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RE: What is good humiliation to you? - 6/6/2006 5:03:20 PM

txpet

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::GLOW::
Thank You for telling me!
i am glad that i was able to say something that may have helped.

i do want and enjoy a very large range of things but my primary goal is that i do everything i can FOR Master.
i don't see it quite the same as Your submissive does as my primary goal is not to have Him pleased with me but more that my primary goal is that i make His life as easy as possible.

i apologize for rambling and drifting from the subject.

Thank You for Your response!
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RE: What is good humiliation to you? - 6/6/2006 5:10:56 PM

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i don't see it quite the same as Your submissive does as my primary goal is not to have Him pleased with me but more that my primary goal is that i make His life as easy as possible.

That is the great thing about this lifestyle..and life in general. There is something and someone for everybody.

Much happiness to you and yours.

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RE: What is good humiliation to you? - 6/6/2006 5:13:32 PM

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i have another suggestion, there are some sites like BDSMlibrary.com that have a variety of more extreme BDSM fictions, they might be good locations for her to read and then have her tell you which stories she most enjoyed.

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RE: What is good humiliation to you? - 6/6/2006 6:00:05 PM

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Yes
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Thank You ... and to You and Yours!

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RE: What is good humiliation to you? - 6/6/2006 8:42:50 PM

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For me, the best humilation is when it gets raw enough to make me forget he's the man who loves me...in those moments, he is simply evil and I love it

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RE: What is good humiliation to you? - 6/7/2006 11:13:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: timeoutgurlie

For me, the best humilation is when it gets raw enough to make me forget he's the man who loves me...in those moments, he is simply evil and I love it

Thank you very much for your insight, it was very helpful.

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RE: What is good humiliation to you? - 6/7/2006 11:16:52 AM

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RE: What is good humiliation to you? - 6/7/2006 11:45:48 AM

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Most welcome

I've been trying to think of specifics that would be guaranteed to work with your girl, but as everyone always says to everything; it's different and unique for each of us.

Not very helpful now, is it

lol

Try and think of things she enjoys, but is too embarassed or scared to try. Like, if she may fantasize about having sex in the glass elevator of the building she works in, go pick her up at work some time and in the elevator tell her to take off her bra or panties. If she won't, or does it very slowly trying to be discreet, remind her how no matter what she tries people are watching and thinking she's such a whore, so trashy, etc.

That example may be too tame for you & yours for all I know, but it definitely humiliated the hell out of me. He said other things as well, but I can't post those ont he internet

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RE: What is good humiliation to you? - 6/9/2006 5:47:01 AM

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Hi Morpheus07,

A couple of thoughts:

First, as a switch who started out as a sub who thought he could only be humiliated and was mortified or at least not turned on at the idea of humiliating someone else I can relate to your reticence. Experience has taught me otherwise, however, though I still have quite a ways to go, but I have faith that you'll get there as well. And as you've seen by some of your experiences, though, she IS loving a lot of it.

It's good that you enjoy the puzzle of figuring it out as I would find her not wanting to tell me rather frustrating and perhaps even a bit dangerous given the land mines that are possible with mental play and humiliation. Still, it sounds good that you are both enjoying the game and that she has a high amount of confidence that you won't stumble upon any place that would really upset her.

I agree with everyone else here that activities can be tricky and tend to be very person specific and what leaves one flat will work wonderfully or horribly for the next two people that it is used on. For instance, public humiliation mortifies me and leaves me with a coldness inside however private and maybe even discreet public humiliation where just the parties involved know works quite well.

As some others have alluded, things that she already likes or loves to do that can still be quite humiliating. You can make it humiliating just by sometimes teasing her about it, or making her explicitly ask or beg or do tricks or work for it instead of just giving it to her. And I agree with the person(s) earlier who said that making her tell you some of what humiliates her, or even just what turns her on, could be a humiliating exercise in itself and may help you in your quest as well.

Another resource you might want to check out is erotichumiliation.com, a free site mainly consisting of forums.

Hope this helps, good luck, and have fun. Um, you know, making her post about some of her experiences might also be a good technique.

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RE: What is good humiliation to you? - 6/9/2006 9:43:41 AM

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What humiliates you in just the right way to drive you over the edge with lust, desire, submission or passion???

i will have to agree with others that humiliation is different for each person. Sadly, answering the specified question above would humiliate me in a way that i do not wish to be in front of others, so i will not answer your question directly. However, i think more of what you are referring to is how can you humliate her without causing harm and still arousing her. What a difficult question. The only one who can answer it is her. She may not even know what exactly it is that turns her on about this. i know i did not until recently and it keeps expanding. i'm also still discovering what things turn me on, and what things turn me off and hurt me. It can also depend on the timing of events. For instance, if she becomes pregnant, calling her fat might have a different reaction from normal. Humiliation can be considered a form of edge play and i implore you to tread lightly. If you do not have very good communication, it could end up very badly. Good humliation is humiliation that turns her on and does not hurt her. Bad humiliation would have the opposite effect. You can try asking her to write a story or have her search for stories and if she finds one she likes, she can show it to you. This will help her to get over her shyness. i hope this helps. Have a nice day :).

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