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LaTigresse -> RE: Coping Mechanisms (7/31/2012 4:11:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist
Do you feel as if the things that go on in your life dictate how you approach the lifestyle and your dealings in it? I ask because I recently discovered someone is my personal life who is a fan of self flagellation, but it only comes about when they are "going through". Im not looking to clinically break them down as much as Im looking for a bit of feedback on other cases such as this.
To a degree yes. If I am not feeling centred and solid, I tend to withdraw a bit, until I get my shit gathered.
This summer has been VERY stressful for me. Because of that, I've been spending as much time as possible away from people that require more energy than I can give. In whatever way that may be. It has nothing at all to do with them, what they want from me being fair, or reasonable. It's all on me. I have a habit of spreading myself too thin in life. I used to ignore it and forge forward. It was bad for me, and ultimately those around me. Now I recognize the signs and do what I need to do for myself, which benefits those around me, long term. Even if they do not realize it short term.
I prioritize. Those already in my life, that are important to me, that I have a responsibility towards.......they get first dibs on my time, attention and energy. Work is second.
Because BDSM is an energy flow and I tend to put more energy out than I get back, I avoid it when I am tired or stressed.
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