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tblueyedaisy -> How to find a Domme who wants more than online (10/31/2004 8:15:40 AM)

I have been learning D/s for a while now and have my webpage at My D/s Website please feel free to visit and almost everything has a link going somewhere. my dilemma is finding a Domme who wants more than just online. my desire is real time. I have never experienced real time but am so drawn to TPE and would love meeting a Domme who is for real and seeks real time not just cyber sex. Very fustrated to this point.

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MAKEMYMOUTHWATER -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (10/31/2004 9:04:22 AM)

That is a funny queston to Me. Only because I have been trying so hard to find a sub/slave, who won't run away once you show genuine interest. Well my advice to you is take your time with Her. Make sure that you state your intentions in the beginning. That under no circumstance are you willing to settle for something , that isn't going to result in something serious. That is all I can say about that. I wish you good luck , in your search.

Mistress Renee



GoddessJules -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (10/31/2004 9:53:00 AM)

Sorry for not addressing the question. . .just curious if anyone else got the link to her webpage to work? (I love checking out people's personal pages)

:D

Jules



GentleMistress -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (10/31/2004 10:33:27 AM)

It worked for me GoddessJules :)



MsGothUk -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (11/2/2004 6:13:33 AM)

I don't know any Dommes who indulge in cyber sex with submissives online they have never met, you sure they are Dommes you are talking to & not men posing as females, its sad, but very true



Sundew02 -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (11/2/2004 11:57:41 AM)

I don't have any first hand knowledge of cyber domination, so I can't help you there. But for me what I get from most of those emailing me saying they are slave/sub is the bums rush, so eager to please then when I set a meet, poof they are gone. Of the 40 or so that I have had answer back from their own initial contact with me, only 3 have actually presented themselves. LOCATION seems to be a major issue. If you are not fairly close to the dominants you are talking to, more than likely not much is going to happen. Sundew



INDomCouple -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (11/2/2004 4:56:22 PM)

I also find this question to be interesting. We are seeking a submissive woman to join Us in Our relationship, but have not been looking very long. My personal opinion is that, for most of U/us, it seems easy to realize W/who W/we are as long as it feels safe - and meeting A/another is sometimes out of the comfort zone for whatever reason. I also think most of U/us are just normal folks looking to make long-lasting friendships and to have validation of O/our choices in this lifestyle.

To you, submissive friend, I would offer one piece of advice: Savor every moment of the search!! you will, in the end, look back on your search as a time of learning about yourself. Trust Me!

Domme Dawn



BeachMystress -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (11/3/2004 1:21:42 AM)

You think it is frustrating? Most of the men (yes, I realize you're femsub) who contact me have submissive fantasy rather than being sub. They want it and when they get it, they can't run away fast enough. Reality is too real. And you know the funny part? Several of them sounded a lot like you before getting what they professed to want.

Now.. if you REALLY want to find real time come out into the community. There are a lot of local Domme who enjoy playing with women as well as men. I'd be happy to get together with you and talk some about the lifestyle and perhaps attend a munch with you to help you get your feet wet. If you want to be a r/t sub, we can get you there. The ball is in your court.

I have a bunch of local links on my first Ygroup. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Beachs_Dominion/ go to links, then to Orange County/LA/coastal So Cal BDSM.



sub4hire -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (11/3/2004 1:31:27 PM)

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I don't know any Dommes who indulge in cyber sex with submissives online they have never met



This is interesting. I have never met an alledged Dom online other than my own Dom who didn't want some sort of cyber sex. Is this a man vs woman thing or what?



perverseangelic -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (11/3/2004 3:03:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: sub4hire

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I don't know any Dommes who indulge in cyber sex with submissives online they have never met



This is interesting. I have never met an alledged Dom online other than my own Dom who didn't want some sort of cyber sex. Is this a man vs woman thing or what?



I would argue that it's not, that it just depends on where you're online. At some places I chat both the males and the females demand cybersex. At some, very few do.

Still, though, I've found that it is most often males who want cybersex. I've met my share of women who do, and my share of guys who don't, but when someone tells me I've got to cyber with him, he's generally male.

One thing I've noticed, though-- males will keep going with the conversation a lot longer after you've said no. Mostly, when a women asks me to cyber, and I politely decline, she leaves right away, occationally saying something insulting right as she leaves. However, when a guy asks, he's more likely to keep takling for a long time, trying to convince me that I 'should' cyber with him.

Doesn't mean nothing, just an interesting observation.





SentForu -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (11/3/2004 7:59:44 PM)

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This is interesting. I have never met an alledged Dom online other than my own Dom who didn't want some sort of cyber sex. Is this a man vs woman thing or what?


Amen, and they call it "training", online to r/t...etc. Cyber, is still cyber. Either way you define it. Gets so frustrating, I could just die...lol.



BeachMystress -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (11/3/2004 8:40:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sub4hire

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I don't know any Dommes who indulge in cyber sex with submissives online they have never met



This is interesting. I have never met an alledged Dom online other than my own Dom who didn't want some sort of cyber sex. Is this a man vs woman thing or what?



I was at my sub's home one evening and we were in a yahoo chat room under his ID. A person claiming to be female approached him and wanted to cyber. We were both laughing and playing along. All of a sudden, the person we'd decided was male by the gung ho approach to cyber goes.. oh, you're local.. let's meet. We were both taken a bit aback. My sub explained the situation... that he was taken and that his Domme was with him and we'd been joking around with the cyber. The person responded, that's fine. I just want to meet people who are into the same thing I am. We went ahead and met her for lunch. I was stunned. She was very female. Before meeting this woman, I would have bet $100 she was male. I still suspect that any "woman" who wants to cyber up front is male, but I'm no longer sure of it



MistresKatamaura -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (11/5/2004 5:12:21 AM)

There are pleanty of dominants that want to meet people...That is why I host a munch in my area. But the funny thing is, is that rarely do we get a submissive man to go. Pleanty of Dominant Women usually attened.



EbonyVenus -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (11/5/2004 6:34:15 AM)

I would have to say that Domination has some type of mental connection so in comes the only cyber thingy < which I have used> If you cant do the small things online then why waste time in r/l? I owned a sub for several years and we met online first..

As far as cyber sex? I am sorry but I really don’t get off on it as a Mistress.. why talk about it when you can do it yourself or have someone else do it? < isn’t it hard to type and play with yourself? Just a question I always wanted to ask> LOL

From a Mistress stand point I find that submissive men want cyber sex more so then women.. with questions like “ what do you like to do to your sub” that’s the first sign
Please don’t get me wrong, cyber sex is all some people have or can have and I don’t fault them for that, but its not for me and I let them know up front without playing mind games.

I would not rush to meet every sub who finds me interesting a woman has to be careful

The Ebony One





GoddessDustyGold -> RE: How to find a Domme who wants more than online (11/5/2004 8:52:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: EbonyVenus



From a Mistress stand point I find that submissive men want cyber sex more so then women.. with questions like “ what do you like to do to your sub” that’s the first sign


The Ebony One


This is it in a nutshell for Me. Perhaps it is a distance factor. I can train online. I can give a makeup lesson via web cam, and teach other aspects, but I do not dominate online. I don't see the point of it. And I am not interested in cyber-sex/cyber domination with the boys' who try it with Me. I am not a lesbian, I am bi - but I am not looking for female slaves. I don't cyber with anyone, no sex or domination online. My hard rules. But then, I don't consider simple task instructions or some testing during an exploration and "getting to know you" period to be domination.

Jules: sometimes the links don't work for Me either, and then I tried a right click and hitting open...it always works that way. Give it a try.





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