. Not to mention a family, a slave, and working with other girls whose requests for training he accepts. Hmm, how lazy of him, lol. I'm lazy too. I work full time with lots of overtime, go to school, help my mother care for a terminally ill father, and serve a very demanding Master.

Regardless, this thread is about big men. I love my Master's body. I love everything about him. Hell, I used to have a foot phobia and I love his feet! What I love most, however, is his command of me, his care of me, his generosity to me, and his guidance and leadership of my life. I love his spirit, his laugh, his terseness, his tenderness. I love him, no matter what his physique. The man has control of himself, of his life and of me. His ability to Master is not dependent on the size of his girth.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 12:40:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
Vulfie

however since I have two children I must have seen something in a guy once right?

Wouldn’t that be twice?

Chuckling
Vulfie

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 12:57:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz

I have a definite preference regarding a male submissive's appearance. I like a man who is stockily built and has some padding. When I run My hands over someone's body, I like the feeling of flesh, not bones. Also, being a larger-sized lady Myself, I feel more comfortable with a larger-sized man. In addition, I happen to prefer males somewhat taller than Me with dark hair and dark eyes.

That being said, I realize that I would be extremely foolish to limit Myself to submissives who are that particular type. While I have a certain preferences, I look beyond the physical to get to know the real person. I find that there are many other qualities, such as integrity, sense of humor, intelligence, and just basic compatability, that attract Me to a man much more than his physical appearance. The more I know someone, the less important the physical aspects become.

Lady Topaz

ditto.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 1:10:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz

I have a definite preference regarding a male submissive's appearance. I like a man who is stockily built and has some padding. When I run My hands over someone's body, I like the feeling of flesh, not bones. Also, being a larger-sized lady Myself, I feel more comfortable with a larger-sized man. In addition, I happen to prefer males somewhat taller than Me with dark hair and dark eyes.

That being said, I realize that I would be extremely foolish to limit Myself to submissives who are that particular type. While I have a certain preferences, I look beyond the physical to get to know the real person. I find that there are many other qualities, such as integrity, sense of humor, intelligence, and just basic compatability, that attract Me to a man much more than his physical appearance. The more I know someone, the less important the physical aspects become.

Lady Topaz

ditto.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 1:17:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

quote:

ORIGINAL: KennelDeSade2

As often as somebody says “My god, what do they ever see in THEM?” you would think by now, only the very young, or the very dull wouldn't realize that the attractive doesn't have a thing to do with either weight or features.

Loved this quote. My Master is a rather large man. I was incredibly attracted to him before I ever saw him. His essence called to mine, and I was captivated. Over the years, my own weight has gone from perfectly fit to very obese, to somewhere in the middle, and seems to constantly vary. I have extreme reactions to foods. I have to love when people say heavy people are lazy, as Master juggles a career, two off-shoot "sub-careers", a million hobbies, and volunteer services that takes up a lot of his time. Not to mention a family, a slave, and working with other girls whose requests for training he accepts. Hmm, how lazy of him, lol. I'm lazy too. I work full time with lots of overtime, go to school, help my mother care for a terminally ill father, and serve a very demanding Master.

Regardless, this thread is about big men. I love my Master's body. I love everything about him. Hell, I used to have a foot phobia and I love his feet! What I love most, however, is his command of me, his care of me, his generosity to me, and his guidance and leadership of my life. I love his spirit, his laugh, his terseness, his tenderness. I love him, no matter what his physique. The man has control of himself, of his life and of me. His ability to Master is not dependent on the size of his girth.

LOL Owned... I was reading this thread and got to thinking.... (Unknow territory for me.. i'll be careful I promise....lol)

All these threads i've read on here about bbw... dig doms... weight issues....and I have to laugh...I was so scared of breaking Master. But things went great...and it was as neither of us cared... nothing mattered... but us. When two meet...and connect.. nothing does matter...

My former Master had me from hello.. (excuse the punt).. that when he took off ball cap and I seen that receeding hair line....didn't faze me one bit. Made me want to be his all that much more. It was the inside of him that drew me to him... not the outside.

As with Wolf... I wouldn't have it any other way... because he accepts me for me.. fat ass and all...

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 1:18:52 PM

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My sub is 6'5" and probably tops out at 265 or so. Big arms, broad shoulders, barrel chest, muscular thighs, The Finest Ass on the planet, hefty calves, and just enough tummy to fit perfectly in the small of My back when we're spoonin'.....you're makin' Me daydream and wish he was here!

Large = Purrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrfect!

Bring Me a man who's larger than life, then have him kneel at My feet.........................

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 1:32:33 PM

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Well Now we all have our preferances , My Mate is a swelt yet " stocky woman , Not large but good farm stock LOL and we together produced quite a beefy critter. My daughter Lyric. I myself have gone a bit to fat in the last two years something I am working on at this moment because I Currently weigh in at about 270 on a 6'1" frame , But even when I have a " wash board" belly I weigh in at about 250 .I am Not a Small an to begin with.

I have the Typical " bear" Body type with a 20 inch neck , 58 inch chest and 19 inch arms , But it doesent take much in the way of dress to make me " Look" over weight. So I tend to watch my fitness level .

I Will Admit I have a penchant for Small women , I like those I can lift and carry around because it adds so Much to the " Dominance" side of the relationship. And In Men, well I go for more of the brad pitt type , You know like In "Legends of the fall" I tend to go for Pretty boys.

Having said that when it comes to casual Play or interactions I rarely take body type into concitteration , Big or small, I love them all and there are Particular benifits to playing with large framed people. Not the least of which is pain tollerance . Thin people can take less " Sensation" .

All and all I will say that its not on the top of my list for choosing people , Of My Current Pack 3 of them are Overweight , and unless its something they wish to improve upon, I dont mention weight to them , Its their hearts and Souls that interest me , Not their clothing sizes.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 1:56:47 PM

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I have been with men from 5'6 140 lbs to 6'6 258 lbs of pure beef. I love the big bear type. As one said, it's all in how it's carried. I am a BBW and all the subs I've had made it known they love the curves. The two Doms I had were both 6'6 and around the 240-260 range. The subs have been for the most part 6ft+ and around 180-240. My first sub was 5'6 140 lbs; I thought I'd snap him like a twig, but he carried me all over the house just like a big bear type would.
It's all in what one likes. As long as it's fairly proportional and there aren't any major health issues, than I don't have much problem with it. A sexy hetero bear is what I'd really love to be with.
One last note, not all large ppl are lazy and eat too much.
I stick with 1500 calories a day, and walk or swim at least 30-60 mins 3 times a week, and I can't lose the weight.
I have been pumped full of steroids after being in 4 car accidents, none of which I caused. My back and neck are a train wreck. So sometimes it's meds that pack on the pounds, and not because we sit on our asses and eat ourselves into an oblivion.
Just my 2 cents.
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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 6:26:37 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
Vulfie

however since I have two children I must have seen something in a guy once right?

Wouldn’t that be twice?

Chuckling
Vulfie

actually maybe a few more times but I forgot to count after the surgery....

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