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has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 7:22:39 AM

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I recently joined a Master to reacquaint me to the lifestyle. He is teaching me slowly. He does offer affection and caresses and slight massages after my punishments. I have my assignments & I have my rewards. But the rewards have not been with him actually in my pussy. He uses his toys (very elaborate toys!) I have given him bj. But he does not physically perform on me except with devices. I have never had a Dom in this manner before, but I am still a beginner returning to the lifestyle so I am grateful that he is patient and trusting. But I am curious I know I can not ask my Master but if other subs could help me figure him out. Anxious to more forward. How long should I give him to find out? I know as a sub I must serve his needs first and be obedient in his training and his desires.

RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 7:25:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: aleneb

I recently joined a Master to reacquaint me to the lifestyle. He is teaching me slowly. He does offer affection and caresses and slight massages after my punishments. I have my assignments & I have my rewards. But the rewards have not been with him actually in my pussy. He uses his toys (very elaborate toys!) I have given him bj. But he does not physically perform on me except with devices. I have never had a Dom in this manner before, but I am still a beginner returning to the lifestyle so I am grateful that he is patient and trusting. But I am curious I know I can not ask my Master but if other subs could help me figure him out. Anxious to more forward. How long should I give him to find out? I know as a sub I must serve his needs first and be obedient in his training and his desires.

Why can't you ask your master? He's the only one that can tell you if you and he are going to have intercourse eventually or not. At best, everyone else would be speculating. We don't know you or him...

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 7:32:17 AM

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If he doesn't start fucking you in the next few weeks or months he's just not into intercourse and you have to decide if this is a deal breaker for you or not. It wouldn't be for me.

Don't make the common mistake that typical relationship issues fall by the wayside when BDSM is involved - this is still a relationship and you have the right to get your needs met (or move on.)

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 7:32:43 AM

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How did his STD panel turn out?

(It's a possibility.)

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 7:41:41 AM

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since I am only into him for the past 4 weeks, we only meet 2x wk, daily assignments and communication. I have not been given permission to ask personal physical questions yet - should I ask when I can ask such a personal question and wait for his permission.

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 7:53:06 AM

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You are 55.. you have been giving the guy bjs for 4 weeks and you have not even asked about STDs? you do realize you can get STDs from giving oral to someone, dont you? you can get some STDs even if you use condoms... and that not all STDs can be cured with meds...

Imnsho,.. if you arent "allowed to ask questions" then that should be a freakin' HUGE red flag..( or if you ask and they avoid answering or give an insincere answer).. I would run far & fast from dudes like that..

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 7:55:49 AM

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since I am only into him for the past 4 weeks, we only meet 2x wk, daily assignments and communication. I have not been given permission to ask personal physical questions yet - should I ask when I can ask such a personal question and wait for his permission.

I applaud the spirit of adventure that draws you into sexual encounters with strangers that do not permit personal communication. Good luck with that 70's thing you have going on there.

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 7:57:41 AM

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Dear OP, in this particular line of discussion, S usually stands for submissive, or slave. It does NOT have to mean STUPID!!!

Seriously.

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 7:58:25 AM

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I love you, LaT. The second I become a lesbian, I am looking you up.

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 7:59:55 AM

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I love you, LaT. The second I become a lesbian, I am looking you up.

Hey, don't hafta be a lesbian to hang out and have loads of fun together. That sex stuff is sometimes seriously overrated yanno?

I will take good company any day of the week.

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 8:00:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I love you, LaT. The second I become a lesbian, I am looking you up.

Hey, don't hafta be a lesbian to hang out and have loads of fun together. That sex stuff is sometimes seriously overrated yanno?

I will take good company any day of the week.

So true! Oh, you will have Cmail in a minute.

~back to your regularly scheduled... somethingsomething~

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 8:05:47 AM

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Hey, at least this one didn't wait two years to figure it out.

LaT, you.... Me..... sitting on the porch where you took that picture from.

Someday.

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 8:08:58 AM

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And..........as soon as I take it off my memory card and size it down......the view directly in front of my usual spot on the sofa. (though I stepped outside to take the photo.)

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 8:11:34 AM

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since I am only into him for the past 4 weeks, we only meet 2x wk, daily assignments and communication. I have not been given permission to ask personal physical questions yet - should I ask when I can ask such a personal question and wait for his permission.

Sweetie - the time to ask all these questions is BEFORE you agree to submit to someone.

If you ask him now and he gives you some "not your place" bullshit, dump his ass.

This is still a relationship - don't let the fact that there's BDSM involved cause you to leave common sense behind.

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 8:30:45 AM

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I don't know who this one ^^^ is, but I vote to keep!

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 8:32:24 AM

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Speechless.

Just. speechless.

LaT? May I join you, Hibbie and LadyP on that porch?

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 8:39:34 AM

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Speechless.

Just. speechless.

LaT? May I join you, Hibbie and LadyP on that porch?

Absofuckinlutely

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 8:45:38 AM

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YAY!! *has a happy*!!!!! (I like the Adirondak style rocking chair, ftr)

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 8:50:37 AM

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I will ask the questions to clear the rules of play. He gave me a current test results so I feel safe, but cautious.
thanks for input.

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RE: has this ever happened to another sub? - 9/11/2012 8:57:05 AM

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Using fast reply.

Anybody who has to use fucking punishment within a four week time span, is pretty damn weak in their own right.

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