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Barbiezz -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 2:26:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Shininglight23 quote: ORIGINAL: Barbiezz I imagine the club/bar scene won't be the place it happens. Matter of fact we did meet a girl at the beach that was curious but didn't when I talked to her they pretty much talked about Master like an object because he is black. I'm starting to get the feeling that a lot of the girls being white have some hang up over color. Personally I've been done wrong by white guys and black guys so race isn't an issue to me. I realize racism is still around but geez.. This is becoming more complicated. I'll just have to be patient I hope you aren't trying to turn this into a white vs. black thing because that's not what it is about. The first bolded piece struck me as odd. Meeting someone at the beach, and having a conversation doesn't mean that you were meant to have poly bliss or even a threesome with them. It means you were having a conversation. If I jumped in the sack with every person I met, found interesting, attractive, or the like... I would be one sore gal. As for the little snippet about white girls being hung up about color... that's a broad generalization if there ever was one. You shouldn't lump everyone together... it's rude an inaccurate. If you aren't taking the advice that seasoned posters are giving you... then you are reaping what you sowed. Good luck to you... in whatever way you choose to do it. Allie p.s. Here's a photo about patience. [:)] [image]http://www.83toinfinity.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/patience.jpg[/image] I didn't go into to detail on that note. I still speak to the girl we met. I didn't think that would happen purely because Master had no interest in her. I don't think this is a white or black thing across the board it just seems like it is that way in this area. In Atlanta where we initially met things were different. This type of lifestyle is more acceptable. You all are pretty much verifying what Master tells me when I talk to him about it. He suggested I ask around to get the opinion of subs instead of him. Once again thank you all so much for the responses. I think I got something out of it now

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 2:31:22 PM)
You're not struggling because what you want is weird. You're struggling because what you want is incredibly common. Lots of couples out there want to add someone to their relationship. Not many people want to join an existing relationship.

OsideGirl -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 2:34:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders You're not struggling because what you want is weird. You're struggling because what you want is incredibly common. Lots of couples out there want to add someone to their relationship. Not many people want to join an existing relationship. I'll also add that a large chunk of them wish to speak to the Dominant or the couple together first. Sub females are known to wear some seriously rose colored glasses when it comes to their Dominant. Since the Dominant holds all of the power and the new submissive is putting her life into his hands.....she needs to judge for herself that he's not bat shit crazy.

Barbiezz -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 2:39:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders You're not struggling because what you want is weird. You're struggling because what you want is incredibly common. Lots of couples out there want to add someone to their relationship. Not many people want to join an existing relationship. Ok now you understand what I was saying in the first place. A lot of gf's I talk to think I'm weird to be willing to share Him period. That I get turned on to see Him even flirt with a woman. I wanted to know if other women have this feeling as well. I mean I think I'd enjoy it and want it more then Him and happy that he is willing to try it for me. I believe that it won't be a simple meet greet and have sparks fly.

kalikshama -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 2:39:44 PM)
quote: Matter of fact we did meet a girl at the beach that was curious but didn't when I talked to her they pretty much talked about Master like an object because he is black. I'm pretty shy by nature so I'm trying to get out of my shell. I don't know anything about this area besides it's a pretty place. I'm starting to get the feeling that a lot of the girls being white have some hang up over color. Personally I've been done wrong by white guys and black guys so race isn't an issue to me. I realize racism is still around but geez.. This is becoming more complicated. I'll just have to be patient I realize you are in SC, but this was not an issue in MA, NY, or especially the swinger and BDSM scene in Florida. I will repeat my advice from your other thread: quote: You can join SDC.com for free for a week or two - see if they have any events in your area and go to them. I knew lots of swingers in Florida who were also into BDSM. Also use fetlife.com to find local BDSM events and start networking. (You will likely not meet the gf of your dreams at your first munch.) ps - you have a couples profile but no pictures of him. pps - In the seven years I was in South Florida I had too much random meaningless sex with women, a few fuck bodies, a girlfriend, and a poly relationship. One thing they had in common is that I met none of them online. My D introduced me to most of them. He and/or we mostly met them at the beach and clubs. (He's also picked up women in supermarkets and airports.) I see you haven't even bother to add a picture of him yet - I am not impressed by the efforts you have made so far.

AVegasMaster -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 2:42:29 PM)
Not odd at all. But not for everyone, either. If all involved agree, there is nothing wrong with it.

Barbiezz -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 2:44:29 PM)
yes I do remember you saying that OsideGirl. We just haven't met that person yet. I get excited thinking about it is all. If it never happens I'll be happy. Another reason I thought to say something is because we did hook up with a girl and there are other girls that will "hook up" but neither of us want just that.

Barbiezz -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 2:49:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama quote: Matter of fact we did meet a girl at the beach that was curious but didn't when I talked to her they pretty much talked about Master like an object because he is black. I'm pretty shy by nature so I'm trying to get out of my shell. I don't know anything about this area besides it's a pretty place. I'm starting to get the feeling that a lot of the girls being white have some hang up over color. Personally I've been done wrong by white guys and black guys so race isn't an issue to me. I realize racism is still around but geez.. This is becoming more complicated. I'll just have to be patient I realize you are in SC, but this was not an issue in MA, NY, or especially the swinger and BDSM scene in Florida. I will repeat my advice from your other thread: quote: You can join SDC.com for free for a week or two - see if they have any events in your area and go to them. I knew lots of swingers in Florida who were also into BDSM. Also use fetlife.com to find local BDSM events and start networking. (You will likely not meet the gf of your dreams at your first munch.) ps - you have a couples profile but no pictures of him. pps - In the seven years I was in South Florida I had too much random meaningless sex with women, a few fuck bodies, a girlfriend, and a poly relationship. One thing they had in common is that I met none of them online. My D introduced me to most of them. He and/or we mostly met them at the beach and clubs. (He's also picked up women in supermarkets and airports.) I see you haven't even bother to add a picture of him yet - I am not impressed by the efforts you have made so far. Well I decided I'm not looking for this relationship to happen from an online meeting so I didn't take the advice of adding His picture. If it so happened I met someone real on the other side I have a cam to prove we are real

mrsexxychocolate -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 3:16:09 PM)
Ok well I see what you been doing with your free time. Look baby bottom line is I'm not in a rush to find anyone else. It took me long enough to find you. Once you aren't feeling like you are new to this world, I have no doubt someone will join us. Feel free to ask other people advice but there is no rush whatsoever in adding another personality to what we have. It has to fit and click and that takes time. I'm surprised you even posed this here but if you need some understanding we can chat later in person.

Barbiezz -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 3:35:38 PM)
ok i'll see you later

kalikshama -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 3:53:57 PM)
Hey Mr Sexy - always nice when the other half chimes in :)

mrsexxychocolate -> RE: worried if this is odd (10/30/2012 4:17:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama Hey Mr Sexxxy - always nice when the other half chimes in :) Hey kalikshama just showing support. Shocked she's in a forum in the first place that's my thing lol. and in response to that pic thing I won't let her put any of me on that profile. You can just call me Dre tho. No comment on the effort thing ;) I wouldn't want her to spend all her time looking for another girl. 1 has quite enough emotions for me to handle haha.

Toysinbabeland -> RE: worried if this is odd (11/1/2012 12:41:06 AM)
Even harder: find a unicorn that you can trust.

OsideGirl -> RE: worried if this is odd (11/1/2012 8:30:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toysinbabeland Even harder: find a unicorn that you can trust. There's that too. The majority of those that we released were because they weren't trustworthy.

Barbiezz -> RE: worried if this is odd (11/1/2012 7:32:58 PM)
Yes that's what He's discussed with me actually. We had a nice long talk about it after He read my post. You all have been great and thanks!!

littlewonder -> RE: worried if this is odd (11/1/2012 9:28:58 PM)
I do hope that you have noticed how well your Dom handled you coming here first with your question. He remained calm and collected. This should show you that you can talk to him about whatever is on your mind. You should be extremely glad to have a man like that. We don't see that many around here like that. He seems to be a good man for you though and hope you two continue to be a happy couple.

Barbiezz -> RE: worried if this is odd (11/2/2012 9:45:26 AM)
Thanks littlewonder and I actually did notice the calmness. This is why I want to make him so happy because he makes me extremely happy and I've never had that out of any man period in my life. I get so frustrated though because everytime I think I found someone (female) that I would possible like they end up being fake on most sites. Lol it's funny a "female" in my area I messaged just to say hi to. They weren't even my type. She was ranting and raving how she hates guys faking to be females, so I simply messaged her to say I feel your pain. She messages back saying I need to message another profile to set up a cam interview if I want to recieve another message. LMFAO. I'm a cam entertainer so I said sure I have a cam but why the process, let's just get on cam. She says I knew you were fake lol. Anyway I am happy with what I have so it's water under the bridge and it's awesome that He is so understanding about everything. My main rules to follow are to never keep secrets or lie!

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