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Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 10:26:48 AM

tsuta

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Long story short, since about a month i've under consideration by a guy i've known almost a year, (we started getting close about 2 months ago).
We didn't really do anything sexual yet (altho of course play can be pretty darn erotic). Except once, i was really horny after a scene and i asked if i could see and touch his dick and he did let me and i couldn't help myself, i gave it a lick but he stopped me. He told me he was sorry, but that his penis is really sensitive, to the point of stimulation hurting him (the tip. He's uncut. I've always -or almost - been with uncut guys before but it's the first time i encountered that. He says that when masturbating, he rub over his skin, never under).

He's been saying that with lubricant it becomes possible for him to touch his penis under the skin, so i suggested buying flavored lubricant, and he wants to do that, so that's great. (I really, really REALLY love giving oral, so the idea of not being able ever to give him oral was making me really sad)

What's this discussion about, then? Guys with sensitive penises, do you have any tip to give me? Girls who dealt with that, any tips? I mean of course there's the obvious.. like not sucking him really hard, going very softly and carefully... i can do that.. any specific tricks that work well with a sensitive penis?

also.. any advice on what He could do too? To become less hyper-sensitive i mean...is that possible?

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 10:29:58 AM

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So... he never has sex? Or what?

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 10:34:23 AM

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So... he never has sex? Or what?

I was wondering the same thing.

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 10:36:36 AM

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So... he never has sex? Or what?

he did have sex (i dunno, i suppose with condoms there's no problem? I'm not worried about intercourse tho, but oral sex...)
also he did get blowjobs but from what i understood they have been painful. It was in the time he was starting out and had a Mistress (he started out as a sub, even tho he was attracted by submissive women, he was too shy to explore on that side). Maybe she was on the rough side with her blowjobs and he let her since she was his Mistress... anyway yes he's had sex, he's not a virgin xD

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 10:38:13 AM

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(altho i wouldn't judge him if he was a virgin but he told me about previous sexual partners, vanilla as well as the Mistress)

edit: ah, cool, i'm not "vanilla" anymore. lol

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 10:49:18 AM

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I am intrigued. I also want to torture him. Having never had sex with an uncut guy, I have no solutions, but I will follow with interest.

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 1:10:26 PM

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I have only ever known one man with this sort of issue. What he told me he did about it was use a mix of desensitizing creams and tea tree oil (when he masterbated) I don't know if either would help when it comes to oral though as tea tree oil can cause allergic reactions in some peope (rare) and can be toxic in large amounts ( best to keep it outside of the body)

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 1:14:18 PM

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Is the tip of the penis akin to a mucous membrane? I don't know about the tea tree oil...

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 1:18:02 PM

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Hmmmmmm, I've never heard of anything like this. Are you sure that he's telling you the truth. There could be many other answers like:

A. He's married.
B. He has HIV or Herpes and is using "sensitive penis" as an excuse to avoid physical contact.
C. He masturbates too frequently and has rubbed himself raw.
D. He's just not that into you.

I don't mean to be snarky or insulting, but you should really consider other possibilities. I've never heard of a guy who had a penis that was so sensitive that it couldn't even withstand a quick lick. And as others have asked, what does he do for intercourse? Condoms wouldn't help a problem like his.

This one sounds suspect. More importantly, he might be more trouble than he's worth. Do you really want a relationship with a guy that you can't have sex with?

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 1:24:04 PM

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I think that if a woman can have a clitoris that is super sensitive and too much stimulation is painful then it goes to follow that some uncircumcised men could be the same way.

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 1:36:46 PM

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I think that if a woman can have a clitoris that is super sensitive and too much stimulation is painful then it goes to follow that some uncircumcised men could be the same way.

True, but a penis isn't quite the same as a clit. A penis sits in his pants and gets rubbed and jostled all day long simply by walking or sitting down. He has to grab it to take a piss. It gets erect all by itself sometimes (particularly when he sleeps), and he probably rolls over onto that erection at times during his sleep. It accidentally gets hit sometimes when you play sports. How does he deal with those situations?

I'm not saying that his condition is medically impossible. But I'd suspect that an adult male would have found a solution to his problem by now. There are products that can desensitize the skin, so I'd assume that his doctor has prescribed something for him.

If your vagina was too sensitive to accept a penis, and your labia and clit were too sensitive to receive even the slightest amounts of oral sex, wouldn't you find a way to work around that disability? Wouldn't you seek medical help? So I have a difficult time that an adult male hasn't found a solution besides "don't touch me".

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 2:06:44 PM

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Ask him to see a doctor?

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 2:15:09 PM

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quote:

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Hmmmmmm, I've never heard of anything like this. Are you sure that he's telling you the truth. There could be many other answers like:

A. He's married.
B. He has HIV or Herpes and is using "sensitive penis" as an excuse to avoid physical contact.
C. He masturbates too frequently and has rubbed himself raw.
D. He's just not that into you.

I don't mean to be snarky or insulting, but you should really consider other possibilities. I've never heard of a guy who had a penis that was so sensitive that it couldn't even withstand a quick lick. And as others have asked, what does he do for intercourse? Condoms wouldn't help a problem like his.

This one sounds suspect. More importantly, he might be more trouble than he's worth. Do you really want a relationship with a guy that you can't have sex with?

A. lol he's definately not married. I've been to his place, i slept there a couple of times. Definately a bachelor appartment :P
For the rest... From things he told me, he hasn't had a lot of sexual partners. Only takes one, i know, but just to keep things clear, i've known this guy for a while. I don't know *everything* about him but i know a good amount. He's a really good guy, with a good heart, he's the sweet guy next door type and i've known him for about a year, been friend with him for around 6 months and only recently we got closer. I dunno the frequency to which he masturbate but i doubt that's the reason.

And i didn't mention all of this before, but why would he ask me to be under his consideration, invite me to a dinner with friends, go to play parties with me as His sub, go to my choir concert (and meet my mother there), ask me to write him feedback each time we have scenes/Ds interractions, if he wasn't "that into me" ...?

No, really, there's no other possibilities than what he told me himself and i have really no reason not to trust him. ^^; but thanks anyway for the input

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 2:18:51 PM

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He needs to change his underwear more often, and 'dress' differently. By and large, the removal of the foreskin makes the glans less sensitive. He might try rubbing some sort of desensitizing creme on it, (not too vigourously of course).

And the glans is only a mucus membrane when it is being sucked pretty by the proper whore.

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 2:20:18 PM

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Oh forget it !! If he cant deal with having his cock touched - then Im thinking its something mental.

That or he has the worst case of fibromyalgia Ive ever heard of.

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 2:26:23 PM

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Well, there is that girl that can't swallow, maybe they should go out.

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 2:28:31 PM

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for the rubbing/jostling of the penis in pants... shrug. He doesn't wear boxers, but the "tight" kind of underwear, i guess that helps? And it's not the whole thing that's sensitive, just the head
when it's not protected by the foreskin. And i don't think it's really extreme (i mean he says with lube it's okay. And maybe he's not ALWAYS that sensitive, i didn't ask him that)

anyway... this thread is more about advices and tip on how to pleasure a guy with very sensitive bits...

(and ok, i guess eventually i could gently suggest to him to ask a doctor about it... but it's not like i think he has a medical condition. Everyone's different, right? Some people are ticklish, others aren't... he's very, very ticklish btw.. to an extent where it's really not fun for him to be tickled and i have to be careful when i caress his belly/waist. Maybe all his skin is more sensitive than the norm, who knows...)

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 2:57:22 PM

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I kind have to side with Roch Sub on this one, to a certain extent. Not saying he isn't into you, but I do find it hard to understand. If it is a case of super sensitive penis, well I don't have one of those. But I have heard that men can double up on condoms for that the sensitiveness goes away. If anything else, I would suggest him seeing a doctor or get to the true root of the problem. The STD statement has validity. I would look more into that as well. Hope this helps.

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 3:10:00 PM

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How about slip a razor blade quietly in your mouth while he's not looking and do a quick circumcision job for him? That ought to fix it!

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RE: Sensitive penis - 5/3/2012 3:27:50 PM

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And i don't think it's really extreme (i mean he says with lube it's okay. And maybe he's not ALWAYS that sensitive, i didn't ask him that)

but it's not like i think he has a medical condition. Everyone's different, right? Some people are ticklish, others aren't... he's very, very ticklish btw.. to an extent where it's really not fun for him to be tickled and i have to be careful when i caress his belly/waist. Maybe all his skin is more sensitive than the norm, who knows...)

I'm with TNDommeK and Roch Sub, but agree, we don't know the reasons.

Right, everyone's different. Wrong, this IS a medical condition (probably very treatable/manageable). Or as others suggested, it could be a variety of issues.

It could be a psychological issue. It's not absurd or out of the realm of possibilities that he's using his dom control to avoid having sex.

I think you should amp up the communication with him a bit. If you're both really becoming more serious, than he needs to be upfront with you about what he already knows and is holding back. Someone else alluded to that - he must have seen doctors already!

You seem like a very sweet wonderful person who's excited about this relationship, and I admire that (vicarious pleasures). So please don't take offense, when i say it in the strongest terms that I think your apparent lack of knowledge of his true circumstances is scary, and you're romanticizing it by filling in all the gaps in his "story". Forgive me for my daddy-side kicking in, but honey, I'm not very optimistic about your relationship with him.

But this can be a learning/growing experience that you need to go through regardless of what people tell you (you need to be able to fail on your own, daddy can't and shouldn't save you from that).

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