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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 10/26/2012 3:56:58 PM   
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I'd have to agree with what LaT said. I like that, and identify with it as well.

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 10/26/2012 4:57:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Sugarsubaz

90% of the Dommes on this site are BBW. Why? I have found many that aren't even Domme they are just using the Domme label as a way to get sex as most men wouldn't look at them twice in the vanilla world. This is very frustrating for a sub that actually cares about his appearance and is not a slob. Sorry If anyone is offended, but this is getting old.


Who cares? Tailor your searches to certain body types/weights and don't blind yourself looking at us fatties. I'm a fat Domme. I just don't care what anyone else thinks and why should I? I'm secure in myself and that's all that matters.

Also, skinny/thin chicks, good for you for being skinny/thin. If that makes you happy, great. I don't fat-shame and I don't skinny-shame anyone. This body-shaming is ridiculous.


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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 10/26/2012 8:42:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Sugarsubaz

90% of the Dommes on this site are BBW. Why? I have found many that aren't even Domme they are just using the Domme label as a way to get sex as most men wouldn't look at them twice in the vanilla world. This is very frustrating for a sub that actually cares about his appearance and is not a slob. Sorry If anyone is offended, but this is getting old.



Well, actually, according to my math it's 63.2776455212367912435%

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 10/31/2012 6:58:34 PM   
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lmao

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They just do it to piss you off. Once you leave, they'll slim down.





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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 10/31/2012 7:19:47 PM   
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I think the whole thing is ridiculous. Skinny folk using words like fatties to define human beings. Fat folk using phrases like walking skeletons, bones covered in skin, etc.........to define human beings.

Weight is still the one ism that is seen as PC and not hateful.

I am personally, physicially, in the middle and don't find bodies of either extreme appealing. But what I find less appealing is the nature of a person that would use the above phrases or words to define another. AKA, I don't care how thin and sexy your body might be, or how self rightously indignant you are, using words like 'fatties' isn't attractive.


+1000.

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 10/31/2012 8:32:27 PM   
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There are plenty of thin Mistresses they just happen to have a bigger cock than your own.


Very true...LOL...

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/2/2012 3:40:23 PM   
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I LIKE big butts! (and the weight of a btw keeps me pinned down when she sits on my face---which i like)

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/2/2012 5:02:20 PM   
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Greetings Ladies and Gentlemen,

There will always be someone to stir up conflict and once they do, withdraw and watch the havoc and in-fighting. By responding it feeds the original poster as he/she has provoked and escaped, sit back and watch the fray.

The clue for me, is the comment of 'no offense.' If no offense was intended, it wouldn't be necessary to mention it.

There have been many fine responses from the posters in this particular thread. I'm aged and I don't carry the same body image and or weight I did when I was in my 20's, 30's...even 40's. I agree that women's bodies do change, a good amount of the changes are due to motherhood, stress, medications countering a disease inherited in their genetics and or preventative.

I realize I am not a 'model' for BDSM attire. But, I have experience and that is due to being in a lifestyle and or community, to which has had to fight hard from the inside out, long before the Internet where anybody can claim what/who they are behind a computer. When I came into this lifestyle, electric typewriter was the ultimate form of communication.

Every BDSM decade rests on the previous shoulders of the BDSM community. All can be well read on the subject of Master-slave, BDSM, D/s and S&m, etc. It takes more than book knowledge and computer communications to be a good custodian of another human's life, journey and direction.

Soon, the 'cherry bombs' (those who toss something as to create a response and usually is negative as to provoke back and forth 'in fighting') method of operation will be known, shared and when another one comes along--regardless of the screen name or, if they appear in person--the community will know what is before them and starve the cherry bomber by not posting any response, knowing it is a control tool using humiliation and or offense, to beget humiliation and or offense and dominants against dominants.

Just some thoughts and observations,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/2/2012 6:25:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ProlificNeeds


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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

*sighs* Because bitchy subs don't satisfy them like cake does. MMM, I love cake. Dammit, now I want some cake,lol.


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Indeed Ladies, but let me know when you find a cake that can put up a shelf........

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/4/2012 4:30:14 AM   
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Maybe its because us hot ones avoid self entitled cunts that don't measure up to our standards? I.E. Twits like you.

We prefer Polite, well mannered, intelligent, submissive masochists that don't over estimate their own appearance and inflate their worth because mommy fed them the "you're so handsome" line one too many times are more our speed.

Get over yourself sport, if you can't post a photo to prove your 'good shape' I'm inclined to call whiny-no-one-wants-to-fuck-or-beat-me-no-matter-how-much-I-pay-because-my-social-skills-are-nonexistant bullshit.

Now, put down the keyboard, leave mommies basement, walk out in the bright shiny sun, take a good look in your reflection in the window and listen very carefully:
We're just not into you, and never will be. An ugly mentallity isn't gonna get you anywhere.

Who fucking needs an energy sucking vampire?

(Edited for a goddamn typo!)

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/4/2012 5:00:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: r1a2y3m4o5n6d7

Sorry Sugarsubaz my dog ate all of the boney women on here. Nothing turns my dog on more than a walking bone.





LMFAO!! That's one hungry dog!

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/5/2012 3:51:52 PM   
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Personly, i love BBWs!
i love being overpowered by their big beautiful bodies!

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/5/2012 4:27:17 PM   
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isnt bbw big black women?

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/5/2012 4:38:59 PM   
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quote:


Coldslayer

isnt bbw big black women?




lmao

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/5/2012 4:46:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: coldslayer

isnt bbw big black women?


No.


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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/5/2012 5:12:47 PM   
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Big Beautiful Woman. helps to read other responses before posting.

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/9/2012 10:19:04 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sugarsubaz

90% of the Dommes on this site are BBW. Why? I have found many that aren't even Domme they are just using the Domme label as a way to get sex as most men wouldn't look at them twice in the vanilla world. This is very frustrating for a sub that actually cares about his appearance and is not a slob. Sorry If anyone is offended, but this is getting old.

I've got news for you Sugar.

First, women, no matter what the size, do not have to call themselves Domme, sub, or anything for that matter to get sex. All we need is pussies and we have that. Straight/bi guys are drawn to pussy like flies to honey. hahaha

Second, if you had a picture up or had not hidden your profile, I could better judge whether YOU are a slob or not. Slobbishness is not based on size. I know plenty of thin to average people who're slobbish, maybe because they think they can get away with it. Well, they can't. A slob is a slob is a slob, regardless of their body size.

Third, some guys actually PREFER BBWs. In my sub's profile, he says
"In particular, I favor a Woman more rubenesque, bounteous and curvy than most.
Special attention and adoration for the more full-figured, hourglass and full-bodied Lady walking among us..." So not everyone wants a thinner woman. He is on the heavier side of average but he's most definitely NOT a slob and he loves me the way I am and thinks I'm beautiful.

Fourth, YOU on the other hand, OP, have an ugly attitude that will shine through no matter what your body size or slob to neatnik ratio on the scale, so maybe THAT'S really why you're having trouble finding a Domme. No one, Domme or not, wants an asshat in her life.

NBMG

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/10/2012 3:09:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Sugarsubaz

It's always the largest ones that cry the most foul when this question is posed. Those that respect themselves enough to take care of themselves never get offended. I don't want vanilla which is why I am here. Why can't there be at least 30% on this site of dommes that aren't xxx large or morbidly obese? Instead of trying to flame me why not place that anger at yourself for having no self control?


You seem to be under the misapprehension that all 3X people...spend all day long stuffing their face, unlike "people who take care of themselves", as well as scarfing junk food and never exercising. To the contrary. Most fat women I know, and I am including myself on that list, don't eat seconds, avoid junk food, exercise, and have been on more diets than you can ever dream of.

I refuse to be angry at myself for being fat. My last meal was two mugs of sugarless tea, a homemade bean, cheese, and salsa burrito, a dill pickle spear, and a small banana. (Not a gallon of soda pop, a huge bag of Doritos, a large pizza with all the trimmings, and most of a chocolate cake.)

Hate to say it, but some things in life make certain body types put on weight, among them are pregnancy, going on anti depressants or anti-anxiety meds, living to be over 40 years old, and sometimes...even getting lymphoma and having chemotherapy will pack on the weight. (I wish I had the body I had when I was in my teens and twenties.)

I am glad for you if you are lean and limber, and yes, I will have to admit to being a bit envious. Alas, I have too many injuries from having lived an eventful life...and these get in the way of doing my favorite exercises. I have to do what is within my capabilities so I do not sustain further injuries. Weight gain can begin with a fall downstairs, I broke my back in two places that summer. Sometimes it can result from a motorcycle accident (screwed up my right knee then). I cannot even get up and down from the floor to do my old longtime favorite exercise program, and have destroyed my past bed by doing my leg raises and crunches etc. on it.

Instead of whining about what you don't have, why not see the glass as half full instead? You are in good physical condition and are not overweight...all of that exercise you did took patience, right? Why not use some of that patience to search for the right partner. She will come along eventually. In the meantime, why rest on your laurels? Do more self improvement...take classes on cooking healthy gourmet food...and...study a book on good manners. Your local library or Amazon.com should have several to choose from.

IMHO, having good manners and kindness of spirit...are more important than physical beauty. The outer wrapper is just icing on the cake.

If you happen to be in my area and wish to provide a free service to all Dommes (to improve the "quality" of Dommes available within the BDSM community)...like...physical therapy to get over sports' injuries, etc., low impact exercise, gourmet cooking, free corset making...well then I'm all for your offering your services. Hell, I would do more exercise every blessed day if I got a top quality, lovely corset every other month out of the deal.

Btw, some education here. Life isn't as simple as it appears on paper. When I was on a doctor supervised 1000 calorie per day diet for six weeks, I lost zero pounds. I should have been losing weight like crazy, as supposedly I was supposed to be eating 4000 calories per day just to maintain the poundage I was already at. When I used to go walking three hours per day for the exercise of it (I was homeschooling my autistic son and the long walks we took helped to burn off some of his energy), as well as going up four flights of stairs several times per day, and I was also on a no-fat vegetarian diet without sweets during this time...for 2-3 years...I lost no weight. I was physically fit though. ;)

I am NOT physically fit right now.

Another thing to do other than complaining... Why not start an exercise thread here at CollarMe where people check in daily after having done, or skipped, their exercise for the day? Even stating how many of whatever exercise they did? If you have experience in this, you may even give realistic, helpful suggestions. I would drag my sorry ass into that thread and leave posts...but not if it is all about negativity instead of inspiring people to do better.

Anyone can identify a problem...it's coming up with workable solutions that's the bitch.

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/10/2012 3:48:43 AM   
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Why the hell is anyone here defending what size they are or other peoples sizes for that matter? Who the fuck cares except for the op who couldn't get laid in a whorehouse - and his sock. Feeding into someone's prejudices like this and defending yourself or others against a peice of shit like this is a bunch of bullshit. What if he came in here and said... Why are there so many white dommes ...as far as im concerned, this fucker can take his prejudice ass down the road.

Now someone please pass me the cake.

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RE: Why so many BBW Mistresses? - 11/10/2012 5:08:40 AM   
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Agreed.
Die, thread, die!


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