RedMagic1 -> RE: The dreaded "Gift of Submission" debacle (8/20/2012 7:21:31 PM)
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Wasn't "gift of submission" popularized by slave jade of CastleRealm in sooper saccharin essays? I think that's the root of the gag reflex a lot of people have when they hear the phrase. Any decent person is giving a gift to others when in their presence and being good to them, but that isn't what the phrase "means" in BDSM. You might reclaim it though! In (online?) BDSM, the phrase has a heavy tone of, "It is through my submission, which is a much deeper level of commitment than any vanilla relationship, that this D/s dynamic is magical and better than anything you could find in the vanilla world." Again, through the history of how it's been used (misused?). My own personal take is that D/s ain't no more magical than vanilla, and, if magic happens, it's because everyone involved invested, and risked, a lot. In a sense, I'd rather talk about a "gift of trying," so it could be applied to anyone, not just subs.
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