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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/5/2012 2:06:24 PM

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I look for a man with very high expectations for himself and those he deals with on a regular basis. Men with high expectations tend to have pretty much everything else that has been listed.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/5/2012 3:37:46 PM

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The ability to grok me.

That, and transparency.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/5/2012 4:59:39 PM

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/5/2012 8:34:20 PM

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I look for a man with very high expectations for himself and those he deals with on a regular basis. Men with high expectations tend to have pretty much everything else that has been listed.

Now this is so very true. That's a very good quality and then the rest just falls into place.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/6/2012 12:42:21 AM

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I look for a man with very high expectations for himself and those he deals with on a regular basis. Men with high expectations tend to have pretty much everything else that has been listed.

How interesting. I'd never tout of it but yes, that makes sense and matches my experience.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/6/2012 3:37:14 AM

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I look for a man with very high expectations for himself and those he deals with on a regular basis. Men with high expectations tend to have pretty much everything else that has been listed.

Now the hard parts over all you need to do
is satisfy his very high expectations hah.

I haven't thought to deeply on this but I'll throw
my hand up as having high expectations.
Although as I think I've already said elsewhere,
I am a serial dumper... Possibly to high.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/6/2012 4:05:25 AM

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All of you have such wonderful things to say about your Doms and Dommes!
This is wonder to see, your all so very happy, and none of this "bad dom" talk!

Strong women with strong men, this is how it is and I enjoying reading your post!!!

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/6/2012 9:08:34 AM

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The ability to grok me.

That, and transparency.

Grok?????????????

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/6/2012 9:20:00 AM

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As A Domme I Think It's Being Able To Obtain And MAINTAIN EMOTIONAL Control Over A sub And Maintain That Hold By Loving The Way EACH sub Needs It, Punishing Being Used As A Training Device, And Allowing Each sub To Grow At Their Own Pace With Suttle Pushes As Opposed To Shoving.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/6/2012 12:43:45 PM

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The ability to grok me.

Grok?????????????

Grok is a fictitious word that comes from Robert Heinlein's novel "A Stranger in a Strange Land". It means "to understand", but at a much deeper and more profound level than surface level understanding.

Do you grok?

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/6/2012 2:17:10 PM

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I stay away from the "Worst Dom" thread because I know I'll get caught up in the toxicity.

Here's a positive alternative. What do you consider the best qualities in a person you consider a dominant figure?

If you want to share why you feel those qualities are the best, bonus. It certainly goes a long way towards creating conversation.

Kudos to you for a positive thread! I don't even open those "worst" threads - too much toxicity for me, too.

The first quality for me is his character. Everything else falls under that umbrella for me. I was just thinking this afternoon about the Mister and the way he manages me, and how incredibly fortunate I am, to be with the first man in my life who actually knows how to handle me and my complications - who accepts those complications as part of me, and who finds them to be wonderful qualities in me. Whether I'm goofing around joyfully or having a melt-down about something-or-other, he somehow manages to know exactly the right response to it, and to turn it into something awesome.

The fact that he's honest, transparent, funny, into music, open-minded, fun to be around, loving, sexual, sadistic, patient, family-oriented, loves good food, and supportive of people being who they are....well that's all part of who he is, and part of his character. He can throw me around and beat my ass one minute, and scoop me up in his arms, showering me with hugs and kisses the next.

In my world, these are very good qualities, indeed.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/6/2012 3:10:59 PM

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how incredibly fortunate I am, to be with the first man in my life who actually knows how to handle me and my complications - who accepts those complications as part of me, and who finds them to be wonderful qualities in me.

Ain't that the truth!

Lord only knows that I have my share of character flaws and Carol's been on the receiving end of all of them by now. I find it amazing that she sees all of me... "groks" me... and still loves me.

Conversely, a past lover of hers apparently told her one time that she was too "infantile" for him (I believe she used the word "brekkie" rather than "breakfast"). I absolutely see that quality in her. I'm just baffled by why he thought it was a bad thing. I find it delightful.

It's neat when you find someone who actually loves who you actually are.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/6/2012 3:28:51 PM

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LOL...my ex mother-in-law said brekkie all the time. I thought it was cute.

Yeah, being loved and accepted for who we are is amazing. Especially with someone who prefers to enjoy our quirks rather than change them.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/6/2012 6:03:17 PM

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I love all the lists here so far. They all hold true.

When I try to describe the kind of man Sir is, I often say that, in the 6 plus years I've known Him, He has never talked the talk without walking the walk. And that is while dealing with everything life has thrown at us- from the minutia of raising teens to the death of said teens' father and my subsequent breast cancer, He has loved me and my family and ruled me with complete authority.
He is a man of honor.
His highest expectations are of himself.
He is the only man who has ever made me feel that I am His #1 priority- no matter what.

Yet, He can still make me tremble with a tone of voice.

Life is good.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/7/2012 12:59:45 PM

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Empathic, skilled and experienced in play, sadistic, sexual, happy to experiment and respectful of women and submissives in general.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/7/2012 6:17:43 PM

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I stay away from the "Worst Dom" thread because I know I'll get caught up in the toxicity.

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I made a mental note that if I ever wanted a third, nobody who posted in that thread would be in the running. I avoid people who like to whine and moan about their past lovers. It doesn't bode well for their present one.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/7/2012 7:01:07 PM

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Now the hard parts over all you need to do
is satisfy his very high expectations hah.

Haha, yep. But I'd like to think that I, too, have high expectations for myself and can handle the challenge, lol.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/7/2012 8:30:38 PM

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I stay away from the "Worst Dom" thread because I know I'll get caught up in the toxicity.

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I made a mental note that if I ever wanted a third, nobody who posted in that thread would be in the running. I avoid people who like to whine and moan about their past lovers. It doesn't bode well for their present one.

I dunno. I just saw it as entertainment lol. I just gave some examples of past lovers just for fun. I hold nothing at all against any of them though. I just look back and laugh now and ask myself "wtf were you thinking????". I rarely really talk about my ex lovers unless someone asks me a question about them and I'm usually quite vague.

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/7/2012 8:55:29 PM

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I stay away from the "Worst Dom" thread because I know I'll get caught up in the toxicity.

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I made a mental note that if I ever wanted a third, nobody who posted in that thread would be in the running. I avoid people who like to whine and moan about their past lovers. It doesn't bode well for their present one.

I dunno. I just saw it as entertainment lol. I just gave some examples of past lovers just for fun.

Me too. And for the record, none of the guys I talked about actually made it to being a lover. They didn't make it past the first meeting.

I've been in WIITWD for about 20 years now. 12.5 years with Master, 6 years with my ex and 18 months with my first Dom, with about 3 other guys that I dated short term. I'm still friends with all but one of them and clearly still with Master, who is the love of my life.

Yup, should you definitely worry about it boding well for my present lover.......

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RE: The Best Qualities - 7/7/2012 9:09:53 PM

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I'm not friends with any of my past lovers and have actually lost track of where they even are these days. I'm just completely indifferent to them. And yeah, if that bodes bad for Master then I guess I'm screwed lol.

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