I'm curious do some of you have a sort of button that's just flipped back and forth at whim?
Partly asked out of humor but as I was about to laugh alone the idea struck me that maybe some can just turn on or off or top or bottom. Or perhaps the significant other flips it for them?
Some people identify as switch because they have made a net-shift in their orientation. Others are more fluid, but take time. That is, most switches I know feel dominant or submissive for a night, a few days or so at a time. I identify as a switch because I can serve as a service top. I will "dominate" when told to. And do it damn well. But that means I can look up, and be a submissive to my owner. Then look down, and be dominant to my play thing. So in the time it takes to turn my head, I've switched.
Left to my own devices, I need to find outlets for my submission and my dominance. If one goes unattended for too long, say 4-8 months, I go on a streak to satiate the need.