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Active vs. passive cuckolds - 6/11/2006 12:55:02 PM

AAkasha

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I've been getting a lot of emails about cuckolds and cuckold training. For my own private interests, I separate cuckolds into two groups - active and passive. I'm curious if any femdoms have had experience turning a passive cuckold into an active one, or if any cuckolds who are passive feel they could be pushed to the other side.

My own definitions:

Passive cuckold: male submissive that is present or passively involved as his Mistress takes on male lovers. The passive cuckold may or may not ever have sexual contact with the Mistress, but is aware/watches/ knows about the male lovers she takes on. There may be humiliation involved or he may be dressed up and forced to watch, humiliated verbally or used in a variety of ways, but is never forced to make contact with the male lover or his cum.

Active cuckold: male submissive that does all the above, but is also required to perform sexually as the Mistress commands. He may have to suck the cock of the male lover or clean the Mistress' pussy once the lover has cum inside of her. He may have to serve as a fluffer. He is active in the sexual dynamic but never for his own sexual pleasure, but is used as a sexual object.

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RE: Active vs. passive cuckolds - 6/11/2006 11:01:16 PM

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Absolutely, I've found it to be a natural progression given time and patience with almost every passive I've been involved with over the years.

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RE: Active vs. passive cuckolds - 6/12/2006 5:32:22 AM

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Thats one of my hard limits! But if I found the right Domme who knows but right off the bat I would say yes Hard limits, at least for me.

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RE: Active vs. passive cuckolds - 6/12/2006 9:38:37 AM

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I realize there are different dynamics a cuckold relationship can take on.... but I hadn't thought about the active/passive thing in that way, though it makes sense to me I would think the active/passive definition could change in the same cuckold from the introduction of one partner to another, and through the passage of time, change in desires by the female, etc.

I think of active cuckold and passive cuckold in the following way:

Active cuckold: A male seeking a Mistress for a cuckold relationship, and only a cuckold relationship. This would be the type to encourage and assist his Mistress in finding partners, and likely he would go along with anything. I avoid this type.

Passive cuckold: A submissive male who is open-minded, and while he may have had past cuckold desires, was not seeking only to be a cuckold, but to be a submissive to a woman, and became her cuckold because she desired him to.

I know that's slightly off topic, but it was what I thought of when I clicked to open the thread.

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RE: Active vs. passive cuckolds - 9/5/2007 1:36:12 PM

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According to Mistress Lorelei I unfortunately would be an active cuckold. I say unfortunately because for me it fucks it up if I have to start out by asking for it or thinking of it as a necessary condition for a relationship which in all honesty it is. I used to think te first woman who cuckolded me left that imprint on me but later realized it has been an abiding interest for a long time. I still remeber masturbating to the scene in the book JAWS where the chief's wife cheats on him with Hooper when I was maybe thirteen years old. It's a really sexy scene because it's written from the wife's perspective and she is so excited. I would also probably have to consider myself "active" under AaKasha's definition because I fantasize about those things but I don't really know that I would go through with them. All I can say for certain is that it would depend on my relationship with the woman and the situation. So to answer Aakasha's question: yes its possible to push me from "passive" to "active". I can't even say that I want to be submissive or a cuckold in some sense but I know I'm attracted to dominant women and excited by the idea they might have other men and that they would be excited by my humiliation and acceptance of that fact. I'd love a woman to lead me down that path but I don't want to tell her that unless she makes me admit it under duress and I don't her to tell me where she is leading me. That's a challenge for me to meet and for her to find out. By the way this is my first post to these forums so hi to everyone.

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RE: Active vs. passive cuckolds - 9/5/2007 2:10:40 PM

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I can't really sort my husband neatly there. More of B, maybe? Just likes that his wife is getting lots, sometimes participates, is plenty bi, and often doesn't participate - gets off on the idea and when the other lover is "talked around" when we have sex.

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RE: Active vs. passive cuckolds - 9/6/2007 10:14:31 PM

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This is a very popular subject. I am glad someone has finally tried to establish a degree so to speak, of the depth of submission involved. Passive cuckolding seems to be quite common. Type cuckold in the search box, and there are many pages of men seeking to be a cuckold. I have endured it once, and know of a couple of vanilla relationships, that could be considered passive cuckolding. I could accept that. Active cuckolding is another matter. A hard limit for me, and I have always wondred if there are many men, (bulls?), willing to be involved with an active cuckold. Even though I don't desire it, there is still a hope, or even a possibility, of meeting a woman I am so taken by, that I would forget about limits. Definitely high rish behavior.

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RE: Active vs. passive cuckolds - 2/3/2008 7:27:21 PM

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I have been a passive Cuckhold all my life. I love the thought of my wife/girlfriend meeting her 0ther lovers & masters. I enjoy helping her to get ready, Bath, helping her to select the right sexy revealing outfit etc. Driving her to his house or venue. collecting her afterwards. I am so horny that another man has used my wife/girlfriend that we have the most fantastic sex together after. For me knowing she has had sex with another man is a real turn on. If I am lucky enough to be able to watch then even though I am straight I am so excited I have several times sucked her Master off before, durin & after. I have cleaned both my wife's cunt & the Masters cock clean.I like to help guide the Masters cock into her. I like to wank the Masters cock in her mouth & as he is half way up her cunt. I also love to fuck my girl as she sucks the Masters Cock. I like to kiss my wifes face as she has Masters cock in her mouth. When the Master spunks in her mouth I enjoy deep prolonged tounge kissing her before she swallows.
I like to see my woman being dominated by another man,or men. She must enjoy & want to do it though, I have had a woman that was willing to please me but that is not really the same. I feel it is wrong. I much rather the woman enjoy it even more soif that is possible! Sometimes I like to wait outside with a massive hard on knowing she is in there having sex with another man.
I dont know what this makes me! I would welcome any comments/sugestions, good or bad.I would like to know if I am a passive Cuckold or do I "Cum" under something else?

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RE: Active vs. passive cuckolds - 2/3/2008 7:29:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

I've been getting a lot of emails about cuckolds and cuckold training. For my own private interests, I separate cuckolds into two groups - active and passive. I'm curious if any femdoms have had experience turning a passive cuckold into an active one, or if any cuckolds who are passive feel they could be pushed to the other side.

My own definitions:

Passive cuckold: male submissive that is present or passively involved as his Mistress takes on male lovers. The passive cuckold may or may not ever have sexual contact with the Mistress, but is aware/watches/ knows about the male lovers she takes on. There may be humiliation involved or he may be dressed up and forced to watch, humiliated verbally or used in a variety of ways, but is never forced to make contact with the male lover or his cum.

Active cuckold: male submissive that does all the above, but is also required to perform sexually as the Mistress commands. He may have to suck the cock of the male lover or clean the Mistress' pussy once the lover has cum inside of her. He may have to serve as a fluffer. He is active in the sexual dynamic but never for his own sexual pleasure, but is used as a sexual object.

Akasha

As someone who's been a waxing and waning interested in the reverse cuckolding (female submissive being cuckolded), I think its a pretty good distinction - and I definitely fall (and have always) fallen into the active, not passive side.

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RE: Active vs. passive cuckolds - 2/13/2008 10:43:06 AM

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i can certainly see where it would take the right Woman to move one fom the passive to active cuck role. even though the active cuck role could be a deep, dark, not-admitted thought.

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