puella
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Hello zero69u2, I am no expert in relationships, but as I believe I have said before, I am the child of true and complete love. The most incredible relationship I have ever witnessed was the one my parents shared. Strangely, it was my father who ended up giving me some wonderful words on how a relationship that profound can work and last. I never got the opportunity to speak with my mother as an adult, as she died when I was 13. I will share with you what my father told me. You love many people and in many different ways.. but being in love with someone is very special. It is a choice you make every day. It is a condition and a relationship you nourish, eagerly, every moment of every day. Living and loving a person for 35 years means never allowing yourself to take your partner, and what you love about them for granted. (Now, my dad is Catholic man so you might want to take this next big figuratively, I do, and I think it works just as well, as we can all make things a sacrament, by making them sacred to us). Love, marriage, is a sacrament because the work, the happy and willing sacrifices and the rituals, mundane and extraordinary you create together make it something holy, something blessed, a bit of divinity you get to participate in. We are given very few chances to make something as magic as shared love. It would be a shame if we passed it by without realizing it's value, and taking care of something that precious. I think, there is a lot of wisdom to be found in those words...I do not usually find such reverence and simple, shocking clarity in what my father says. But these words have always stuck with me. I hope you can find something from them which answers parts of your question.
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