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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

At age 35 Lance had a "boy" of 65.

It was NOT about age.  Get it?

Here's the view from my side.

I've had a fling with a totally gorgeous 23 year old. It was fun, we enjoyed each other, then ultimately moved on. Would I do it again? maybe. But, the reality is was that it was just kinky sex.

Would I agree to be submissive to a 23 year old? Most likely not. Submission to me means that he has some control over how my life is run outside the bedroom. Most 23 year old guys aren't mature enough and don't have any concept of where I am in my life.

My view is meeting up with someone to have kinky sex while one is in charge and other follows, is just that - kinky sex. For me D/s happens when orgasms aren't happening. It would truly take a special twosome for a woman in her 40s to give control of her life to a guy under the age of 25.

What about an incredibly mature 23 year old, who happens to find that an age difference ads extra spice?

I think it's possible, but it's going to take two very specific people.

For me, I sincerely doubt, that I'd be willing to go into submitting to a 23 year old. I tend to be pretty alpha and to give over control of my life outside of the bedroom takes a lot trust that he's going to make good decisions. Someone a little older will have a history of decisions to show that they can. Most 23 year olds won't, which means that he'd have to prove himself and I don't think that's a good way to have a healthy relationship. My goals, wants and needs at this point in my life are very different from a 23 year olds.

This is just my view point. That doesn't mean that there isn't some woman out there that thinks its hot.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

If you're going to post pictures, I think we've agreed (the women anyway) that we'd prefer a kilt.....

Very well

This thread is...

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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

At age 35 Lance had a "boy" of 65.

It was NOT about age.  Get it?

Here's the view from my side.

I've had a fling with a totally gorgeous 23 year old. It was fun, we enjoyed each other, then ultimately moved on. Would I do it again? maybe. But, the reality is was that it was just kinky sex.

Would I agree to be submissive to a 23 year old? Most likely not. Submission to me means that he has some control over how my life is run outside the bedroom. Most 23 year old guys aren't mature enough and don't have any concept of where I am in my life.

My view is meeting up with someone to have kinky sex while one is in charge and other follows, is just that - kinky sex. For me D/s happens when orgasms aren't happening. It would truly take a special twosome for a woman in her 40s to give control of her life to a guy under the age of 25.

What about an incredibly mature 23 year old, who happens to find that an age difference ads extra spice?

I think it's possible, but it's going to take two very specific people.

For me, I sincerely doubt, that I'd be willing to go into submitting to a 23 year old. I tend to be pretty alpha and to give over control of my life outside of the bedroom takes a lot trust that he's going to make good decisions. Someone a little older will have a history of decisions to show that they can. Most 23 year olds won't, which means that he'd have to prove himself and I don't think that's a good way to have a healthy relationship. My goals, wants and needs at this point in my life are very different from a 23 year olds.

This is just my view point. That doesn't mean that there isn't some woman out there that thinks its hot.

Yes that makes perfect sense and I agree with you 100 percent. But again, it is just BECAUSE of that, that I find it interesting, as it goes against all established "rules" of life.

I also agree that needs at different stages of life are different, and so, compatibility (I mean on all levels, not just sexual) between people of greatly different ages is well nigh impossible. Of course there are exceptions to every rule.

But for the sake of argument (positive and constructive), could I not legitimately say you saying you would NOT be interested in someone because of their age is the same as me saying I WOULD be interested in someone because of their age? It is just from the opposite end of the spectrum and from inverted reasons. You think someone young would lack something you look for, whereas I think someone older would have something I look for.

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The more I read this thread, the more I think he can get what he wants. It is just a matter of approach.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a mature woman, or older woman. It is the manner in which this is communicated, I think, is what people reacted to.

Look, I have dated a ton of younger men. I was with one for over 10 years. It was not his age that factored into the death of the relationship, it was his sociopathic personality and how he treated me. Chemistry is not enough; we had enough to light the world on fire; but our compatibility and long term goals could have fit into a pin head.

Just as I would not want someone to say, Hey, I never had sex with a redhead, how about it? I would not want someone to only want me for my age and experience. If you do want that, just use finesse. My young boyfriend never came up to me and said, HEY, I want to fuck an older woman! He just approached me on line waiting to buy tickets in NYC for something and just chatted.

All the strong reactions here are based on approach, not judging desires.

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Dearest PS, since I haven't the money to travel to Scotland, much to my chagrin, please do not desert the questionable hallowed halls of the Collarme forums for as long as I am a member. You almost never fail to make me smile. I LOVED the llama!

You've got style kid!

LaT

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So what is the difference between a submissive getting a psychological kick out of being tied up, and me getting a psychological kick out of dominating a woman who is older than I am?

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Still waiting for the OP to mention how successful he has been in this endeavor. How many mature females have contacted him? Played with him? What's his success rate?????

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I don't want to sound unkind here, but you sound as if you don't have a ton of experience with women. Or that you're aspie, which is another kettle of fish.

Much social interaction is subtext. If a man approaches me, I really don't care to dissect the 'why', it's more important to me to figure out if I am interrsted in spending any time with him. Our relationship interests and all that will come out in conversation.

So, if you're talking to a kinky older woman, the kink and the older aspects are already taken care of, right? :)

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You are right, well, in a sense anyway. I have not had much experience with women for quite a while now. I have stayed away, by choice, for reasons that are not relevant to this conversation. My "exploits" and experiences with women before that are not really relevant to this discussion either, so I will not go into them.

I do not think that in any way makes me less "qualified" however.