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ORIGINAL: fucktoyprincess

While I understand in the general sense that it would be polite to respond to e-mail, I think on the Internet, it is safe to conclude that a non-response is essentially a "no". Trust me, they have seen, and possibly even read your note. But they have also concluded that they are not interested (for whatever reason - and that is their prerogative).

And the problem with responding to every e-mail is that time, at the end of the day, is limited, and I would rather spend my time corresponding with those who seem more likely to be a match. If people who send e-mails really understood "no" means "no" it might make more sense for me to e-mail a no response, but that is rarely the case. When I send polite "thanks, but no thanks" type e-mails, people always try to convince me that I should at least correspond with them a little longer before reaching that conclusion. So my general approach to sites like this is to only respond to an e-mail if I really want the correspondence to continue. Otherwise, I end up exchanging multiple e-mails just to say "no" and that just seems a huge waste of everyone's time (not to mention much more rude in my mind to start questioning someone's decision - we are each entitled to make whatever decision we want here when an e-mail comes our way.)

Consider a non-response a very gentle "no", and simply move on...

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ORIGINAL: Carl71

When someone is good enough to write to you nicely have the decency to at least read it and thank them if nothing else.

It is so rude for people just to delete a message unread or not to reply.

So come on everyone show some manners to others here.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ
I think you are likely unaware of how it is for the women on CM who receive emails such as yours and so I thought it might be nice of me to try and explain.

I think that's crucial, actually. Polite men here quite often have no idea what a lot of other men can be like when they make contact. I was that way myself, at one time. It was quite a revelation when I found out.

Carl, CM isn't the same as real life. In the latter, you act in a polite sort of way to a woman, she'll respond in kind. At CM, though, I'm afraid your message will very often just get lost in the vulgar noise.

A woman's Inbox here will all too frequently look like a wall covered with graffiti. Your comment could be of the level of a Shakespearean sonnet, but it might not stick out amongst all the 'I want to fuck you so hard!'s that the average woman here will get on her 'wall'.

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ


Let me provide you with some additional information: when a majority of men get the "Thanks, but no thanks." reply, they often become indignant and sometimes even hostile or verbally abusive.

So quite often experience has taught women on the other side (this is collarchat) that a reply just is not worth the trouble if they are not interested.

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ORIGINAL: Carl71

When someone is good enough to write to you nicely have the decency to at least read it and thank them if nothing else.

It is so rude for people just to delete a message unread or not to reply.

So come on everyone show some manners to others here.

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ORIGINAL: Carl71

Thank you for your reply.

I normally only post to people who match my criteria and that I match theirs. Occasionally I do post out of these if it is someone I think is worth contacting.

However it is the ones with matching criteria that generally don't reply or just delete without reading.
I agree that some people don't go by matches and contact anyone - that is extremely annoying but at least read their message and say 'thank you but not interested'.

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ORIGINAL: Karmastic
i really didn't understand the vitriol and anger shown towards OP.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
So, yeah, I tend to not respond. If you have an issue with that I suggest you speak with your fellow men.

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

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ORIGINAL: Karmastic
i really didn't understand the vitriol and anger shown towards OP.

Well, I can speak to mine. It's pretty straight-forward. I didn't solicit his input on my manners. He's not my father and even if he was, I'm a bit too old for his condescending attitude. His "20 years of experience" obviously didn't teach him much judging by both his post and this profile. In short, I think he was a rude asshat and I happen to be grumpy today.

I'd say FrostedFlake's thank you response pretty much summed up my thoughts also.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
I can only echo what Mr Grumpypants said........except I am not grumpy.