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blackdic760 -> newbie (11/25/2012 5:35:11 PM)

I am new to this with very little experience with a Domme...My question is how do I make myself attractive to a Mistress/Domme so that she would be interested in training me?



QueenRah -> RE: newbie (11/25/2012 6:02:11 PM)

These are suggestions, based on my own perspective and what I expect from a sub or slave who wishes to pursue me:

Be your genuine self. Pursue. Woo. Treat her like a person, first. Leave your kink well out of it, unless you are going to a professional. Realize that her needs come before yours (and you don't get to dictate to her what those needs are). Be clean: brush and floss your teeth, wash your body, clean your nails. Take care of your health - be as fit as you can, without becoming a body worshipper.

If you want a CM lady to show interest, give her something to be interested in. You haven't filled out the "essay" portion of your profile. Get a good, non-kink, picture of yourself - you don't have to have your face in focus, if that is an issue.

Stay positive. Don't whine, when you don't get what you want, as quickly as you want.

My [sm=2cents.gif]

Best luck!

QueenRah



blackdic760 -> RE: newbie (11/25/2012 6:05:25 PM)

Thank you for the advice. As to my profile...I just became a member here a few hours ago. Still learning. Are you a Domme?



DarkSteven -> RE: newbie (11/25/2012 6:13:38 PM)

My suggestions:

1. Change your username.
2. You just asked QueenRah if she was a Domme. Before you ask questions like that, read profiles.
3. I'm not sure what you intend by "training". I can see two different things you could be seeking - a full relationship, and play sessions. "Training" could involve such things as learning high protocol table serving manners, how to use w whip on a sub, how to properly make tea... the possibilities are endless.


Oh, yeah, welcome to the site!



blackdic760 -> RE: newbie (11/25/2012 6:16:58 PM)

Thanks for the pointers



blackdic760 -> RE: newbie (11/25/2012 6:24:55 PM)

I would love to find a Mistress willing to train me in the San Diego area!



DarkSteven -> RE: newbie (11/25/2012 6:50:19 PM)

Dude, what is it about training you want?



theRose4U -> RE: newbie (11/25/2012 7:09:31 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: blackdic760

I would love to find a Mistress willing to train me in the San Diego area!

This is trolling & not only against TOS but generally annoying. The other side has a search function...use it!



theRose4U -> RE: newbie (11/25/2012 7:10:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Dude, what is it about training you want?

The kind where his penis is invited into the same state as a Domme!![:'(]



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: newbie (11/25/2012 9:18:42 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: blackdic760

I am new to this with very little experience with a Domme...My question is how do I make myself attractive to a Mistress/Domme so that she would be interested in training me?


By making yourself an all-round awesome person.

Dicks are very common. About half the population has one. Females, especially dominant females who tend to be a rare breed of kinkster, can get as much dick as they want. In order for them to chose your dick you need to show what a stellar person you are on other levels.

So - are you as interesting as you could be? Can you hold conversations on a range of topics from music to travel to politics to literature to sports? Do you have a range of hobbies? Do you take care of yourself physically? Are you emotionally healthy? Are you ready and willing to devote time and effort into getting to know someone, dating them, and building trust? Are you reliable? Is your home in a good state? Are you financially secure? Are you aware of your own bad habits and working to fix them? Do you make sensible life decisions with foresight? Are you open minded and kind to those around you?

If you can honestly answer yes to all of those questions you won't have any problems attracting a partner.



Kaiel -> RE: newbie (11/26/2012 7:00:18 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

My suggestions:

1. Change your username.
2. You just asked QueenRah if she was a Domme. Before you ask questions like that, read profiles.
3. I'm not sure what you intend by "training". I can see two different things you could be seeking - a full relationship, and play sessions. "Training" could involve such things as learning high protocol table serving manners, how to use w whip on a sub, how to properly make tea... the possibilities are endless.


Oh, yeah, welcome to the site!


I agree with all that DS stated above!!



ObedientPet760 -> RE: newbie (11/26/2012 8:32:46 AM)

thank you...i already changed my name to obedientpet760, and will follow advice.



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