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It must be over right? - 10/21/2012 11:09:12 PM

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i questioned whether i should ask this. i am in something of a relationship with a Mistress. The background of this question is: this Mistress and i have been communicating since last December. Twice now this communication has broke off for long periods of time but it has resumed. Now the communication has broken off again. We have talked on the phone and video chatted so i know She is real and She knows i am real. She has asked me to send money a few times, but i refused. There was also talk of a real time meeting in a few weeks.

Now since the first of October She has appears to have made no effort to contact me when i have tried to contact Her every way i know how to. That was until a day ago when she sent me a very short message saying She was having bill problems but she is back and missed me. Nothing more. Now when we were in the "getting to know you stage" of the relationship i searched for Her, by Her i mean the same pictures and name, on other sites and found her on another site. However, when she was not online i re-found this other site and it showed activity during the time She wasn't communicating with me.

So my question is: Is this relationship over and i'm just being stupid and hopeful that it isn't? If i am just being stupid i am just wasting everyone's time by asking.

It took a long time to find someone that wants to talk with me that i felt that i could serve, and now it may actually not happen.

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RE: It must be over right? - 10/21/2012 11:48:34 PM

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imo, she probably figured she can't get money from you and has moved on. if you meant something to her, she wouldn't pop in and out of your life at her leisure.

if i were you, i wouldn't put all of my eggs into one basket. sucks that she seems to be stringing you along, i wish you luck in finding a mistress that's right for you.

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RE: It must be over right? - 10/22/2012 1:28:42 AM

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How much time do you spend together in the same room? When you can look at that from a practical standpoint, you'll know whether it's a relationship or not.

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RE: It must be over right? - 10/22/2012 2:07:41 AM

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Yes, I'm sorry, it's over. In fact I'm not sure it ever started.

Sorry but nothing you've posted makes me think you were ever a priority for this person and the pattern of breaking and resuming contact and giving you just a little bit of hope ('maybe we'll meet up soon') suggests she was stringing you along, either in the hope you would give her that money, or just because she likes the attention.

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RE: It must be over right? - 10/22/2012 4:54:04 AM

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You're desperate. Sad...but true.

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RE: It must be over right? - 10/22/2012 8:10:04 AM

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RE: It must be over right? - 10/23/2012 11:33:23 AM

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It's completely over and don't ever give her money. She pops in and out of your life, gives you just enough to go on wanting more and then leaves again. She makes references to having money issues and has blatantly asked for money. That is not the kind of person anyone needs in their life.

I wish you the best of luck in finding someone worthwhile!

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RE: It must be over right? - 10/24/2012 4:31:41 AM

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Unless you've spent time face to face, in person....it never even started.

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RE: It must be over right? - 10/24/2012 6:39:06 AM

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Fella, this isn't what you asked, but... rewrite your profile. COMPLETELY. As it stands, you will not attract a woman except for a scammer.

Tell who you are. As a person. Not as a man or as a sub. Think of what you would want to tell a woman with whom you want a relationship.

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RE: It must be over right? - 10/24/2012 6:57:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Fella, this isn't what you asked, but... rewrite your profile. COMPLETELY. As it stands, you will not attract a woman except for a scammer.

Tell who you are. As a person. Not as a man or as a sub. Think of what you would want to tell a woman with whom you want a relationship.

I have to agree with DS wholeheartedly, and also would like to say to please remove the pic on your profile of your foot surgery. I'm not sure why you think that is relevant to finding a woman, but it certainly comes off as being extremely odd and kind of gross.

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RE: It must be over right? - 10/24/2012 8:47:35 AM

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I would hate to see you in the hands of a seriously manipulative woman. This woman is trying to manipulate money out of you but neither has the brains or the stamina to pull it off. Basically she's a wuss and probably the sort of woman who's incapable of looking after herself.
If anyone asks you for money and I mean to borrow, to help out with a bill, to pay for her ticket to come and see you etc... run a mile.

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RE: It must be over right? - 10/27/2012 8:18:27 PM

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Its not stupid to ask, but I think at this point its foolish to hope. She's messing with your head & trying to use your wallet! Only communicating when she needs money isnsomeone interested in who you are, what your journey is or that cares about how humiliating it might be for you to wait hours in a restaurant for her not to show up.

As I used to tell my male friends: if you're going to waste your money on tramps that don't give a damn about you, send those gifts my way...at least I'll still care about you in the morning while saying "told ya so"

Edit to add: - know denver is a couple hours away, but the gender identity center or "the center" based in denver may be a good resource for you to contact. Not only do they put on pride, but they have staff & therapists that might have more first hand ideas on how to improve your situation

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