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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


People talk about "shame" like it's a bad thing. I am talking about men who get off on shame just like men who get off on pain or humiliation. I suppose I should have made it more clear, just like not talking about the "bad" kind of pain.

I will be more clear in the future.

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


Does the taste - as compared, for example, the texture/feel - of a cock/dildo in your mouth bring back feels like shame, fear or arousal? I know latex, rubber, etc. have distinct tastes - as do cum, pussy, etc. And these bring powerful memories to mind. I'm wondering how many men have such intense connections between the taste of a previously non specific thing - like latex or rubber - and something very specific like humiliation or arousal.

And more specifically, is it intense enough that at a given moment if you recall the taste, the reaction is undeniable and obvious? Like if you were to have the taste of acrylic or rubber on your lips in a different manner, would it fully bring you to that state?

Or, sort of like the sense of smell that can come back without trigger (at least, that happens with me), do you taste it without warning and remember a moment and feel the reaction?

I know a lot of subs think about the "act" of sucking cock (whether it be real or strapon), but I wonder how many have felt fully "imprinted" by it to the point that the taste of the device has been seared into their tastebuds.

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie



AAkasha....I know I accosted you some years back (later to be proven wrong.....long story)...you write such descriptive and such delicious stuff.....you (can) make men's heads spin.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I haven't done a nonscientific survey, but based on men I have known, I suspect the transgressive nature of the act is what's exciting, not necessarily the "shame". Doing taboo things is exciting, and if it pleases the woman asking you to do it, so much the better.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie



AAkasha....I know I accosted you some years back (later to be proven wrong.....long story)...you write such descriptive and such delicious stuff.....you (can) make men's heads spin.

As long as that's not all the way around a la the exorcist, that's a good thing, right? LOL.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
It's just another tool in the toolbox that many femdoms may or may not choose to embrace and use. But when a couple says, or a femdom says, "Oh, my partner isn't ashamed or disgusted by what he does, he loves submitting to me," that's like saying to the "shamed" partner that they aren't fully enjoying what they are doing. They WANT to feel that. That is their "rush." It's a raw kind of thrill.

For me, I just love the vulnerability. And I think it plays into my objectification fetish. When I make a man feel ashamed it isn't about actual degradation, it's more about objectification; when I say, "you are so pathetic," what the implication is really is "You are so pathetic and it's SO HOT," and he loves the way it makes him feel. Raw and helpless.

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Over time, it is possible to train a man to become aroused by the things that arouse you. It's all about programming the sexual response. If you teach him, over time, that watching his lips around that glass dildo (latex and rubber tend to have a bad taste) turns you on like the greatest foreplay in the world and it makes you cum all over him like no other chick on the planet, hell yeah he learns to enjoy it! After a while, he learns that he will get aroused by putting that toy in his mouth because you've taught him to react to your sexual response and as any chick can tell you, that's a pretty powerful drive in a male. A submissive male who wants to please especially. It becomes hot for him because it's hot for you.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
It's just another tool in the toolbox that many femdoms may or may not choose to embrace and use. But when a couple says, or a femdom says, "Oh, my partner isn't ashamed or disgusted by what he does, he loves submitting to me," that's like saying to the "shamed" partner that they aren't fully enjoying what they are doing. They WANT to feel that. That is their "rush." It's a raw kind of thrill.

For me, I just love the vulnerability. And I think it plays into my objectification fetish. When I make a man feel ashamed it isn't about actual degradation, it's more about objectification; when I say, "you are so pathetic," what the implication is really is "You are so pathetic and it's SO HOT," and he loves the way it makes him feel. Raw and helpless.

Akasha

No, I think you're wrong.  I don't ever feel like that.  I'll bet that other Dommes who have confidence in their abilities don't feel like that either.  Heck, if he did feel shame sucking a dildo for Me, I'd probably work with it.  There is no change in the basic principle.  The boy does it for Me because I own him and anything after that is gravy.

Don't misunderstand Me.  I'm sitting in the catbird's seat.  These days, his cock gets hard when he wraps his lips around something phallic shaped because he knows it gets Me hot, wet, and tight.  When I am, it is now learned behavior that I will take him as My property and ride him like there is no tomorrow.

It's not such a bad thing.