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slave/sub - 7/1/2012 5:47:54 PM   
wulfscry


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Status: offline 		Is it ok for a dom to ask a potiebtial slave/sub to show or tell his penis size?
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RE: slave/sub - 7/1/2012 5:57:40 PM   
poise


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Status: offline 		The whole world may tell you that yes, it's ok for you to ask this, or it could be that 35% say it's a bad
idea, but the only opinion that really matters belongs to the one you are asking the question of.
If it's something that will determine whether or not they are a good candidate for you, then why leave it to chance?

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RE: slave/sub - 7/1/2012 6:31:58 PM   
JeffBC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: wulfscry
Is it ok for a dom to ask a potiebtial slave/sub to show or tell his penis size?

Sure it's OK to ask. That question, however, is going to send all the relationship people running for the hills... or most of them anyway. But if it's of interest to you then it's probably a good thing to weed out all those pesky relationship types. Everything you ask or type does that. For instance, the fact that you use "sub/slave" would weed tend to weed out folks who see themselves clearly as one or the other and don't see subs and slaves as remotely similar. That also is a good thing.

My point is... say what you mean. Ask what you need to. Trust in the other person to figure out if you're a good or bad match.


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RE: slave/sub - 7/1/2012 6:32:57 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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Status: offline 		Of course you can ask, but that doesn't mean the slave/sub has to show or tell. Is it really that important? If it will make or break a possible relationship then, by all means, ask. If it won't, then it seems kind of unnecessary. I know I wouldn't want to think I meant nothing more to someone than my boob size. I also know that I wouldn't ask someone to show or tell me his dick size because I want more than just sex from anyone I have a relationship with. From your profile it looks like you are trying to find someone to service your wife, so maybe it is a deal breaker for you.

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RE: slave/sub - 7/1/2012 6:35:52 PM   
CRYPTICLXVI


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Status: offline 		I just left the grammar nazi thread... and I realize that it isn't the typo nazi thread but "potiebtial" took me a few seconds to register what had been intended.

As for your question, in person, online, role play? I agree with Poise, who cares, if this is important to you, ask, if they're offended, then I suppose you know it's time to ask someone else.

Shrug...

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RE: slave/sub - 7/1/2012 7:46:09 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		It's up to you. There's no right or wrong answer, just a right or wrong answer for you. Personally if some stranger asked me the size of my tits, he would automatically be deleted and put on ignore.

But if you're comfortable with it and you don't care, then go for it.

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RE: slave/sub - 7/1/2012 7:48:26 PM   
Endivius


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Status: offline 		Yes, I weed out all subs and slaves by the proportion of thier body mass index to breast size. Anything less than 50% get's blocked and hidden.


Your plan is flawless obviously.

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RE: slave/sub - 7/1/2012 7:58:39 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
Personally if some stranger asked me the size of my tits, he would automatically be deleted and put on ignore.

This. ^^^^^

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RE: slave/sub - 7/1/2012 8:12:48 PM   
poise


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ORIGINAL: CRYPTICLXVI

I realize that it isn't the typo nazi thread but "potiebtial" took me a few seconds to register what had
been intended.

There are so many possibilities here, how can you be so sure?

po·ta·ble - Safe to drink; drinkable.
In this case, size may be an issue.

pit·i·a·ble - Deserving or arousing pity. Contemptibly poor or small.
There again, a reference to size!

port·a·ble - Able to be easily carried or moved.
Just how much wood is the OP going to have to chuck?



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RE: slave/sub - 7/1/2012 11:03:22 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		My guess is potential.

He hit a b instead of an n, but they are next to each other. Then there is the bit that is misspelled.

< Message edited by peppermint -- 7/1/2012 11:04:35 PM >

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RE: slave/sub - 7/2/2012 2:52:44 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Like many other behavior questions, whether it is ok or not depends on your audience. I'm a woman, if anyone asked me a similar question I'd not choose to have contact with them anymore. Which might be perfect if you are looking for someone the opposite of me. I'd tend to say that it's the type of question that carries definite potential for a negative reaction by the person it's directed to, so be sure that it's important to you before asking since you do run the risk that conversation with some will cease at that point.

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RE: slave/sub - 7/2/2012 4:22:43 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		I've been online for about 15 years now, and have encountered a *lot* of male s-types. I have *never* asked a one of them for cock size. I am far more interested in brain size.

Now, I have had many of them offer cock pics or tell me their size, unasked.

If all your are interested in is a big cock, shesh, get a dildo, then hire a part-time house helper for the rest of it. If you are interested in a person, you may have to start acting like it.



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RE: slave/sub - 7/2/2012 6:54:20 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Dude. Did you create your profile using your phone? Gah.

You can ask about penis size, but from my AFF days I know that, like height, men (sometimes greatly) exaggerate about this.

It is NOT the same as asking a woman about her breast size.

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RE: slave/sub - 7/4/2012 3:44:53 AM   
FrankAr


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Status: offline 		Is that during erection ? Is that just coming out of a shower ? Is that just coming out of the damn cold sea from a swimming session ? it will vary from men to men, how big the size, just like women and their age....LOL.


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RE: slave/sub - 7/4/2012 4:10:43 AM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		Is it weird that I have no idea what my actual penis size is and never have?


Have most men measured themselves?
Is it really that standard?

C'mon-cough up and tell

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RE: slave/sub - 7/4/2012 4:35:00 AM   
crazyml


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RE: slave/sub - 7/4/2012 5:24:27 AM   
catize


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quote:

ORIGINAL: poise


quote:

ORIGINAL: CRYPTICLXVI

I realize that it isn't the typo nazi thread but "potiebtial" took me a few seconds to register what had
been intended.

There are so many possibilities here, how can you be so sure?

po·ta·ble - Safe to drink; drinkable.
In this case, size may be an issue.

pit·i·a·ble - Deserving or arousing pity. Contemptibly poor or small.
There again, a reference to size!

port·a·ble - Able to be easily carried or moved.
Just how much wood is the OP going to have to chuck?


I read it as 'pot bellied'....ya know, does his tummy stick out farther than his dickey do???

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RE: slave/sub - 7/4/2012 9:09:13 AM   
CRYPTICLXVI


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ORIGINAL: Kana

Is it weird that I have no idea what my actual penis size is and never have?


Have most men measured themselves?
Is it really that standard?

C'mon-cough up and tell


I have never measured... I don't care, it works well. Some have said it is perfect, some that it is average, but I have never had anyone point at it and laugh so it has never been a concern.



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RE: slave/sub - 7/4/2012 10:47:10 AM   
GreedyTop


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< Message edited by GreedyTop -- 7/4/2012 10:48:34 AM >

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RE: slave/sub - 7/4/2012 10:48:15 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		Kana.. now you have my hind-brain curious (sorry, LW, he started it!!!) LOL!!!




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