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ORIGINAL: Sylverdawn I think the ideal submissive is like perfect cup of tea.. depends on how you take it.. I do disagree with your natural tendenices idea.. it might be my natural tendency to complain about working too hard.. but if I complain to loudly or too frequently in the earshot of my boss .. Im going to be out of work. So we learn to curb our behaviour to get more positive results.. ie a regular paycheck.. if you choose to serve.. then your choices in behavior need to reflect that choice appropriately... again just my point of view. Quite right - a submissive is how you take it. Like some people with coffee, I kinda like a submissive as she is - I add a little sugar to enhance the flavor and a little cream to mellow the texture. Some people take submissives for wives, others for husbands, and some still for furniture and ashtrays. Fortunately, there are just as many submissives to fill those roles, depending on their interests. Hence, my statement "I think too often the ideal is...." because there seems to be (in my perception) an almost collective agreement that to be a good submissive, you must have xyz qualities, and this perception leads to submissives questioning themselves "well, I don't fit xyz, am I a bad submissive? Should I be something else?" As to the natural tendencies, I agree, you naturally change your behavior depending on the situation. Having said that, in my own supervisory situations, I've had employees who do complain too loudly and too often. (I told em if they don't like it, quit.) We all know that so many different types of people get involved in the lifestyle for many different reasons - not all reasons are good. There's the classic SAM (discussed earlier) who intentionally misbehaves in search of another lick - and there are sadists who enjoy the opportunity to give it a swing. Obviously, to an outsider, it would seem like a bad sub, and this probably reflects badly on the Dominant, as the Dom should be training her better.... blah blah blah. Fortunately for the SAM and his/her Dom/me, the outsider's perspective doesn't really matter. Thanks for the response though! Stephan
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