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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/15/2012 1:21:20 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Jesus H ---Pam, you're gonna fuck around here and get us all caught.

It is not gonna be pretty.  Men are people too.

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/15/2012 1:26:22 AM   
gungadin09


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Jesus H ---Pam, you're gonna fuck around here and get us all caught.

It is not gonna be pretty.  Men are people too.


Oh, that's right. I'm attracted to your inner beauty, and all that.

Pam

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/15/2012 1:27:32 AM   
SpiritedRadiance


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

You can't write without mistakes and run on sentences.

You show face pictures of people who have not consented to being in a kinky site, which puts them at risk of being outed because of you. Come on kid, crop the damn picture and just show your own face.

All you talk about is online sex. I was irresistibly reminded of this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UE6iAjEv9dQ

Join a TNG group, take workshops, learn. Get relationship skills, communication skills. All the things you now lack.


Des I Love you I do, but why are you pawning off these Jackwagons on people like me?

OP Grow up Seriously, Your profile sounds like it was written by a teenager jacking off in their parents basement... Its extremely off putting and frankly it just makes me want to click the block button..

I prefer older dominants, because they offer things someone your age most likely cant.. Security. An older dominant tends to have their life on track tends to have a steady job, a place of their own. I want someone whos on the same level as me... Which is about 10 to 15 years a head of you.

I am young but ive never had an issue getting and older man to be interested in me, Mostly because i offer what they seek, a woman who knows what she wants with her life in order.

Start by getting your life in order, turn off the computer and get into the real world, Jersey, While it is Jersey, has a very active scene (by CM distance) your in mid Jersey, check out some of the events that are held that way (Floating world and the like are held in that area EVERY year)



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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/15/2012 1:28:45 AM   
mnottertail


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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/15/2012 1:49:17 AM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Did anyone else notice that the young, but mature "dom" didn't come back to respond to his own thread?

YES!!!!

Plus. the OP's profile is packed full of repeatedly misspelled words, whining and more whining. His journal entries are a lot of whining and feeling sorry for himself. If he can't control his own emotions and how he presents himself to the world, what makes him think a more mature woman would feel safe letting him control her?

Before he can expect to control anyone else, I think he has some growing up to do. And I'm NOT saying that because of age, because I know some young people who are incredibly mature for their age. I'm saying he needs to grow up because of his attitude.

Oh, and lastly, his OP says he's 24 and his profile says he's 23. Details are important also. He still needs to learn that too. I know I may sound harsh, but that's my Mean part coming out.

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/15/2012 7:00:03 AM   
kalikshama


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ORIGINAL: mysouldesire


Toshay! You got me there....explanation follows:
Experience, the way I used it, does not refer to play. BUT~ We all must learn somehow, someway on someone.
I was referring to life experience. If one has a profile similiar to the one the OP has (he's probably changed it by now), emailing and chat is gonna be like "speaking" with a tween not an adult.
Intelligent conversation, expression of needs, desires, etc...COMMUNICATION.... tells a LOT about an individual.

Now since you thought only of cyber crap, then good for you. I was under the impression one emails and chats for communication.



psst - sentences in small italics are REALLY hard to read.





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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/16/2012 5:05:48 AM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		"Way back when in 67
I was the dandy
Of Gamma Chi
Sweet things from Boston
So young and willing
Moved down to Scarsdale
And where the hell am I

Hey Nineteen
No we can't dance together
No we can't talk at all
Please take me along
When you slide on down

Hey Nineteen
That's 'Retha Franklin
She don't remember the Queen of Soul
It's hard times befallen
The sole survivors
She thinks I'm crazy
But I'm just growing old

Hey Nineteen
No we got nothing in common
No we can't talk at all
Please take me along
When you slide on down

The Cuervo Gold
The fine Colombian
Make tonight a wonderful thing
We can't dance together
No we can't talk at all"

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/16/2012 7:01:53 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		As an fyi, profiles here don't update age. 89 forever!

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/16/2012 12:26:21 PM   
caelestis


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Status: offline 		I definitely went through a phase where I preferred older dominants. Why? They didn't have to "present" themselves as anything, they just were. The men I got to know had experience, were more mature than men my age, and had the ability to calmly handle me while going through that initial stage of figuring out exactly what I liked. I have a sneaking suspicion a lot of situations would have taken a disastrous turn with someone who didn't have the life experience they did. Now...

Honestly, after reading your profile there are a few things that are off putting.

Your profile comes off as if you're flaunting how much of a Domly-Dom you can be. As if you're posturing. You talk solely about what you want to do to someone, but really don't have anything compelling about what you have to offer. The only thing that I read even close to that is you saying you can be affectionate, after saying how mean you can be. It reads as if all your experience is online.

You also don't mention anything at all about who you are outside of all the kink. First and foremost, these are relationships we're building, which means we usually have to like the person we're dealing with. For example; there are lots of people out there who partake in shibari, but the majority of them are not people I would enjoy the company with, so I'd not consent to letting them tie me up. People looking for long term relationships usually want the whole package, not just the things that are kink related.

Lastly... use spell check. People can say spelling doesn't matter all they like, but for people like me (and quite a few others from what I've seen) it shows a lack of caring to not spend the extra few minutes correcting things like "relly" and "effectionate" (it also seems very lazy).

Edited to add: "All Ive gotten in return are dozens of messages saying the same damn thing over and over again." Quoted from your journal. Ever think that the common factor in this is you?

< Message edited by caelestis -- 5/16/2012 12:27:59 PM >

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/16/2012 2:34:16 PM   
kittycake


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Status: offline 		I'm 23 (almost 24), and I admit, I've never been interested in people my age or younger, even if it's only by a year. I tend to prefer 3-10 years older than me, since that seems to be where the maturity level and interest level matches up best. It's not that I never would go for someone by own age if they were the right person, but it would be a lot harder for me to initially see them as a potential match.

Everyone has what they like. Some like younger, some like older, some like anything with the same decade, and some prefer very close in age or very far in age. Don't get down about the people you don't match up with; just keep looking.

Although, like others have said, putting so many years of experience where the math makes you a minor during some of that experience is highly offputting.

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/22/2012 6:28:19 PM   
girl91


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Status: offline 		Im going to answer even tho Im not a "Mature Sub".

While I will talk to anyone, I wont consider play, or a relationship for anyone younger that 35, its just what I like and have always like, I also have a cutoff age. I know Im cutting of a lot of people, but maybe it will change one day and maybe it wont.

When I read that you have 8 year experince, I think he must of watched a lot of BDSM porn when he was younger.

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/23/2012 6:58:27 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Ya, if I were willing to date back from when my sister and the girl next door tied me up and threw me in the closet, I could count 31 years of "experience."

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/23/2012 8:35:08 AM   
angelikaJ


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The fact that the OP has so many typos in his profile makes it hard to take him seriously.
It does not take a rocket scientist to use a spell checker...but he doesn't even have complete words written.
If you don't want to be seem as incompetent then at least try and put together a sentence that contains correctly spelled words in their entirety.

AlSO

That he really isn't that patient.
When you are younger a year seems like a long time but those of us have been here awhile know that it can take awhile to find the right match and develop a quality relationship.
Submissive women do not grow on trees and we aren't found at the sub-depot.

Perhaps going to the TNG groups in your area will give you a chance to meet others.

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/23/2012 6:49:32 PM   
Endivius


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Status: offline 		The key thing here, that no one has bothered to mention, is that you have no idea how to lead. I have yet to meet a single woman who was attracted to whiny, insecure, illiterates. Work on your presentation, and your results will change. It really is that simple.

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/23/2012 6:59:47 PM   
gungadin09


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Status: offline 		Oh, I wish to hell that people would let the spelling thing go. (The insecure, whiney thing... well, you might have a point.)

Pam

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/23/2012 7:18:31 PM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		Pam,

For me communicating effectively, means using real complete words.

I think spelling is a big deal simply because there are easy fixes and to not use them is just lazy.

Effective communication is a part of mastery.

I understand that it may not be a big deal to some people, but when someone is wondering why they might not be taken seriously as a dominant partner over someone else whose profile is readable... I think starting with basics can help.



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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/23/2012 7:26:01 PM   
gungadin09


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Status: offline 		I guess there's no accounting for taste. The spelling thing doesn't bother me so much. I know a lot of bad spellers with big hearts. I'll take big heart over spelling any day.

Pam

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/23/2012 7:43:46 PM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		My dad was a terrible speller.
My step-mom always proofed his papers for him when he was in school getting his MBA.

My Master is not a great speller (and has a great heart) but words are important to him and he uses spell check even when sending me a simple 2 sentence email.

Big hearts do matter to me, but if people want to know why their profiles are being ignored, fixing them with a simple spell checking program can sometimes make a difference.

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RE: For Mature Submissive Females - 5/23/2012 7:59:32 PM   
gungadin09


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Status: offline 		Fair enough.

Pam

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