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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 3:57:54 PM   
Dresproperty


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No - this is something I've thought about for along time, but never told another person in my life. THAT is why this is soul baring. And I didn't bare my soul to him intentionally. While just talking, he was able to put me into a space I'd never been in before. That's what is upsetting me. Not that this guy doesn't want to see me again after one cup of coffee. Its that I opened up too much, and I don't want to do that the next time around.




Then simply don't open up too much until after you get to know someone for longer than just one meeting over coffee. I sincerely hope you have learned your lesson on this.

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 4:05:38 PM   
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Then simply don't open up too much until after you get to know someone for longer than just one meeting over coffee. I sincerely hope you have learned your lesson on this.

Believe me, I have.......

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 4:08:08 PM   
littleone14


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Status: offline 		Damn...... Can anyone tell me how to insert a quote????

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 4:11:19 PM   
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Damn...... Can anyone tell me how to insert a quote????






You click on "quote" ~~ then when you see the flashing letter indicator thingy~~ click it to flash under the quote~~then press enter a couple to a few times then enter your response.

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 4:13:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Dresproperty

~~ then when you see the flashing letter indicator thingy~~


You mean the cursor?


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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 4:17:37 PM   
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Damn...... Can anyone tell me how to insert a quote????


Click the QUOTE button listed on the upper right hand corner of the post you wish to quote.

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 4:20:36 PM   
Dresproperty


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dresproperty

~~ then when you see the flashing letter indicator thingy~~


You mean the cursor?




THAT'S IT~~~ the cursor. Sorry I had a serious brain freeze from my slurpee which made my brain go numb for a few moments.

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 4:21:24 PM   
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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 4:47:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, they could put a bit of actual, real sugar in it. That would technically be a natural flavour.

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 5:04:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		The first ingredient on the list is sugar. From what I'd been told, by someone who works in the food industry, the order of ingredients is based on the amount of their content in the product. Soooo...the primary ingredient being sugar tells me all I need to know.

I found one image online that said it contained "colored crunchlets". I feel this merits further investigation. I shall peruse the cereal aisle the next time I'm in a grocery store that sells that stuff and take photographic evidence. *grin*

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 5:28:39 PM   
JstAnotherSub


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Status: offline 		Be an adult and take your time, just like you would in any other type of relationship.

Masturbate and watch a bunch of porn or take up needlepoint. Go running. Recite Dr Seuss. Calm you self in what ever way works for you.

Do not let one conversation with someone be something that can disappoint or hurt you. If you can not do that, back away for a while, until you can.

Also, read up on sub frenzy. I am about positive that someone here will have already posted links with info on that, since this is at 3 pages already.

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 5:39:40 PM   
SassySarijane


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Status: offline 		A quick search on the term sub frenzy brought up these results listed below plus many, many more. You might try reading through some of them. They might help you understand part of why you said more than you wanted to, but frenzy is likely not the total reason why. Sounds like you need to slow down and remember you and whoever you meet are people first before dom or sub or what have you. Stop and think before you speak. Remember this experience and think on whether you know and/or trust the person well enough to say those things to them. Do you want them knowing those things this soon? How will you feel if you open up this fast again and get a similar result of them breaking it off or just disappearing?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3335442/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cfrenzy/tm.htm#3335442

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2980423/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cfrenzy/tm.htm#2980423

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2972524/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cfrenzy/tm.htm#2972524

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2614806/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cfrenzy/tm.htm#2614806

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2487510/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cfrenzy/tm.htm#2487510



Uh oh, I think I just channeled LA lol.

< Message edited by SassySarijane -- 7/8/2012 5:40:43 PM >

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 5:51:41 PM   
littleone14


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Status: offline 		Thanks. I have been looking up sub frenzy. I think it is a big part of it.

Its not so much that I TOLD him things I didn't want to reveal so early. Its that he accessed a part of me that has never been accessed before and the intensity of it was more than I was ready to share with another person. No one in a vanilla relationship has ever accessed it, so its a new situation..... =)

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 5:53:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littleone14

Thanks. I have been looking up sub frenzy. I think it is a big part of it.

Its not so much that I TOLD him things I didn't want to reveal so early. Its that he accessed a part of me that has never been accessed before and the intensity of it was more than I was ready to share with another person. No one in a vanilla relationship has ever accessed it, so its a new situation..... =)

Wait until you are with someone for a long time and then split, and it takes you months to cum, because you gave your orgasms to them.

Or, maybe that is just me-lol.

There is all kinds of fun ahead for you! Pace your self! And enjoy.

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 6:13:39 PM   
DeviantlyD


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ORIGINAL: littleone14

Thanks. I have been looking up sub frenzy. I think it is a big part of it.

Its not so much that I TOLD him things I didn't want to reveal so early. Its that he accessed a part of me that has never been accessed before and the intensity of it was more than I was ready to share with another person. No one in a vanilla relationship has ever accessed it, so its a new situation..... =)


Gee, and I'm guessing all he got out of it was a cup of coffee. :D

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 6:15:33 PM   
littleone14


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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD


quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone14

Thanks. I have been looking up sub frenzy. I think it is a big part of it.

Its not so much that I TOLD him things I didn't want to reveal so early. Its that he accessed a part of me that has never been accessed before and the intensity of it was more than I was ready to share with another person. No one in a vanilla relationship has ever accessed it, so its a new situation..... =)


Gee, and I'm guessing all he got out of it was a cup of coffee. :D

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 6:17:22 PM   
littleone14


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Status: offline 		Crap, still can't get this damned quote thing right.....

I was gonna say "no, he also got a scone", but its not nearly so funny now.......

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 6:18:42 PM   
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No - this is something I've thought about for along time, but never told another person in my life. THAT is why this is soul baring. And I didn't bare my soul to him intentionally. While just talking, he was able to put me into a space I'd never been in before. That's what is upsetting me. Not that this guy doesn't want to see me again after one cup of coffee. Its that I opened up too much, and I don't want to do that the next time around.

I have a totally different approach, I believe in soul baring upfront because, it eliminates the process. If he doesn't want to see me anymore after one coffee, then his not the one. There were many times I didn't want to see the guy anymore after one coffee also, because I made up my mind his not for me. Maybe his reaction or responses to "baring of soul". I am looking for connection and chemistry. I am glad for early elimination, rather than waste more time with this man.
You are looking for a dom, and you are looking for compatibility. The issue here is, you took it personally, you only look at his rejection of you, but you never see the other way. Is this THE man you really want to be your first experience? IS he worthy?


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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 6:20:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: littleone14

No - this is something I've thought about for along time, but never told another person in my life. THAT is why this is soul baring. And I didn't bare my soul to him intentionally. While just talking, he was able to put me into a space I'd never been in before. That's what is upsetting me. Not that this guy doesn't want to see me again after one cup of coffee. Its that I opened up too much, and I don't want to do that the next time around.

I have a totally different approach, I believe in soul baring upfront because, it eliminates the process. If he doesn't want to see me anymore after one coffee, then his not the one. There were many times I didn't want to see the guy anymore after one coffee also, because I made up my mind his not for me. Maybe his reaction or responses to "baring of soul". I am looking for connection and chemistry. I am glad for early elimination, rather than waste more time with this man.
You are looking for a dom, and you are looking for compatibility. The issue here is, you took it personally, you only look at his rejection of you, but you never see the other way. Is this THE man you really want to be your first experience? IS he worthy?




Preach it sistah! *^5*

Exactly. :)

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RE: Very new to this - horrible first time experience... - 7/8/2012 6:57:21 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		You took a risk. It didn't work out.
You got hurt a bit. Now you're learning some wisdom.
So you are growing.


And trust me here, if you think this was horrific, you have no clue.

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