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Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 6:27:22 AM   
delightedbyyou


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Status: offline 		I recently found a profile for a Dominant Woman, who is less than two hours away and has a profile that reads like every thought I've ever had about this lifestyle. I have sent an email introducing myself and I went into some detail about what parts of her profile caught my attention. I feel that it was an honest, respectful approach. I ended by thanking her for reading my mail and asked her to please feel free to contact me if she had any questions or wished to see any pictures.

My question is, if I do not receive a response, would it be polite and acceptable to send a follow-up after a reasonable amount of time? While her profile did not say "No contact without pictures," I am concerned that perhaps I should have just included one.

It has not even been a few hours since I mailed, but I have never been SO enthralled or felt such a connection to another profile before. So I thought I would take this opportunity to ask here, if a follow up would be polite and if so, after how much time?

Thank you SO much for any help.
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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 6:31:34 AM   
SadisticMs2


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Status: offline 		Wait a week. Then a short email saying you would like to speak further is fine. If she doesn't respond at that point, her response is "thanks but no thanks" and you move on.

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 6:49:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		If she said 'no response without a picture' and you didnt send one, she might not even read the email. It's a following directions screening tool.

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 7:22:06 AM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: delightedbyyou

It has not even been a few hours since I mailed



Just be patient. Believe it or not, she may have a real life. She probably has a job, home, and family responsibilities. So she isn't likely to stay logged onto CollarMe 24/7. So give her time to log on and read your message.

Personally, it isn't uncommon for me to go a week or two without logging on. So give her time. Be patient. After a week or two, you might want to write her a brief reminder note. But if she still doesn't respond, just move on. As you hear so often here on CM, "No response is a response".


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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 8:12:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

If she said 'no response without a picture' and you didnt send one, she might not even read the email. It's a following directions screening tool.



Ahhhhhhhhyup!

Kind of a, one strike and you're out, thing.

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 8:57:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Honey... have I got the book for you! You are going to be so fucking in lust with me, you are going to want to finance the rest of my life so I can save the money I make on the book! I won't even need a picture... I've got other plans for you!

Seriously, its been a couple of hours and you are going nuts about it... get prepared for the loony bin because you didn't do the one thing this awesome dominant demanded... you're wait will be long and torturous.

Not going by instructions on a profile and then instructing her to contact you if she has any questions or wants a picture she already asked for... now that's a move that will create marriages made in bdsm heaven!

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 9:00:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

If she said 'no response without a picture' and you didnt send one, she might not even read the email. It's a following directions screening tool.


Nope. He said that her profile DID NOT say "No response without a picture", but he's rethinking everything and wishing he'd set one.

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 9:04:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

If she said 'no response without a picture' and you didnt send one, she might not even read the email. It's a following directions screening tool.


Nope. He said that her profile DID NOT say "No response without a picture", but he's rethinking everything and wishing he'd set one.


Damn... I guess I need coffee and new glasses! Still... impatience and hunger are a dangerous mix when expecting a domina to respond within a time frame you expect and already planning future possible harassment of a busy woman in demand... is quite the thing! Impressive, totally.

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 9:07:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'd say give it a week after shes read your mail, then maybe a short note
Be careful not to come over as desperate, desperate is not attractive

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 9:27:18 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 11:49:56 AM   
LittleMsMary


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Status: offline 		Similar to what other people on the thread have said, wait a week and write a short followup note and be careful of that fine line between enthusiastic and desperate. Best of luck :)

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 12:21:14 PM   
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Really? A week and then send another one?

What exactly is the second one going to do to persuade her that the first one didn't, people?

We say 'no response *is* a response' rather a lot round here. Why are y'all disregarding that now?

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 1:21:24 PM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		I can't agree with the others here. If you don't get a response don't go harassing this woman with another note. If you don't hear back, she isn't interested and another note is rude.

"I ended by thanking her for reading my mail and asked her to please feel free to contact me if she had any questions or wished to see any pictures." The ball is in her court, don't be desperate and annoying.

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 2:31:52 PM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

Really? A week and then send another one?



One step at a time, VC. Remember, he was going to send her another one less than an hour after sending his first message. So if we can get him to wait a week, that's significant progress.

In time, he'll develop the patience to avoid sending another message altogether. But he's probably not there yet.

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 2:36:14 PM   
VaguelyCurious


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

So if we can get him to wait a week, that's significant progress.

You've made me smile (:p) but I'm afraid I'm unconvinced.

'Respecting commonsense boundaries' vs 'not respecting commonsense boundaries' is kind of a binary thing.

Just put me with RumpusParable in the grouchy 'give the poor woman some space' corner. ;-)

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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 2:42:40 PM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

Just put me with RumpusParable in the grouchy 'give the poor woman some space' corner.



Stop being a grouch!






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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 2:43:59 PM   
VaguelyCurious


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Being a grouch is FUN.



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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 2:45:37 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Two threads within the same week on this topic.  Is it really this hard to convince people that if there was no response, that's not a cue to keep sending more messages?

You guys aren't bill collectors.


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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 3:05:29 PM   
seekingOwnertoo


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Status: offline 		When the first one doesn't work ... the second is a sure fire loss! Tried the wait a week a couple times ... total failure.

Interestingly enough, what HAS worked ... is writing a couple months later (if she is still on) ... and writing as if you have never written before ...

For some reason ... this has been successful at times




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RE: Is a follow up email appropriate. - 5/16/2012 3:07:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo

When the first one doesn't work ... the second is a sure fire loss! Tried the wait a week a couple times ... total failure.

Interestingly enough, what HAS worked ... is writing a couple months later (if she is still on) ... and writing as if you have never written before ...

For some reason ... this has been successful at times





I assume a number of us just may thank you for that bit of advice! (Insert unfavorable... name calling here!)

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