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impossible??? - 11/5/2004 3:21:25 PM

yoursalone

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I just got a message from another sub/slave telling me how naive i am for wanting a Master who will also love me, and wants what i want. She said that to most doms "longterm" means only a year or two, and that most want more than one slave, or they get bored. This disturbed m considerably. Is what i'm looking for impossible? Please help me!! I am so disturbed, and depressed by this.
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RE: impossible??? - 11/5/2004 4:39:02 PM

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I must first say that I am confused why someone would read your prfile and then send a note saying such things. Why did you receive this message of doom?

I do not beilve that what you seek is impossible. There are many dominants/masters on this site who have long term/married relationships with their submissves/slaves. It is very possible - takes some looking and you may kiss a few frongs, but it is very possible and even very probable.

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RE: impossible??? - 11/5/2004 5:21:31 PM

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You do need to be careful and be aware of blow-job Dom who are just looking for sex. Once you weed those men out, I think you have a good chance of finding what you seek. From reading your ad, I'd say you're looking for a Daddy Dom. This does NOT have anything to do with age role play or incest. It is a caretaking type of Dominant. His "little girl" is his treasure and taken care of, cherished and yes.. dominated. "Daddies" run the gamut from sadists to sensualists so you can find one who is either gentle enough or harsh enough to suit your needs.

Remember, one person's experiences will not be yours. She may have felt she was doing you a favor by sending you a warning missive, but do not let what went wrong in her relationships cloud what can happen for you. There are a lot of married and long term committed Dom/sub couples. It may take you a while to find what you seek, but it is out there. Don't give up and don't let others dishearten you.

You do not have where in Mass you're located so I'm just putting up a few Munch links. If you don't know what a munch is, it is a casual lunch or dinner at a safe public place where you can go and meet other locals into BDSM. It is a good way to get to know people and the lifestyle. You may also find your Dom there.

http://www.boston-tng.org/
http://www.wmpe.org/
http://www.nefg.org/index.html
http://www.nla-newengland.org/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/CapeCodKink/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SouthShoreMunch/
http://www.bostondungeon.org/munches.htm

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RE: impossible??? - 11/5/2004 8:48:35 PM

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I replied under ask a submissive. One of your threads will probably be pulled by the moderators, duplicates are frowned upon.

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RE: impossible??? - 11/6/2004 7:00:11 AM

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I was going to add my comments to your question from a males stand point. But actually, newflowers and BeachMystress said it like it is, very good advise, take your time and communicate with whom you like, you will find the one for you he is out there, have patience...

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RE: impossible??? - 11/6/2004 7:37:12 AM

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Yoursalone.
You are entitled to the world if you want it. Whether or not you obtain it remotely soon or not is another story.
I wanted the same as what you wanted when I went searching for a Dom. By the way my first M/s relationship lasted 10 years. It only ended because he wanted marriage. He was being transferred overseas. I was no where near wanting marriage with him. I called it loving him but not being in love with him. Therefore in my mind a marriage would never work and leave us both happy. I asked for release.
My second Dom is who I am with now. Sure we have problems from time to time. If you love someone enough you work them out. It is when you stop loving them you don't anymore. Our relationship is going on 6 years together. Hopefully if all goes well with our families and such we will be getting married next summer. Collar to follow. Will he want another someday? Perhaps. Then again perhaps I may be the one initiating it?
You cannot forsee the future. You can only get to know the person you are with today and hope for the best.
Today, we are monogamous. It is something we both desire.
To the advice you're received. I'd feel some empathy for the person who wrote you those things. Yes, it is impossible for them. Where does that leave them long term? We tend to see the world through our own rose colored glasses, the fact this person can only see such a dreary outlook says a whole lot for the person saying it.
It is true...MOST M/s relationships are lucky to make it 6 month's. It seems most just hook up to play. Passion fills the air. Once the passion and the newness is gone they have nothing else to stand on. Then where do you go? I must say, I have been blessed by some fabulous friends. I personally know several who have been together well over a year. A couple years already.
Before you enter a relationship both parties have to know how to have a relationship. Communication and honesty to name a couple. Like I stated, anything can be worked out if you want it badly enough.

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RE: impossible??? - 11/6/2004 7:59:28 AM

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'yoursalone' -

Ignore the idiot (who obviously had a bad situation and is imparting vitriolic advice to anyone who desires to hear it).

Pain (bad pain) loves company - they are simply stating their opinion and they are wrong. Nothing is impossible. It just depends on how much you want it.

~J

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