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Bill41 -> Photo (4/29/2012 1:05:42 PM)
I just joined a few days ago. I'm a new sub anad have a question about putting a photo on this site. Many on the Dom's I read insist on real pictures. Is that for your account or if you contact them directly. I also noticed many people don't put their picture up. I just want to do the most appropriate thing. All comments, advice and snak welcome the Newbie of the day.

JanahX -> RE: Photo (4/29/2012 1:33:20 PM)
Just put up what you want to put out there to represent yourself and what kind of people you want to attract. If you dont feel comfortable in posting a facepic publicly, but yet someone asks for a pic of you - you can always decide to send them one through a private mail. Easy-peasy.

Baroana -> RE: Photo (4/29/2012 2:24:46 PM)
Would you put a photo of yourself in your profile if the dominants here told you to? Would you send me $100 if I told you to?

DarkSteven -> RE: Photo (4/29/2012 2:44:40 PM)
Well, since your profile already states you will be posting a pic soon, why are you asking? As politely as possible - you're 51 years old. Have you ever been involved with selling yourself - a job interview, a date? You have to SELL yourself. A silly pic of a tongue smiley ain't gonna do it. And the Dommes I've known prefer a man who can think for himself to a degree instead of asking basic questions.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Photo (4/29/2012 2:44:57 PM)
Welcome to the discussion side of CM. If you are new, all this can seem quite overwhelming. So take it slow and don't let strangers on the internet pull you past your comfort zone until you are ready. I have face pics posted, b/c I don't give a great gawd damn who knows I'm into kink. Note that none of my pics show me unclothed, although I do let on that I might have a teensy weensy bit of cleavage. So go with what you feel is right for you. You can always send someone a pic once you feel comfortable. Remember, if you post a pic on the net (this included your cam), you can't take it back. It's out there, forever, for who ever wants to use it.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Photo (4/29/2012 5:28:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven As politely as possible - you're 51 years old. Have you ever been involved with selling yourself - a job interview, a date? You have to SELL yourself. A silly pic of a tongue smiley ain't gonna do it. And the Dommes I've known prefer a man who can think for himself to a degree instead of asking basic questions. This. ^^^ If you don't want to put your face on your public profile, then send one in a private e-mail when you get to know them. There's nothing wrong with that. NBMG

lizi -> RE: Photo (4/29/2012 5:43:17 PM)
Well it's pretty much up to you. We don't know if you can risk being on a kink site or not or what reservations you may have which may indicate that pictures are not a great way for you to go. Having up pictures does get your profile more attention, it's a fact that those profiles with pictures get viewed more often so its a great way to present yourself in a better light if you can risk the exposure. If you can't do a profile picture then it's a good idea to include a picture with a message. I don't have up a picture on my profile because I'm not looking for anyone. I like having up an avatar for the forums though because it gives the people here something to go on.

Bill41 -> RE: Photo (4/29/2012 9:39:31 PM)
Thank you all for the comments and advice. my profile is a work in progess and your input has helped.

littleone35 -> RE: Photo (4/30/2012 8:34:07 AM)
With my job i can't pit a pics up i assistant teach pre-school and i am not sure if any of the parents happened actoss it they woyld want a sub teaching their little darlings. So i chose a rose. Before i belonged to Master if i was interested in a Dom and him me i do have a pic i could send. It ia bacially very easy. Matt's littleone

Bill41 -> RE: Photo (5/1/2012 6:41:04 AM)
thank you i have a similar situation. i want to attract people but wish this part of my life secret

LafayetteLady -> RE: Photo (5/1/2012 6:40:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bill41 thank you i have a similar situation. i want to attract people but wish this part of my life secret Then I would suggest you put in your profile that you are happy to exchange pictures with someone after there has been contact and some common interest established since this part of your life is not "public." Anyone that would be worth your time will understand that.

bamabbwsub -> RE: Photo (5/1/2012 6:50:12 PM)
quote: I do let on that I might have a teensy weensy bit of cleavage. Major understatement of the year, Madame Chatte. [8D] We now return you to your regularly scheduled blog...

LadyPact -> RE: Photo (5/1/2012 6:56:09 PM)
There's always the option of creativity. There are a number of shots that you can do without showing your face. This gives you the advantage of both. Continuing to keep your confidentiality, but still coming up when somebody hits that "view only profiles with pictures" box. Have a look through the forums. We have a few male submissives who have some excellent shots that should give you ideas on the subject. Of course, the standard hint. Wear clothes.

Bill41 -> RE: Photo (5/1/2012 9:27:06 PM)
Those are great ideas. i looked around and found a few photos i thinks might work. now i just need to get out the camera and see how they turn out. can't enjoy this adventure unless i participate.

Arturas -> RE: Photo (5/1/2012 10:39:23 PM)
quote: Of course, the standard hint. Wear clothes. What? Why? Will she be cold?

DarkSteven -> RE: Photo (5/2/2012 5:10:18 AM)
Suggestions: 1. Since you seem to value privacy, just take some pics of you and crop them to remove your face. 2. Take pics of you in different settings. One chopping wood/clearing brush, one playing tennis or jogging, one dressed professionally at your computer, one playing with your dog, etc. Show which environments you're comfortable in.

Bill41 -> RE: Photo (5/2/2012 6:18:37 AM)
those all sound good. thanks

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