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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 6/30/2012 5:48:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Zorro91

I'm have had slaves in real life and online but they were always friends first then slaves.

Dude, don't try to fix what isn't broken. Friends first is an excellent start. You've got this so don't start over-thinking it now. Evolution not revolution. K?

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/10/2012 10:37:24 PM   
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Hi , sorry for miss spelling i am European but hightly educated , rule number 1 , treat you sub like a princess that they are and try to give the best that you have .

The 90% of submissive women are hightly educated , that choice bdsm because like it and want explore their submissve side , mostly of submissive women are very powerfull in their life jobs and economy and they want power exchange . Macho men attitude or super man is not working in this ... Just try to be yourself and treat a lady like a queen and she will start thinking about you ....

They just looking for a normal men that can go out to a nice restaurant and have a wonderfull time . If they fell or smell that you just used bdsm tactic to just have sex etc ...you are done my friend because the true submissive ladies are not looking for that ....




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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/11/2012 4:26:03 AM   
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Zorro,
Seems many have come out with a lot of good advice and suggestions that will take you far, ie get out and involved in local Scene, be yourself, make friends etc. I do not think you lack in confidence or the concept of thinking yourself as Dom would not have arose.

If I have only one piece of advice for you is to actually think what a huge and potentially risky situation you are asking a new sub to take in you and then "To Thine Own Self Be True".

You are pretty sharp so I do not have to go into all the ways some bumbling fool or predator or pretender/player could completely destroy their lives.... then look back at that same new sub and you have an understanding of what is in their eyes, what they may be thinking and concerned about, Knowing that it is her Life and Soul she is placing in your Trust not simply her body. She is much less impressed with your looks or tone of voice and much more alert to your confidence and air of, Being Trustworthy.

Here, more than anywhere else in real life Your words and actions define you. Being worthy of the Trust, Being consistent and truthful always... and holding Them to the same, Being willing to be stern and domineering and at the same time alert and caring and yes sensitive to their Needs. I guess what I am saying is Be Responsible for yourself, Confidant that You can be in Control of that responsibility at all times, and project that.

Players will always come across false and Subs have a keen sense for bullshit.

Even if you do everything right, some will still bolt. Remember what they are laying on the line, the bravery it took for them to even get this far before bolting and I think you will begin to see the balancing act you are taking on. The reward is more than worth the effort.

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/11/2012 7:22:35 AM   
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Calling yourself a Dominant doesn't mean you now possess some incredible magnetic field that pulls all the subs/slaves to your feet.

And much to my dismay, I've also learned it doesn't force all the subs to play parcheesi with you either.

More seriously. OP, if you're really looking to get into this then here's the deal. There are no short cuts. There ain't no such thing as easy money. I have no knowledge of what would attract a random sub at some play party for a bit of fun. But in the relationship sense, it's pretty much the same things as always. They are looking for a man of character, confidence, and capability.

Carol obeys me not because I'm so freaking dominant that I shoot lightning from my eyes. She obeys me because she respects and trusts me so much and feels I give her so much that giving me herself back in return seems like a sensible thing to do. No hypnosis, no tricks, no nada except myself and my honor and my love/caring for her.

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/11/2012 9:19:40 AM   
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I'm so freaking dominant that I shoot lightning from my eyes.

Just from your eyes? You are surely being modest.






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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/11/2012 11:32:34 AM   
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Poise, you rock!!

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/11/2012 7:40:01 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: poise


quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC
I'm so freaking dominant that I shoot lightning from my eyes.

Just from your eyes? You are surely being modest.







I think it's a tad out of context but FUNNNYY,
Im certain that quote wont come back to haunt
you Jeff, muhaha

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/11/2012 7:46:10 PM   
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treat you sub like a princess that they are and try to give the best that you have .


For me that would be the worst thing for Master to do to me. It's the last thing I want from him.


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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/12/2012 7:52:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ARIES83
Im certain that quote wont come back to haunt you Jeff, muhaha

Oh, I suspect the photos of me in Carol's red g-string panties probably come back to haunt me more.


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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/12/2012 11:32:39 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: deeplove

Hi , sorry for miss spelling i am European but hightly educated , rule number 1 , treat you sub like a princess that they are and try to give the best that you have .

The 90% of submissive women are hightly educated , that choice bdsm because like it and want explore their submissve side , mostly of submissive women are very powerfull in their life jobs and economy and they want power exchange . Macho men attitude or super man is not working in this ... Just try to be yourself and treat a lady like a queen and she will start thinking about you ....

They just looking for a normal men that can go out to a nice restaurant and have a wonderfull time . If they fell or smell that you just used bdsm tactic to just have sex etc ...you are done my friend because the true submissive ladies are not looking for that ....

Ugh...no thanks. I can't be the only s-type that hates the very idea. Unless it means frequent beatings and time on my knees.

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/12/2012 11:45:50 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: deeplove

Hi , sorry for miss spelling i am European but hightly educated , rule number 1 , treat you sub like a princess that they are and try to give the best that you have .
While some might enjoy being a pampered sex toy, you will find that most of us don't wish to be treated like that.



quote:

The 90% of submissive women are hightly educated
Wrong. DBSM D/s is a slice of society. The women here are no more educated than the general public.

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that choice bdsm because like it and want explore their submissve side , mostly of submissive women are very powerfull in their life jobs and economy and they want power exchange .
Incorrect again. BDSM D/s is a slice of society. That means that most of us are middle class with middle income jobs.

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Macho men attitude or super man is not working in this
O yeah, something I'll agree with. Arrogance and being domineering is not being dominant.

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Just try to be yourself and treat a lady like a queen and she will start thinking about you ....
Incorrect unless you're a male sub with a female Domme. Treat me with respect, integrity and honesty......then I'll start thinking about him.

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They just looking for a normal men that can go out to a nice restaurant and have a wonderfull time
I think pretty much everyone on either side of the kneel appreciates having a partner that they can take out in public and not be embarrassed.

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If they fell or smell that you just used bdsm tactic to just have sex etc ...you are done my friend
Yeah, except for all the people that fall for it or are actually looking to just have sex.

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because the true submissive ladies are not looking for that ....
Define TRUE SUBMISSIVE.


< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 7/12/2012 11:46:21 AM >


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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/12/2012 7:41:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

quote:

ORIGINAL: ARIES83
Im certain that quote wont come back to haunt you Jeff, muhaha

Oh, I suspect the photos of me in Carol's red g-string panties probably come back to haunt me more.




ohhh....now that's just way too tempting!!! I wanna see pics!!

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/12/2012 7:45:13 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Zorro91

Thats fine by me homie.The more help I can get the easier it will be for me.I'm have had slaves in real life and online but they were always friends first then slaves.I wouldnt know how to just find a slave randomly.

FRIENDS FIRST, THEN SLAVES.  You said it, you know it, act on it.



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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/12/2012 7:45:55 PM   
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The image once graced the pages of the Men In My Panties Thread.
until he chickened out and removed it!

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/12/2012 8:08:53 PM   
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aawww...I missed that one!! RePost! RePost!!

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 7/12/2012 8:11:37 PM   
poise


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I'm going to keep on making silly pictures of him until he does.

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 8/1/2012 11:27:17 AM   
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Look for Mentors. Ask older Doms in the community if you can Alpha for them and watch them. Ask questions. Learn how to communicate with a sub, to make better connections with them.

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 8/1/2012 11:56:02 AM   
JeffBC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder
aawww...I missed that one!! RePost! RePost!!

*laughs* I just spent the last 15 minutes rereading that thread so I could find the date so I could find the photo so I could repost. Only to find that the photos no longer exist on my computer. Damn. I may need to do another hot, hot photo shoot. Maybe black lace this time.


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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 8/1/2012 12:16:42 PM   
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in the shower.  back arched.  play with your nipples.

It is one way to get subs and slaves. 

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RE: How to attract subs/slaves? - 8/1/2012 12:23:36 PM   
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Just realize that some of us Domme chicks would really dig that.



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