ChatteParfaitt
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Joined: 3/22/2011 From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact This isn't uncommon. A number of sadists out there have had the problem of struggling with hurting somebody they actually love. Not everybody, of course, but enough that it's a fairly common question. What can work to help get over the hump is that you have to think of it in a new way. If the person that you are dealing with is a masochist or is bonded to you by submitting to pain for your pleasure, you have to remember something. Continuing to play is you showing that person that you love them. If they crave pain or wanting to submit, if you take that away, you are confusing them or not fulfilling your end of the bargain. It would be like vanilla folks falling in love and one person removing loving gestures, such as hugs or kisses, from the relationship. Craving pain is very much like craving touch, and you'd never think of taking touch away from someone you love, would you? If you can start thinking of the situation in those terms, it may be able to help you. I want to wish you the best of luck. Thanks for saving me the keystrokes, LadyP !!
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