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RE: Writ in blood...BDSM contracts - 6/18/2012 9:46:03 AM

littlewonder

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A contract would be rather short for us.....

me: serve, please and obey
him: be dominant

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RE: Writ in blood...BDSM contracts - 6/18/2012 2:19:48 PM

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Be dominate, be dominate!!! ME DOMINANT YU!!! That would be my part of a contract.

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RE: Writ in blood...BDSM contracts - 6/21/2012 7:49:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

A contract would be rather short for us.....

me: serve, please and obey
him: be dominant

And suck. Don't forget suck :-p

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RE: Writ in blood...BDSM contracts - 6/21/2012 8:04:10 AM

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What is your opinion on contracts between Master & submissive? I had one proposed to me that read like a business contract of a multi-national aquisition!

My opinion varies depending on when it is presented in the relationship. For example, if someone who barely knew me handed me one I'd laugh as I have no interest in a man who thinks women are fungible.

Some of the examples given above, however, seem perfectly reasonable.

You said "fungible". ONE OF MY FAVOURITEST WORDS EVAR!!

I like the idea *behind* a contract, in that writing a contract requires a lot of thought, and give and take (eep! a dom *compromise*?) and might take you down roads not thought of.

That said, what is the nature of the relationship? If this is the person I intend to wake up next to, I want to be *closer* to that person, not further away. For me, a written down "this is our intent" would create distance, and the even the faintest chance of "YOU SAID YOU WOULD" is something I want to avoid. If it's a servant, then yes, I do want some kind of codification of what the servant is going to do for me, and how, because anyone can be a servant, and I don't see that as a personal thing.

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RE: Writ in blood...BDSM contracts - 6/21/2012 8:43:30 AM

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OK, first of all, you SUCK in your title choice. I thought we were going to get all happy with a blood play thread.

Contracts? Hey, if they make you happy, go for it. Some people like that official feel. If it's getting you wet or him hard, I say, have a party!

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RE: Writ in blood...BDSM contracts - 6/21/2012 9:31:59 AM

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I said when I read this what is this Dom protecting theirself from? I have seen subs of Domme friends that have SAID this is what I want to be pushed to do but when pushed zapped all the way out and called police etc. I understand asimple contract but it sounds as tho this one locks you in even if you decide its no longer working.

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RE: Writ in blood...BDSM contracts - 6/21/2012 1:25:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: Endivius

Be dominate, be dominate!!! ME DOMINANT YU!!! That would be my part of a contract.

Coffee, meet monitor.

Have I told you I hate you, yet lust you, Endivius!

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RE: Writ in blood...BDSM contracts - 6/21/2012 1:57:26 PM

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It's a trope, it's a tool. If a contract makes you feel like everything is "official", and that improves the quality of your relationship, good, go for it. I do not think it has any intrinsic power however. It's like any other form of ritual.

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RE: Writ in blood...BDSM contracts - 6/21/2012 7:35:48 PM

Endivius

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ORIGINAL: BurntKitty

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ORIGINAL: Endivius

Be dominate, be dominate!!! ME DOMINANT YU!!! That would be my part of a contract.

Coffee, meet monitor.

Have I told you I hate you, yet lust you, Endivius!

It must be the hair.

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RE: Writ in blood...BDSM contracts - 6/22/2012 3:41:08 AM

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What matters I clarity of expectations between a slave and a master.

If a contract is needed to offer both slides clarity then fine, personally I dont use them as find it easier to just explain things an guide the slave rather than write it down

Relationships develop from the start and grow, written contracts don't

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RE: Writ in blood...BDSM contracts - 6/26/2012 2:40:09 PM

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I would say its a lovely idea but doesnt always work out. Are you going to take legal action if the person pulls out or does not keep up their end of the bargain?

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