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Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 9:42:23 AM

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Ok I am just looking around and doms and dommes say they have farms of slaves and I'm just thinking one is enouph to love and care for right?

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 9:45:14 AM

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If you look at it from a logical point of view, how many Dom/Dommes have a stable full of slaves, not many. Mabey it's just something they write to make theirself appeal to slaves. Kind of like look at me, I own 10 slaves, so I can own you, lol, I'm not sure.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 9:46:48 AM

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Take it with a grain of salt.

Anyone using the term "farm" for their subs is most likely a wanker.

Many of the couples looking for a third will never find one.

One is indeed enough for monogamous people. Not everyone is monogamous.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 9:47:34 AM

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Way easier for a Domme with males than a Dom with females.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 10:05:26 AM

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 10:21:57 AM

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Well since poly is a HUGE turn off for me ... i am hoping 1 can be enough

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 10:33:07 AM

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A friend of Mine is a male Dom, he has three. They are all very happy and have been there for a good number of years. I have had two at once before. No one was hurting for attention or love. I, Myself wouldn't have more than two but it is doable. Poly isn't for everyone, but it works for some. So to answer the question, I think as many as the Dominant can handle and as long as everyone is happy.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 10:44:35 AM

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Depends!
Not every Dom/me looks for slaves to "love and are for". Not every slave looks for a Dom/me to BE loved and cared for.
A stable is a Dom/me's personal group of slaves. A farm is where a Dom/me (or several) train slaves then send them off in the world to serve other Dom/mes.
Some subs/slaves enjoy having to compete with other slaves/subs for their Dom/me's attentions.
Some Dom/mes have needs that require more than one slave/sub to complete (such as having a house too big for 1 person to maintain, or being a cuckqueen).
Some Dom/mes compartmentalise their expectations and feelings of each slave to specialised functions or roles.
And some people are polyamorous.

A number of Prodom/mes advertise having multiple slaves as part of their marketing because their clients respond well to it. It is a fetish way of saying they have regular returning clients, but also gives the suggestion that it is possible for the client to aspire to a more "personal" connection with the ProDom/me as part of his/her collection, which, as I understand, is an attractive fantasy.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 11:14:24 AM

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I know your question is in relation to BDSM, but just imagine if all parents only had one child?
Sure, it may sound perfect, especially if you are that one child, but there can be many more
benefits to being in a family where love is shared, as opposed to being the only one doted on.
Take it from someone with 8 brothers and sisters!

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 11:28:37 AM

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It's the internet, people can say outlandish things. I'd not believe everything you read. That being said there are some successful poly families/houses. I'd have to say the 'normal' ration seems to be 2:1 or a threesome, you don't see many dynamics that number more than that. I've heard of a couple foursomes, but I have never heard of more than that in real life.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 12:32:46 PM

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I think there are many differences. i am from a very large family whom i love greatly though perhaps its better for me to have something i can call my very own now.

Bottom line OP, poly works for some and doesn't work for others. If it isn't for you then just be honest and say that to potential mates. There are dominants who will prefer to only have one.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 1:51:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Youngmanbdsm

Ok I am just looking around and doms and dommes say they have farms of slaves and I'm just thinking one is enouph to love and care for right?

First, not all of us "love and care for" our slaves.

Two, for many of us, no, one isn't enough.

Three, for many of us, yes, one is enough but we're open to more.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 2:11:04 PM

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To each they own.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 2:31:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: Alecta

Depends!
Not every Dom/me looks for slaves to "love and are for". Not every slave looks for a Dom/me to BE loved and cared for.
A stable is a Dom/me's personal group of slaves. A farm is where a Dom/me (or several) train slaves then send them off in the world to serve other Dom/mes.
Some subs/slaves enjoy having to compete with other slaves/subs for their Dom/me's attentions.
Some Dom/mes have needs that require more than one slave/sub to complete (such as having a house too big for 1 person to maintain, or being a cuckqueen).
Some Dom/mes compartmentalise their expectations and feelings of each slave to specialised functions or roles.
And some people are polyamorous.

A number of Prodom/mes advertise having multiple slaves as part of their marketing because their clients respond well to it. It is a fetish way of saying they have regular returning clients, but also gives the suggestion that it is possible for the client to aspire to a more "personal" connection with the ProDom/me as part of his/her collection, which, as I understand, is an attractive fantasy.

thanks, this was very interesting and informative.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 8:18:02 PM

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Just for the record:
1 is never enough
2 still is not enough
3 times in a night is fun
4 times....now that is a good night!
5...okay for the fifth round in one nite I might need a Viagra, but hey I am 49....not a spring chicken anymore :)

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 8:27:20 PM

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I think Poly is a fad among male Doms right now. I keep hearing the same story over and over from subs, particularly subs in their 40's - I said I couldn't do Poly, and he said that's fine, then six months later he (1) told me he met a new girl and he wants her to move in with us or (2) he had another "slave" all along and lied to me about it. I think it goes along with the floods of wanker faux doms who think all it takes to be one is to tell women to drop to their knees and suck their cock.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 8:54:32 PM

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the best part about it .. is that they cant even take care/handle one, let alone two. - shit, most the time they cant even take care of themselves.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 8:57:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: Youngmanbdsm

Ok I am just looking around and doms and dommes say they have farms of slaves and I'm just thinking one is enouph to love and care for right?

I've done both, and am flexible to situations and people.

Love is what you give, not what you get, so by definition one would never be enough. That can be tackled at any level of love's definition you wish to take on - religious/spiritual or psychoanalytical. Now if you are talking about wanting one person to be exclusive to you, that's bonding and mating at an encoded genetic level, not love.

Care carries a similar context. Do you only care about one author? One car? One memory? Probably not. All things earn a level of attachment (or detachment) from us as they integrate into our existence.

I suspect you want a book I once read, about finding someone that wants no one but you, who captures you so deeply that no one else is worthy of your notice. This is a good dream (if you can't handle ideology, naysayers, you need to sleep deeper and find heavier dreams!) with the very important caveat that you understand that as an ideology it does not dictate reality. In fact, ideologies by definition defy reality. If you find it and want it, keep it! If you find it and lose it, learn from it! If you seek it and cannot find it, you are lonely, yes, and human, like the rest.

I am certainly human, even if I rarely feel like one.

One last note. If you don't like something, you're entitled, but if you condemn someone, you hand them the right to condemn you. As alien as something seems it is not necessarily wrong for people other than you.

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 9:47:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: poise

I know your question is in relation to BDSM, but just imagine if all parents only had one child?
Sure, it may sound perfect, especially if you are that one child, but there can be many more
benefits to being in a family where love is shared, as opposed to being the only one doted on.
Take it from someone with 8 brothers and sisters!

Sorry poise I dont equate who my family is (multiple people) and who i have sexual relationships with, at all equal or on the same level.

While I can love many people, I cannot have sex with more then one... And if my partner is having sex with more then one, Its the deepest betrayal he can lay on me. Having a child and having multiple partners is like comparing cats to dogs. While both are nice they are not equatable.

OP one is more than enough for most dominants, and if it isnt dont settle for someone who isnt compatible.

I know my limits, and my partner having another submissive or anyone else they are involved with in a sexual manner is a hard limit, they cross it they loose me... and end up with nothing but all their belongs on the street...

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RE: Is 1 Not enouph - 5/5/2012 10:40:27 PM

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Slaves are like Lays . . . "beat you can't eat just one".

I sincerely don't think poly is a new trend. If anything, I think being open about is the new trend.

As far as proclamations made about poly stables on the internet or in personal profiles, like the etchings back at the apartment, the check that is in the mail and promises not to cum in your mouth . . . that all that with a grain of salt.

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