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Are dominants "allowed" to cry?

No, dominants are like super heros. You never see them cry do you.

10% (9)

Yes, dominants are still humans and humans get upset sometimes.

55% (48)

I don't care if she cries I just don't want to see it happen.

2% (2)

Maybe sometimes if it is over something important.

6% (6)

Sure, it is kind of sexy to get to see the other side.

2% (2)

No, but I only say that because it hurts me to see her upset.

3% (3)

I agree with you saying he needs beat with a hammer.

18% (16)

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/26/2012 9:50:39 PM

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Cute poll, I picked number # 1 of course, Dominants are like super hero's.

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RE: Are dommes "allowed" to cry? - 7/26/2012 10:05:09 PM

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The only time i've cried in the last decade is
when my nan died, but wow did I cry and
broke a lot of stuff to, tired myself out...

I don't cry well...

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/26/2012 11:24:50 PM

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I wondered if anyone was going to laugh about me saying dominants are like super heros because to be honest...I'm a nerd and Superman/Clark Kent cried when his father Jonathan Kent died. I actually find it kind of odd that even in comic books where there are perfect people we see them cry yet titles like dominant mean we can't.

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RE: Are dommes "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 12:40:36 AM

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if you're Dom/Domme never ever cries, not for anything....then you may have a sociopath not a Dom/Domme.

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RE: Are dommes "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 12:52:25 AM

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Okay, I answered sarcastically, but I will give a sincere answer. Yes, there are things which have made me cry, hell there are things which have made me feel overwhelmed, uncertain and my life has been a path of poor decisions at times. I have allowed few people to actually witness my emotional responses to situations. When I was a teenager, nobody saw me cry when my father died. As an adult, a lot of my 'relationships' had issues because I didn't show emotion, especially the "negative" ones, the painful ones.

The last one, I attempted to communicate clearly, and the one time I attempted to when there was a lot of uncertainty, it was met in a negative fashion... and I stopped. So, back to, "I don't know what you are thinking", "You are so closed off" etc... no shit, it was made clear that "you" could not deal with it, so it was removed, what was so fucking hard to figure out about that?

Now, I am in a situation, where not only have I expressed uncertainty, but it has been met with a sense of support... not that I have had anything to cry about, but I feel that, that would also be met with in a supportive fashion. I realize, if you cannot deal with the entire spectrum, then I have no reason to have "you" in my life. Nothing against "you", it's all me...

If I do cry, and I will when my mother passes, I will if anything happens to my children... I know that this is not an experience which will be mine alone to bear.

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 7:36:57 AM

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I took the OP in the light of intent I perceived and answered accordingly.

I cannot imagine that any sane, reasonably intelligent, human being.......would even question it. MIP is a pretty smart chica. The sub in question obviously is not.

I do not cry often and especially not during extreme crisis or moments I need to keep my shit together to deal. I am one of those weirdos that cry after the fact, when I've done everything I need to do to deal with whatever.....if I do cry over it. Quite often, by the time I would be able to cry, the crisis has been resolved to the point where crying isn't even an issue. Most recently, when my son and his S.O. were in a motorcycle accident, would be a good example.

I have been known to cry when I am very angry, not a common thing. Or during movies, more common but I don't care.

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 7:42:35 AM

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How many times do I have to explain this? I was cutting onions!!!
(Poor Bambi... you Walt Disney, sadistic bastard...)

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 7:44:55 AM

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People cry. Doms are people. So, yeah, they are allowed to cry. Some likely do it more than others, but that's a people thing more than a Ds thing. There are people (especially of the male variety) that I know who were raised not to cry, because it's not manly or macho. In almost all cases I'd say that as adults it has not served them well. Repressing normal emotions seldom makes for a healthy, well balanced individual of any orientation. Just my two cents.

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 8:08:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I took the OP in the light of intent I perceived and answered accordingly.

I cannot imagine that any sane, reasonably intelligent, human being.......would even question it. MIP is a pretty smart chica. The sub in question obviously is not.

I do not cry often and especially not during extreme crisis or moments I need to keep my shit together to deal. I am one of those weirdos that cry after the fact, when I've done everything I need to do to deal with whatever.....if I do cry over it. Quite often, by the time I would be able to cry, the crisis has been resolved to the point where crying isn't even an issue. Most recently, when my son and his S.O. were in a motorcycle accident, would be a good example.

I have been known to cry when I am very angry, not a common thing. Or during movies, more common but I don't care.

this.

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 8:13:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrBlue76

How many times do I have to explain this? I was cutting onions!!!
(Poor Bambi... you Walt Disney, sadistic bastard...)

Oddly enough when I saw Bambi's mother bite the dust, I was also chopping onions. And carrots. And herbs. Well, that's a lot of meat to cook!

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 8:15:40 AM

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but you weren't making cookies, right?

*grins*

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 8:20:06 AM

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The only types of doms I date are either Vulcan or Borg - and no they do not cry.

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 8:21:24 AM

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No Klingons, Janah?

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 8:27:07 AM

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So I checked option two - we're all human.

But it does kind of depend. I think there are things that are positively domly to cry over, and things where it is undomly.

Of course a real dom cries when his nation's flag is hoisted, for example. But, it doesn't do to cry over show tunes (not even "Don't cry for me argentina") and it's not ok to cry at the end of any film (not even bambi).

I mean... we have to have standards.

That said, when my Maine Coon (Bob) was run over at the age of 22 five years ago, I found out by getting a call at work and I was so blue that my CEO sent me home!

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 8:31:54 AM

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Klingons arnt cry-babies - thats a fact,

but I dont like their bumpy foreheads.

But their weapons are pretty cool.

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No Klingons, Janah?

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 8:41:14 AM

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Of course dominant are allowed to cry.

In 14 years Himself has cried twice, once when his father died, again when his brother died.

I don't cry easily, except for when I was going through menopause. OMG: Anything could touch off a torrent of emotion, I'm surprised I didn't drown.

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 9:13:37 AM

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Thank you, Latigress fo the kind words. I too often cry when angry rather than when upset about something that is happening. And I too often cry only after I have things worked out. I will also admit that from time to time I cry when taken by a muse....I'm an artist what do you want from me. Someone from my past would get overly upset if I would cry when we got in fights abou things. I told him I was crying because I was angry and fighting the urge to kill him. He told me I was nuts. I think part of the reason he didn't like it was because he thought crying meant I was weak and if I was weak I might need him to be strong and strong isn't something he does very well.

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 9:17:19 AM

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MIP, I am going to go out on a limb and guess that he is taking the societal conditioning of 'men (aka strong people) do not cry' and laying that baggage on you.

It's not right, but it would make sense.

Hense the need for reconditioning. Aka, getting the hammer and beating it out of him!

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 10:32:46 AM

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For me any person in general that does not cry would concern me. I accept my Master for everything he is as a human being. During moments when he is having a bad day I would not add to it by expecting him to be superman and suck it up.

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RE: Are dominants "allowed" to cry? - 7/27/2012 2:32:13 PM

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I'm beating it out of him as we speak(so to speak)

ETA-And no I'm not using a hammer to do it (though that is a happy thought)

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