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SadisticMs2 -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/18/2012 6:58:09 AM)
My business advice would be don't try to sell a skill that you just do not have.

r1a2y3m4o5n6d7 -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/18/2012 7:23:31 AM)
She called you GUYS. Someone take a whip to her/him.

Delilya -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/18/2012 10:52:13 AM)
I'd be happy to teach you what you need to know. You, of course, will be paying for the classes. After all education doesn't come cheap. Should I go ahead and set up a Paypal account now?

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/18/2012 11:02:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl So, basically you're looking for everyone else to do your job for you rather than reading and doing research. quote: ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders We get constant complaints on this sites about dommes who are just out to make a quick buck and aren't actually interested in being dominant at all. They give the rest of the female dominants a bad name. Real pros work hard for their money and have skills that are worth paying for. People doing what you propose give them a bad name, and result in a billion whiny threads here from subs. quote: ORIGINAL: SadisticMs2 My business advice would be don't try to sell a skill that you just do not have. Yup. This. ^^^^^ ALL of it. NBMG

seekingreality -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/18/2012 1:16:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: moonbitch Well, not at all looking for anyone else to do my job. I've been looking for days on end online researching and things, I just don't feel as though I've found the proper literature. I was obviously mistaken. I read "ask a mistress" and figured this was a thread for this sort of thing I thought I'd get a little bit of help and maybe a little more welcoming responses than I did. I was wrong, I will find no help here. Sorry to bother you all. You want to start a business. So you came here asking for help. Fair enough. But your initial request was so vaguely worded that no one knew what you were asking. Your second request was so broad that it was virtually impossible to answer in a meaningful way. On top of that, you turned snarky when people told you your posts were too vague and broad to respond to. So I will leave you with one tip, since you want tips: If you want strangers to help you when there's nothing in it for them, you should exercise more thankfulness, more humility, and check the sense of self-entitlement. Instead of the above post, you should have written an apology for your initial vagueness and then identified exactly what you want to know. Because if you can't ask specific questions at this point, it shows you have done insufficient research on your own.

AAkasha -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/18/2012 4:01:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekingreality quote: ORIGINAL: moonbitch Well, not at all looking for anyone else to do my job. I've been looking for days on end online researching and things, I just don't feel as though I've found the proper literature. I was obviously mistaken. I read "ask a mistress" and figured this was a thread for this sort of thing I thought I'd get a little bit of help and maybe a little more welcoming responses than I did. I was wrong, I will find no help here. Sorry to bother you all. You want to start a business. So you came here asking for help. Fair enough. But your initial request was so vaguely worded that no one knew what you were asking. Your second request was so broad that it was virtually impossible to answer in a meaningful way. On top of that, you turned snarky when people told you your posts were too vague and broad to respond to. So I will leave you with one tip, since you want tips: If you want strangers to help you when there's nothing in it for them, you should exercise more thankfulness, more humility, and check the sense of self-entitlement. Instead of the above post, you should have written an apology for your initial vagueness and then identified exactly what you want to know. Because if you can't ask specific questions at this point, it shows you have done insufficient research on your own. Since it seems that a lot of women come here and ask for advice regarding how to engage in online pay for play, many seeming to want to get in on the market, some of the bottoms who are only looking for online play as an outlet and are frustrated with the amount of findoms demanding tribute should develop a barter plan and offer it up. Off the top of my head, it would go something like this - The sub offers a week of his time for the femdom to train him online, and provides her: * suggestions of lessons / games that many /most subs like * practical ways she can implement and monitor * ways she can track progress and provide rewards and incentives * insight into financials - how much subs are willing to pay and what gets them from the point of browsing to buying * where subs find findoms I mean think about it. Subs have all the data these women want. If a man were to really offer to make it worth her time, he could get a LOT of domination "for free" if he gave back to her valuable data regarding her methods. Maybe the rule would be that they'd engage in the week (or x days) of domination and then he'd provide her an evaluation regarding what she did right and could do better, and what'd he'd be willing to "pay for" vs. not. Akasha

kalikshama -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/18/2012 5:58:55 PM)
quote: If I paid someone for a haircut, and it turned out that the hairdresser had just gone on a message board and said 'please tell me how to cut hair' instead of spending time learning and training and practicing, I'd be pretty pissed.[ ...PS. I've decided to become a personal trainer. I'm not very fit and don't like exercise, but I've read an e-how article so I'm sure I can boss you about until you lose weight. Anyone want to sign up? /quote] I think you've earned your second shoe for this!

kalikshama -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/18/2012 6:07:47 PM)
quote: I honestly do think you should just go away, now, before you get a storm coming down on your head. [image]http://0.tqn.com/d/urbanlegends/1/0/0/C/i000766.jpg[/image]

TNDommeK -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/18/2012 6:39:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SadisticMs2 My business advice would be don't try to sell a skill that you just do not have. Because it needed to be said again.

cloudboy -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/18/2012 7:59:45 PM)
quote: Normally in my sex life I had always been a total sub. Nothing I love more than being completely controlled. Recently I joined a website where there is a lot of online domme requests. I need help. Anything, really. Any sort of pointers on how to initiate things, how to not give too much right away, tips of any kind would be amazing!! The main job you have is sorting through the high volume of mail you will receive in your inbox; this is somewhat akin the HR department of a company screening resumes. Next, you have to decide how to bring up your pro status. If its not in your profile, guys will hope you are a lifestyle domme. If you feel submissive by nature, I think that could be a selling point, because you can the relate to submissive needs and urges. Lastly, my suggestion would be for you to decide on a specialization. I think trying to satisfy the male needs across the broad spectrum of BDSM and D/S would be both taxing (energy wise trying to connect with clients) and expensive (buying the gear.) If you narrow in on bondage & spanking, for instance, you have fixed costs and a more targeted client base. You could also quickly develop an expertise and confidence in what you do. Attracting attention and interest will be the least of your problems, finding good, appreciative guys with whom to work will be the trick. As you've learned here (the famous "ask a Mistress" embrace), a thick skin will be useful, b/c many guys are inherently hostile to professionals. Be prepared to be called a "whore," "slut," and a "fake" by irate men who are frustrated. When meeting potential clients for the first time, pick a neutral, vanilla spot to screen them. Good luck. Some of the professionals here report positive experiences and seem satisfied in their jobs.

kalikshama -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/19/2012 11:47:07 AM)
quote: As you've learned here (the famous "ask a Mistress" embrace), a thick skin will be useful, b/c many guys are inherently hostile to professionals. Rather than hostility, I think the OP rec'd a valuable reality check.

LaTigresse -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/19/2012 1:03:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: moonbitch I really don't want to argue with a bunch of strangers. Thanks for the help, guys! Oh for fucksake! Pull those undies out of your ass and chill the fuck out. If you think the answers you've gotten before mine were rude, you really shouldn't even be trolling the net. Nothing I read before my post was rude. And the only thing rude in my post is my propensity for the word 'fuck' when I read ridiculous words written by ridiculous people behaving ridiculously. I suggest you go back to being submissive and playing in the shallow end of the kiddie pool. Seriously Annnnnnnnnnnnd, apparently I was a little late to that party...

LookieNoNookie -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/19/2012 3:25:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: moonbitch Wow, not the kind of responses I was expecting. Sort of rude in response. But I guess I'll try and make it a little more clear. For online, for profit, and to explore a different facet. My question basically TIPS. Tips/pointers. That's really all I'm trying to get at. Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha (Sorry....I meant that in the most submissive of ways).

LookieNoNookie -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/19/2012 3:26:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xLaChienne I got nothing for you. There are thousands of findomme sites around with tips and such. You might check one of those out. You look like a globe.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/19/2012 3:28:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: moonbitch Well, not at all looking for anyone else to do my job. I've been looking for days on end online researching and things, I just don't feel as though I've found the proper literature. I was obviously mistaken. I read "ask a mistress" and figured this was a thread for this sort of thing I thought I'd get a little bit of help and maybe a little more welcoming responses than I did. I was wrong, I will find no help here. Sorry to bother you all. One word: Humility.

LadyPact -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/19/2012 3:33:24 PM)
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xLaChienne -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/19/2012 3:54:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie You look like a globe. Is that a forum euphemism for fat?

Byste -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/19/2012 3:56:28 PM)
Since you're submissive, just ask the "submissive" men what they want you to do and do it. Byste

TNDommeK -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/19/2012 4:18:00 PM)
It's like they ask for it. Then are surprised when we respond.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: HELP! NEW to domming (7/19/2012 4:34:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xLaChienne quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie You look like a globe. Is that a forum euphemism for fat? I don't think so...as best as I can tell, it was actually a euphemism for "you look like a globe".

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