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the "l" word - 10/31/2004 2:59:53 PM

hiswildpony

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Love, of course. He used to say it, now He won't. how come? (i'm assuming, and hoping, He still does)

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RE: the "l" word - 10/31/2004 3:51:31 PM

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Why are you asking us instead of him?

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RE: the "l" word - 10/31/2004 8:42:26 PM

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If he won't say it, that is not a good sign. He could be angry at you and is not saying it to punish you. My suggestion is ask him.

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RE: the "l" word - 10/31/2004 8:53:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: hiswildpony

Love, of course. He used to say it, now He won't. how come? (i'm assuming, and hoping, He still does)

*sneaks in* Sorry Masters for posting in Your section --

it's a bad sign if this is something He used to say and now does not. Hopefully He hasn't noticed He stopped, maybe just one of those things when a couple gets so comfortable together and stop saying it. No matter what the reasoning is why He stopped you need to talk to Him about it.

Explain to Him how you feel... Ask Him why... Tell Him how much you need and want to hear it.

couples get in ruts sometimes, things become routine. Newness and passion die out some, but you can't let it.

Communication is the key *smiles*

JMO
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RE: the "l" word - 10/31/2004 10:50:25 PM

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Sorry for posting in the Masters Question area. my 2 cents. Like everyone else, you should speak to Him. If you say you love him, in a goodbye - greeting - hug - ect Does He respond? Have you walked up to Him and said, i love you? Does He respond? Or is it the daily basis He doesnt do anymore? As i'm sure you know, there can be alot of reasons. Find out first if its intentional or not. Also, sometimes people become less comfortable with saying it. Some just dont feel the need. If its unintentional, myabe He thinks you know it and don't need to hear it.

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Do you mean the *me* thought? - 10/31/2004 11:56:59 PM

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After all, if it was *I* he meant, does that mean he no longer says I? Is it more that he no longer wishes you to have a sense of *you*? If that is the case, is that something you knew/understood going into your relationship?

If he had not problem with you retaining a sense of self, but now does,, have you spoken to him about why? Is *he* the one being insecure or is it this something he feels will help you learn something? Is it something you considered as a way of you growing? Are you a slave that has always agreed that he has all say, or are you a submissive in which case if he has decided to take you (even if emotionally) in ways that you hadn't considered that he has spoken to you in advance, what does him denying you a sense of *I* mean?

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