BambiBoi -> RE: Scene Management (8/13/2012 9:30:12 PM)
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Being both top and bottom at once is my favorite form of play. You smell like you've never done it before. Is that correct? Firstly, take things slower. Better less and leave them wanting than too much and leave them hurt. (Tip of the hat to Lady Pact). If this is your first time filling both roles, you don't want it to be your first time using new devices. How complex is the scene? If there's so much planning, it sounds like it might be too complex. There's no rush. The first time I was both top and bottom at once was watching a movie int the living room of a couple's home. A Femdom home, she would tell me to make popcorn, bring her pillows, massage her back (all very simple tasks that any person can do). Meanwhile, she also wanted me to top her husband. So I made him into a footrest, had him hold things in his mouth like it was a third hand for me. Simple little things that did not take skill on my part. Secondly, Communicate these ideas and fears to BOTH sides. You are talking to your dominant and to your sub. It's imperative that they know what might give you a hard time, and if their safety or happiness is at risk. Lastly, the simple truth is some minds can and some minds cannot. When I am in the middle I don't allow myself to enjoy too much of the power or submission rush. I need to be on my A-game, so its not my place to just let free. I'm like a ref or a coach. It's not hard for me to resist the emotions, what about you? If you're prone to blinding headspace and cum-drunkeness, then maybe you need to take things extra extra slow.
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