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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 6/17/2006 8:02:35 PM   
marieToo


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In general I do not address dominants in the bdsm forums/chats  as Sir.  However, if I know someone prefers that, I will address him that way, simply because its his preference.  Same way  I would call someone Bob, if they dont like being called Robert.  If thats what they like, its not a big deal for me, but it doesnt have the same meaning as when I use the word in a personal relationship.
 
Although this is rare for me,  I will also use the term Sir at times with a Dominant that is not *my* dominant, but one that I know, admire and respect;  simply because it feels more 'right' to me than using his first name. 
 
In past Ds relationships I have addressed my dominant as Sir.  First of all because the ones I have known,  like it and see it as a sign of respect.  Secondly because I have found that after a short period of time, it doesnt feel natural for me to address my Dominant by his first name any longer.  Using the word Sir becomes almost a "need".  As far as the term Master--I have a very difficult time getting that word out.  Im not sure why.  Its something that I really really want to overcome.  I think eventually I'll get past it with the right one.  

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 6/17/2006 10:00:10 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: litleone8620

This thread is for the opinion of both dominants and submissives: In either scening, or in a 24/7 relationship, do you or does your dominant require the use of Master/Mistress or Sir?


i am supposed to address Him as Master when we are at home, although i am not supposed to use it every single second, in the beginning i would constantly call Him Master to the point that He told me to not use it anymore, though i am now back to calling Him Master. i won't overuse it anymore either. :)

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 6/19/2006 1:56:37 PM   
Tamerofwild1s


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Status: offline 		relationship wise in the beginning when dealing with someone whose perticulary new I asked for it all the time .. Sir had to accompany everything this got her in the right mind frame of addressing me with respect .. as she learned what I was expecting she soon only had to use it when answering a direct question or if ordered to do so .. during play sessions other names might be used .. all in all . I think it will really come down to the Dom your serving and whats HIS or HER wants are.  other then that . Sir or Ma'am is only used once a level of respect is gained
 
 

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 6/19/2006 3:04:49 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: litleone8620

This thread is for the opinion of both dominants and submissives: In either scening, or in a 24/7 relationship, do you or does your dominant require the use of Master/Mistress or Sir?

Yes, he does. In private, I refer to him as Master. In public, as Sir. Unless I am directed to do otherwise.
 
For others, I call them by their first names, unless directed by Master to address them differently.

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 6/20/2006 5:45:05 PM   
Totalmaster4you


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Status: offline 		I've always felt that Sir was a generic form of respect and that Master was a more
personal way of expressing respect. Lord also was a more formal word of respect.
However the bottom line is whatever the dom prefers and instructs his submissive.

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 6/20/2006 5:51:59 PM   
shyfem


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Status: offline 		Good Evening everyone,
 
For me, Sir is a term I use out of respect. Most will get at least some respect from me initially until they prove not worthy, but using Sir to address someone I was familiar with I was unsure I could handle when I first ventured into D/s.

My first Dom and I met on-line and chatted for over a month prior to meeting. During that time I called him by his first name. Once we met and started a relationship I felt that I wanted to call him Sir but wasn't sure of his feelings for the term. That was until the first time I was getting a spanking and I responded, "Yes", to a question. He replied, "Yes what?".  I called him Sir after that when it seemed appropriate or I wanted to show respect.
 
With the One that I have recently started seeing, He did not require me to call Him by anything other than His screen name while we were corresponding and then His first name when we were to meet. However, I have called Him Sir, more than once in R/T as He has my respect. It is actually feeling weird already to call Him anything except Sir when speaking directly to Him.
 
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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 6/22/2006 6:35:41 PM   
needtobetold


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Status: offline 		My Master requires that I call him Sir when we speak and I do.... unless I am feeling bratty then I have occasionally forgotten. And when that happens I am punished. He has not asked me to call him Master yet and I know he would like for me to call him Daddy but he knows I have a hard time with that.

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 6/22/2006 6:45:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, when in a 24/7 relationship, I prefer Master.  I understand the use of Sir as a formality and being polite, but never cared for the use of Sir aside of that aspect. 
 
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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 6/24/2006 2:29:59 PM   
OxfordSeb


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Status: offline 		My slave addresses  me Master or M when she emails me,  the rest of the time she calls me Sir. When she refers to me in the vanilla world to her friends etc she uses my given nickname, but would never use it to my face.

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 6/26/2006 1:02:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		MASTER, it is the only one, it is acceptable in private and public, if not, it does not go unpunished!!

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 6/26/2006 8:35:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		everyone has their own way of answering this.....i did not ask my slave to call me anything other than Sir when i earned it but she asked if she could call me Master because to her i earned the name and respect that goes with the title of Master....to a great many i am Sir to them not because i ask/order it ,,,i earned their respect...some call me Master and they are close friends who i have not only demonstrated that i am for real but can deliver a scene/play that melts them=lol....and just Curios to the multitude of who know me on chats/groups where they have'nt yet met me.......Master Curios

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 4/18/2011 8:37:30 PM   
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(hate being freferred to as 'sir'

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 4/18/2011 8:46:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I require "sir" from my pets. Public or private. Master... I'll tolerate, but, I'm not terribly keen on. Your Highness... will probably get my pet one of the not good spankings, as it's normally said sarcastically. ;)

I don't like people other than my pet to call me "sir", "master", anything like that, to be honest. Hate it actually. UNLESS their D-type specifically stated that they were supposed to refer to others in such a manner as well. In which case, I'll not countermand their orders. That's just not how I do things.

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 4/18/2011 8:48:22 PM   
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If you want to discuss this again, start a new thread and include a link to this one.


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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 4/18/2011 9:09:13 PM   
Palliata


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Status: offline 		In a 24/7 relationship, using Master is absolute necessity. I will accept nothing else whatsoever. In casual or uncommitted encounters I demand nothing in terms of honorifics. I don't need my ego flattered, and if the sub doesn't feel compelled to use them by her own propensities then that's her prerogative. I have been known to force it in a "Say it, whore, or you'll regret it" kind of sense, but in common reference I've either inspired or I've not, and creating it artificially through a direct instruction serves only to make me feel better about myself, which is not something I require.


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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 4/18/2011 9:50:40 PM   
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heather generally calls me "hanners", and in a more formal context "hannah" or "hannah lynn". in intimate moments, she calls me "babe" "lover" or "my sweet". when we're goofing around she often calls me "whore" or "miss whore". amongst her friends, i am generally refered to as "the whore".


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edited by request to make it more clear and less insulting.

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 4/19/2011 5:20:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I prefer "Oh Great Lord Supreme Master Sir", but Ken is good too.

This is one of those personal prefrence things, I personally do not like being called Master unless its coupled inot the prase "please fuck me, Master"
That being said I will ask a sub in training to call me Sir, other than that I will responde to dude, Ken, Kenny, hey you, or just about anything... unless its blatantly sarcastic and/or disrepectful.

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 4/19/2011 5:41:47 AM   
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The right to call him Master was something that was earned, and until then it was Sir.

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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 4/19/2011 6:02:55 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: litleone8620

It's a sign of respect, is it not?

Is not calling a dominant a punishable offense? Please don't answer this question with 'it depends on the dominant'. I would like your opinion, that's why i'm asking this question.



It's a sign of respect to call someone what they want to be called. Not what the gods of BDSM decree.

We don't relate using honorifics or objectifying names. He doesn't want me to kneel at his feet all the time. He prefers I sit next to him while he watches tv so he can hold me, or hold my hand, or play with my nipples. If I insisted on sitting on the floor instead, that would show a lack of respect for his desires.

As for us? We have a blended family and it would be disrespectful to the family for him to address me as slut or bitch and me to address him as master or greatgranduberdom.

He calls me My Love and I call him Honey or Sweetheart. And it isn't disrespectful because he likes and prefers it.


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RE: When to use Master or Sir - 4/19/2011 7:50:47 AM   
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