samdarella -> RE: Rules of D/s 101 (10/7/2012 4:33:06 PM)
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Not much I can really add. Compared to Master and many others here I'm still somewhat of a newb. I haven't been in the lifestyle for decades and I can't lament about how things were in the good old days. I believed in SCC for a minute. I also had a hard limit list that probably would have been pages long. Then I left the computer behind and got real. Fluffy floggers and a smack on the ass soon bored me. No offense meant to those that are into the milder side of s&m. If it makes you hot then get tickled who cares what the rest of us are into. But for me, SCC is ridiculous. There's nothing "safe" about being whipped until you bleed, being set on fire, having needles stuck in you, a knife leaving a trail of blood...oh sorry got lost in my thoughts. Safe, yeah that's what the topic is. No such thing in my world. Safer. That exists. But not safe. Sane. That's also subjective. I don't think it's really sane to not only allowing but craving pain. To have something hurt so much it makes you cry yet i cum and/or laugh at the same time. Now Im not completely crazy. I don't undertake such activities with just anyone. Now it's only One. But really what appears to be insane to someone looking on is really what helps keep me somewhat sane. Relieves stress, makes me feel safe and loved. Yep that's another sign of insanity probably. What I do believe in is consensual. Even if it's consensual non consent. When Master collared me I consented to not having a safe word. It was a bit like giving up my security blanket. Doesn't really do anything but made me feel less scared. But for those that expect to have a safe word, I think it should always be respected immediately. Sorry if this post is disjointed and grammatically incorrect. Work keeps interrupting me. I love my job.
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