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Yorkhumiliaition -> Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 8:09:28 AM)

Has anyone else noticed a recent tendency for people to write exceedingly lengthy profiles? Working on an iPad I find the entire screen taken up with densely packed te5.

My own effort perhaps lies at the opposite end of the spectrum.

I wonder what the optimum length should be,

John



poise -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 8:31:56 AM)

I've not noticed a trend, but I wouldn't say a specific word count is necessary.
Some can reel you in with just a paragraph, and some can write and write,
and then write again, and still leave you with a hunger for more.



lizi -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 8:44:02 AM)

I'd say the optimum for profile text would be to let people have a glimpse of yourself, which isn't necessarily kink or sex, says what you are looking for in a partner (long term, short, casual, poly, etc), if you are married or involved, and what you enjoy in life. I don't tend to like long profiles either but if I don't see enough in the main areas then I lose interest and move onto the next one. Worse than the long profiles are the empty ones or the ones that have barely anything in them like "Hit me up." Or "Ask me anything."



Soyokaze -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 8:45:39 AM)

I haven't noticed there being more lengthy ones recently. I think the right length is as much as someone feels comfortable saying about themselves.



DarkSteven -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 9:03:01 AM)

Depends on the content. If someone writes a profile that is long but holds my attention and tells about the person, that's one thing. A profile that contains a fantasy, especially a badly written one, and long lists of weirdness, or someone that says four times how he/she doesn't like fakes, etc., just turns me off.



littlecherie -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 9:10:34 AM)

Mine is copied and pasted from FL. *shrug*



nighthawk3569 -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 9:15:26 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Yorkhumiliaition

Has anyone else noticed a recent tendency for people to write exceedingly lengthy profiles? Working on an iPad I find the entire screen taken up with densely packed te5.

My own effort perhaps lies at the opposite end of the spectrum.

I wonder what the optimum length should be,

John



Get yourself a computer, with a large moniter. iPads, while nice, are not the 'be all/end all' method.

'hawk



MyFingerSlipped -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 9:24:03 AM)

I don't think it's so much the length, but what is said. If the information is redundant, useless, then it probably is too long. However, if the content is actually worth reading then there's nothing wrong with how long it is. I admit, the more someone writes, the easier it is to write to them and say something that's of substance that can actually relate to what they put out, and almost always merits a response back from them.

Obviously at both ends of the spectrum people can go overboard, with having too little, or too much information, such as information that can be revealed during the conversation, but there certainly ought to be enough to want to spark an interest and actually give something worth responding to.



poise -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 9:34:39 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
A profile that contains long lists of weirdness, just turns me off.

Oooops. Pardon!
*carefully edits her profile*



Kaliko -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 10:24:03 AM)

My profile is long. And my journal entry is long. And once one gets to know me, my emails are long. Best for someone to know right up front that I'm a wordy little thing. Writing is how I communicate best (in my opinion) and so, someone who doesn't like to see such length in writing is not a good match for me. It's a system of selection, and it works well.



TNDommeK -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 10:29:30 AM)

Noooooo Poise, weird is good.

OP, My profile is very long, as I have two sections in Mine, and then I have a list of things I'm into after all that. But hopefully I hope people's attention. And if not, the "next profile" button is the best option.



stellauk -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 10:40:11 AM)

There isn't an optimum length, and why should there be? Let's face it, you're only ever going to hear from a small minority of the people who come into contact with your profile and you're only going to be interested in a small minority of those people who send you messages.

The thing is everyone is an individual, and so is everyone else and we all have our individual preferences, likes, dislikes and stuff that can potentially make us throw a wobbly.

Length of profile to me isn't as important as personal integrity, a grip on reality, and what is appropriate to stick in front of a camera. In the 'Who's Viewing Me' part I've become accustomed to the Armitage Shanks phases..

An Armitage Shanks phase is when you get a few hairy arses together perhaps with a pair of saggy tits or a donger and you begin to wonder whether someone's intermittently beaming you still images from CCTV installed in the local public toilets.

It's not so much the zits on the butt cheeks I find objectionable - I mean few people check their butt cheeks for blackheads probably because there's the outside chance of finding one, and then there's the problem of squeezing it (imagine trying to squeeze one situated at two o'clock from the crack) but I don't think people realize with these high definition digital cameras that zits and blackheads can be visible on the surface of butt cheeks.

It's like with everything else, you go with your gut feeling and this to me is basically what should determine the length of your profile.



Lockit -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 10:53:06 AM)

My long profile works for me. It saves me time. It saves me the hassle of massive amounts of emails. It does give enough information to give someone an idea on whether they really want to talk to me or not. People do read. Some... mostly people that would actually like me, like my profile. If they don't like what they see or if it is to long for them... they sure aren't going to like me! Win, win. They win in knowing they wouldn't like me and I win in not having to deal with them. I would rather find that out before we spend time on emails finding out what we could know in the reading of a profile.

Someone once said my profile should be compared to the size of the book 'War and Peace'. I laughed. He didn't appreciate it. Yeah? And? I should change what works for me because you can't read a profile in a couple of minutes making it worth the effort to try to get a quick hook up of online play, cam action... or a sleep over? No thanks... I am letting people know I am serious about important things to me and they should be as well if they wish to know me.



ResidentSadist -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 11:34:08 AM)

Profile writing is an art. If you can convey 3 things in the first paragraph, a sense of who you are, what you offer a relationship and what you are looking for, then it doesn't matter how long your profile is after that. Those that are interested will want to read on. Those that aren't will bounce. No time wasted and you respected the reader by delivering the important stuff up front.

The worst thing you can do is waste time and words telling someone what you don't want. There are a million things you don't want. Listing them is a waste of words and most readers with a good sense of awareness see all that negative crap as a big red flag.

The worst profile is a lengthy one that puts the exclusions and important stuff at the end. Things like no TPE, I wear diapers 24/7, age or gender limits.



RemoteUser -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 12:14:29 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: poise


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
A profile that contains long lists of weirdness, just turns me off.

Oooops. Pardon!
*carefully edits her profile*


*swats at poise's closest buttock*

Well it does say, 'Best of fuck in your search', m'dear.



RemoteUser -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 12:18:36 PM)

Addressing the OP:

You could always write your own app and market it for your efforts. [:)]

I've been approached to write a few apps, but if it's something I won't use, I'm disinclined to do so.

I personally write like I fuck - until I'm done. If the audience doesn't get off, I'm not all that concerned.



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 1:09:16 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlecherie

Mine is copied and pasted from FL. *shrug*

Mine is too, but I'm thinking about rewriting it. It's kind of lengthy, but it's all stuff I want to say.

NBMG



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 1:45:42 PM)

I'm with TNDommeK on Weird being Good.
Both Long and short profiles have caught my attention.

Long profiles which are not broken down into easy to read
paragraphs annoy the hell out of me.

I'm also wanting to know about their sex and kink interest(s),
along with other things about them.

Profiles which are long winded hateful bitch rants, tend to
annoy me too. Depends upon how it's been wrote.

I can deal with down and dirty smutty conversation first followed
by more intelligent in depth conversation later... or... vice versa.

What's important to me, is that the other person is able to
talk about anything and everything. Regardless of what
order it's in.





Kaliko -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 2:03:58 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist


The worst profile is a lengthy one that puts the exclusions and important stuff at the end. Things like no TPE, I wear diapers 24/7, age or gender limits.



That's the best kind. That immediately tells me that they didn't ready my profile, even if they tell me they did. Or that they don't care about my preferences.



Aswad -> RE: Lengthy profiles (5/20/2012 2:13:29 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kaliko

It's a system of selection, and it works well.


Indeed.

I wish more people would write lengthier profiles. And not just to let me know whether or not they're interesting. It's hard to make yourself stand out against the mass of faceless strangers when you don't have anything to work with. As you say, it's selection. For instance, including a comment to the effect of "include XYZ in your first message" in the middle of a long profile text would go a long way toward excluding all the people that are mass mailing everyone with the right gender without even reading the profiles to figure out whether the person is the right one.

I've occasionally found people I'd like to get to know better, maybe even try something with, and it's pretty rare to get any replies.

Of course, there's also not a whole lot of people on here that are close enough to where I live for it to make sense to contact them in the first place, given my requirements.

IWYW,
- Aswad.




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