From: Under Your Bed, Michigan
If you volunteer to submit, it isn't submitting? I'm not quite sure I catch that logic....of course I don't understand blanket statements either. Like the majority of subs not being trustworthy. It's like saying the majority of black people are ghetto-talking hood rats or that white people are all pretentious snobs or trailer trash, that all poor people are dumb or all rich people are lazy.
Having a fetish does not make you dominant or submissive. Does eating pussy or sucking cock make a dominant less dominant? No. Does eating pussy or sucking cock make a submissive more submissive? No.
A switch may be:
1. Someone who started out as one thing and then 'switched' to another.
2. Someone who doesn't know which side they land on.
3. Someone who enjoys both sides.
4. Someone who uses the label in certain circumstances (or is one thing to one person and the other thing to another person).
5. Someone who moronically thinks that labeling themselves a switch means lots more sex, a lot easier.
6. Someone who thinks that because they like xyz it makes them submissive as well as dominant (or makes them dominant as well as submissive). This can fall under category 2 as well.
Three is the most commonly used reason one labels oneself a switch. Your Mr. One sounds like he falls under category one, Mr. Two sounds like a wanker who falls under category five and possibly a bit of category six, and Mr. Three sounds like he is either in two, three or six...or some combination of those.
Really I am only guessing though and can only tell you my reason for using the label of switch.
A. It doesn't let me use kinkster which is a label I am more comfortable with since it can encompass any form of authority dynamic labels (dominant, submissive, Master, Mistress, slave, pet, owner, property, top, bottom, Daddy, babygirl, little, etc etc).
B. I primarily identify on the s-type side of things. However given certain circumstances (category four), such as playing with rope, I can top or bottom (be the tie-er or the tie-ee).
C. As I learn more about myself, I question what I think...and therefor the role(s) which I identify as.
I am whatever I am and whatever I am is what I choose to be.