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RE: What puts you off? - 4/22/2012 7:19:55 PM   
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Well, just saying.


That phrase ticks me off. Take responsibility for what you're saying, damn you! lol
Go on, Peon, tell us what puts you off :)


Now, I realise that you're only asking that because you're profoundly desirous of getting into my pants, Alecta, and weep yourself to sleep every night because it hasn't so far happened. But modesty forbids me from saying so.


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RE: What puts you off? - 4/22/2012 7:21:20 PM   
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Someone out of college who plays video games would be an instant turn off.

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/22/2012 7:29:55 PM   
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Now, I realise that you're only asking that because you're profoundly desirous of getting into my pants, Alecta, and weep yourself to sleep every night because it hasn't so far happened. But modesty forbids me from saying so.


You are delightful, sir. It's a shame about your lack of certain anatomical parts ;)

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/22/2012 8:30:49 PM   
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It's a shame that this question wasn't addressed to sub-males, about what puts them off about certain femdoms, too (as, at first and from the thread title, I thought it might be). That would have made it somewhat new and interesting, perhaps even to the femdoms reading.


Here you go. http://www.collarchat.com/m_4097902/tm.htm


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RE: What puts you off? - 4/22/2012 8:36:08 PM   
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The OP is a young person, certainly he's not going to appeal to everyone over 30!

I really don't like men, do there are days when anything will put me off. ;) Speaking generally, meanness, arrogance, and that sense of entitlement are really bad. Leading with kink can go either way....this IS a kink site, and I think it's reasonable to offer up kink interests so we can check for that instant mismatch. Focusing on kink to the exclusion of all else--no.

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 10:40:45 AM   
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(e.g. using terms like "discreet" or "cannot host"), that's gets his profile hidden and possibly blocked.


In fairness i am none of these things yet i would go along with these terms simply because i live with my parents lol


^^^this^^^ would put me off immediately



Lol I'm 19 not 25! most 19 year olds live at home or at uni, im doing home study atm

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 10:45:26 AM   
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Home study ass-to-mouth?

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 10:49:23 AM   
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lol i like how some of you are judging me based on what very little you know about my life, i play videogames as both an escape and a creative outlet, they inspire me, as for living at home, im studying and until im 25 its cheaper to stay at home and keep buying new courses.

I think half of you are too quick to judge people based on an image, for your information i spend most of my money on learning courses, im currently doing four, my main hobby is gaming that is correct but it dont control my life.

I'm not arrogant or self-confident anything and i dont feel the world owes me anything, but just because im submissive does not mean anyone here has the right to verbally attack me, if i want you too i would ask you to, i can carry a decent conversation, talk to me about heavy metal music, horror films, games, history, sci fi, books and i could answer with a decent degree of knownledge

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 10:50:06 AM   
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ultimately.. I'm really trying hard to be nice...

IF I were in the market for someone
and that person were to be male

everything about you would put me off, for ME.. and what I prefer...most of iit has
to do with your age and the attendant things that come along with that...

doesn't mean I might not like you.. but in terms of anything deep, meaningful, substantial, anything more than superficial hello..
it would put me off...

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 10:57:57 AM   
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i can carry a decent conversation, talk to me about heavy metal music, horror films, games, history, sci fi, books and i could answer with a decent degree of knownledge


Come back when you can talk about budgets, home maintenance, your volunteer work in the community, menu planning, ways to keep a kitchen sparkling, doing laundry without turning the underwear pink, and what you are doing about advancing in your job.

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 11:05:01 AM   
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i can carry a decent conversation, talk to me about heavy metal music, horror films, games, history, sci fi, books and i could answer with a decent degree of knownledge


Come back when you can talk about budgets, home maintenance, your volunteer work in the community, menu planning, ways to keep a kitchen sparkling, doing laundry without turning the underwear pink, and what you are doing about advancing in your job.

ACTUALLY. I pay rent, i budget my bills, yes i have bills, i am always buying upgrades for what is essientially my parents home, and i am doing courses TO ADVANCE IN MY JOB. how about instead of attacking people you bother to talk to them, not all 19 year olds go out get drunk everynight

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 11:05:38 AM   
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Well...I do love asian horror and history, so there is some kind of happy medium. The scene is full of groups for the young people, though, so I recommend you seek some out.

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 11:14:19 AM   
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lol i like how some of you are judging me based on what very little you know about my life, i play videogames as both an escape and a creative outlet, they inspire me, as for living at home, im studying and until im 25 its cheaper to stay at home and keep buying new courses.

I think half of you are too quick to judge people based on an image, for your information i spend most of my money on learning courses, im currently doing four, my main hobby is gaming that is correct but it dont control my life.

I'm not arrogant or self-confident anything and i dont feel the world owes me anything, but just because im submissive does not mean anyone here has the right to verbally attack me, if i want you too i would ask you to, i can carry a decent conversation, talk to me about heavy metal music, horror films, games, history, sci fi, books and i could answer with a decent degree of knownledge


You asked what puts people off, and they told you.

Madam4a, who said that you living with your parents would put her off, is listed as age 50 on her profile. If she's been on her own for around 25 years, which is a pretty reasonable assumption, that might not be her judging you as a person but rather judging you as a partner. It's not unreasonable for someone with that much more life experience to want potential partners to be at a certain point in their lives, too. There's nothing wrong with living with your parents, especially if you're thinking it out carefully instead of defaulting to it, but it's also not unreasonable for someone to be "put off" by it if they're looking for something else.

Zensualista said "Someone out of college who plays video games would be an instant turn off." If she views that hobby in a certain way, then it's entirely reasonable for that to be a turn-off even if there's not necessarily anything wrong with you for liking it. (I'm personally put off by both hunting and fishing, but that doesn't mean I inherently think less of everyone who does them, especially if they use as much of the animals as possible.)

Some of the comments have been pointed at you, sure, but that doesn't make the sentiments behind them unreasonable, and as far as I can tell, people aren't making assumptions about your character as much as saying they're looking for someone at a different point in their lives. Your character aside, you're still a college student who's living with his parents. And again - there's nothing wrong with that - but it's not going to appeal to people who are looking for someone who's financially established and living independently.

I wish you luck, I just think you're asking the wrong crowd.

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 11:25:23 AM   
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Indeed. I will be 50 in a few days. I've been living outside my parents house and financial support, since I was 16. Even prior to leaving, I was paying part of the bills. It was necessary.

I understand that there are situations that necessitate an adult child living at home. I don't immediately think "LOSER!". Especially when it's a young person still in school, most especially in a high cost of living area. Also, here in farm country, it's common for an older generation farmer to reside with a younger generation that is doing the day to day work. Farming is often very hard work. If an elderly parent is passing the farm down to an adult child that is now operating the farm, it can make sense to have them still residing on the same property, if not in the same house. There are also cases where an adult child is actually benefiting their parent/s by living with them due to poor health or financial issues on the parents part.

But, if those reasons do not apply, and even if so in some cases.........it would be difficult for me to take someone seriously. Just as a potential slave being a parent, a potential slave being an adult child living with parents can make it difficult for me to have the type of complete power exchange I want. I don't like sharing. I don't want to wait and see if someone can get permission before spending time with me. I am selfish like that.

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 11:26:57 AM   
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lol i like how some of you are judging me based on what very little you know about my life, i play videogames as both an escape and a creative outlet, they inspire me, as for living at home, im studying and until im 25 its cheaper to stay at home and keep buying new courses.

I think half of you are too quick to judge people based on an image, for your information i spend most of my money on learning courses, im currently doing four, my main hobby is gaming that is correct but it dont control my life.

I'm not arrogant or self-confident anything and i dont feel the world owes me anything, but just because im submissive does not mean anyone here has the right to verbally attack me, if i want you too i would ask you to, i can carry a decent conversation, talk to me about heavy metal music, horror films, games, history, sci fi, books and i could answer with a decent degree of knownledge


You asked what puts people off, and they told you.

Madam4a, who said that you living with your parents would put her off, is listed as age 50 on her profile. If she's been on her own for around 25 years, which is a pretty reasonable assumption, that might not be her judging you as a person but rather judging you as a partner. It's not unreasonable for someone with that much more life experience to want potential partners to be at a certain point in their lives, too. There's nothing wrong with living with your parents, especially if you're thinking it out carefully instead of defaulting to it, but it's also not unreasonable for someone to be "put off" by it if they're looking for something else.

Zensualista said "Someone out of college who plays video games would be an instant turn off." If she views that hobby in a certain way, then it's entirely reasonable for that to be a turn-off even if there's not necessarily anything wrong with you for liking it. (I'm personally put off by both hunting and fishing, but that doesn't mean I inherently think less of everyone who does them, especially if they use as much of the animals as possible.)

Some of the comments have been pointed at you, sure, but that doesn't make the sentiments behind them unreasonable, and as far as I can tell, people aren't making assumptions about your character as much as saying they're looking for someone at a different point in their lives. Your character aside, you're still a college student who's living with his parents. And again - there's nothing wrong with that - but it's not going to appeal to people who are looking for someone who's financially established and living independently.

I wish you luck, I just think you're asking the wrong crowd.



no when people are quoting me then making personal jibes THATS ATTACKING ME

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 11:28:34 AM   
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What's the UK equivalent for TNG groups? I remember from VaguelyCurious's posts that they are called something different there.

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 11:33:01 AM   
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no when people are quoting me then making personal jibes THATS ATTACKING ME


Relax there sugar britches. Quit taking it so personally. Sit back, take a deep breath, post like a calm, rational, intelligent adult. Don't toss a childish temper tantrum. It only brings out the sadist in us. For some of us that's not terribly difficult, as you've already seen.

We like to poke sharp sticks at the new passer bys. If you don't let it get to you, react with good natured humour, especially if it has a touch of self deprecation, you will get the welcome you seem to desire. If you keep getting your knickers knotted, you will end up flouncing out like a petulant child.

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 11:34:13 AM   
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What's the UK equivalent for TNG groups? I remember from VaguelyCurious's posts that they are called something different there.

She refers to them there as U35.

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 11:34:42 AM   
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We like to poke sharp sticks at the new passer bys.


^^ THAT MADE ME CRY TEARS OF LAUGHTER LOL

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RE: What puts you off? - 4/23/2012 11:39:08 AM   
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Thanks poise!

Chris - see http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3551535, join IC and FL, and look for some U35 groups near you. Here's one in London: https://fetlife.com/groups/13433/about

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