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cuckslaveUK -> question for ladies of couples (11/26/2012 8:45:36 AM)
Hello... Got asked a question (or few) the other day from newbies and hoping you lovely ladies can help me.. due to my background of how i started out i had trouble answering the question so was hoping you could help as im not very good at explaining either... 1. I personally in the past noticed women of couples mainly initiate contact... if this is true... please could someone help explain why this is the case... 2. Do couples have rules with what they feel comfortable doing? 3. If a couple who dont live together agree for each other to send messages to users, then they discuss they are both happy with the person in question to then discuss more what they are into.. then if both parties agree to arrange a meet and hand out their phone number. if the guy of the couple then contacted single women and gave them their personal phone Number without even seeing a pic of the woman, knowing what she is into or who she is and without the woman of the couple knowing is that acceptable??? If it is... does that make the woman narrow minded not open minded.... Thankyou ladies in advance....... xx

theRose4U -> RE: question for ladies of couples (11/26/2012 8:56:43 AM)
1- in actual active couples affection can come from either 2-yes these are called limits 3-if you gave some girl your phone number she is under absolutely no obligation to call you for phone sex! Even if she used to be nice to you

cuckslaveUK -> RE: question for ladies of couples (11/26/2012 9:28:26 AM)
Thankyou for the reply... dont think i wrote the third question quite right... was distracted when i wrote it! 3.if you are a couple and on this site but dont live together so dont always get time to go on the site together to search and contact who you both want to meet together. so the easiest way when your not together is for both parties of the couple to search (when apart) but to confer via phone to each other what they think about another member on the site.. and whether they find them attractive etc.. if then they both agree that the third party is o.k. to go ahead with and find out more about the person in question they want to get to know more.... then and only then when both parties of the couple agree for a meet to hand out their phone number..... if this is the couples "rules"on agreeing on if both parties are happy to make contact to arrange a meet then and only then to hand out their number... is it right if one of the couples ignores the rules and gives his own phone number out to women who neither has made proper contact with, never even seen a photo etc... does this seem desperate on the males side who gave his number?

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: question for ladies of couples (11/26/2012 9:50:55 AM)
I think your question boils down to 'if a couple agree to one thing, but one of them does something different, is that a problem?' Yes, but it is a problem for them to sort out. I'd strongly advise against getting involved in another couple's dispute

cuckslaveUK -> RE: question for ladies of couples (11/26/2012 10:16:49 AM)
Thankyou for your reply.... thats another reason i didnt want to answer, to get "involved"... but if someone asks me for advice then i will try and help them... At least this way they can read the answers to the questions they asked and they get a few different answers...

LadyPact -> RE: question for ladies of couples (11/26/2012 10:52:27 AM)
If you got questions from others that you couldn't answer, why didn't you just direct them to the source? Sorry, but nine times out of ten when someone uses that line, it's things they want to know but didn't want to be honest about it. 1. The woman of the couple generally initiates contact for multiple reasons. The first is that generally, women have more success in getting responses and follow through. I had a look at your profile and I can darn near promise you that will be the case for what you describe. If you were separate people looking to hook up with someone from the net, the woman is going to do much better than the man. This is especially true when it comes to cuckhold or voyeur situations where she is the one people are most likely interested in. Also, people want to know that she is really on board and you are not just some guy who has fantasies that she knows nothing about. 2. Absolutely. In fact, ask most people that you engage with to ask you what they are right up front. People want to know what they are getting into and if the situation is potentially worth their time. 3. I'm not sure what this means at all, even with the clarification, so I'm just giving this My best shot. If you are a couple, approach people as a couple and not some deal where only one is initiating phone contact. Arrange phone calls or coffee shop meets when you can BOTH be there. It really is the woman who tend to do the approving anyway since she is the one going to be having sex with whomever, whether the male is sexually involved or not. She's the one who is going to be deciding on whether she likes and is attracted to the person or not. The male of the couple isn't going to be as discerning and that's going to lead to issues.

RumpusParable -> RE: question for ladies of couples (11/26/2012 11:23:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cuckslaveUK Hello... Got asked a question (or few) the other day from newbies and hoping you lovely ladies can help me.. due to my background of how i started out i had trouble answering the question so was hoping you could help as im not very good at explaining either... 1. I personally in the past noticed women of couples mainly initiate contact... if this is true... please could someone help explain why this is the case... 2. Do couples have rules with what they feel comfortable doing? 3. If a couple who dont live together agree for each other to send messages to users, then they discuss they are both happy with the person in question to then discuss more what they are into.. then if both parties agree to arrange a meet and hand out their phone number. if the guy of the couple then contacted single women and gave them their personal phone Number without even seeing a pic of the woman, knowing what she is into or who she is and without the woman of the couple knowing is that acceptable??? If it is... does that make the woman narrow minded not open minded.... Thankyou ladies in advance....... xx 1). If you mean, do they tend to be the one's making contact for the couple more compared to the male? I'd say the male more, but that's purely anecdotal on my part... I didn't do a study or anything lol. If you mean does a female in a couple tend to pursue partners more than a female outside a couple, again just based on my own impressions, I'd say yes. 2). Sometimes, sometimes not. 3). In some cases the couple is fine with that. I some it's not okay. IMO, personally, any man/woman/couple who sends their phone number to a complete and random stranger they've never spoken to on the web is, at lightest, foolish. Doing so to a person who doesn't have a pic or anything clear stating what they are looking for shows they are sending out the message to anyone with a vagina, which again IMO is foolish and indicates they are desperate and have no standards. They don't care what the person they message likes or is like.

cuckslaveUK -> RE: question for ladies of couples (11/26/2012 12:06:49 PM)
Yikes..... thankyou soo much ladies.... A couple of answers from you gals is the same as what i would have said... but due to the questions asked their could be many an opinion too... any more views greatly welcomed... xx

needlesandpins -> RE: question for ladies of couples (11/26/2012 12:59:16 PM)
answering from my own pov; 1, i did the advertising when with my ex as i had to be happy with the male. i only contacted one person directly myself, and not for actually what we were looking for, but because he has wonderful eyes. it just so happened that he was exactly what i was looking for. we have plans for something possibly happening in the future, and for that he will be doing the priority choosing. 2, my ex and i had rules and we set limits both as a couple, and playing seperately. it turned out he couldn't stick to the rules, or limits. my playmate and i have limits, and rules too. i should think all couples do.....and i use the term 'couple' loosely to include those that play on a casual, but regular basis. to break those rules/limits is a betrayal of trust, and usually involves lying. not good for any sort of couple. 3, i'd say that going behind your partner/playmate's back to do anything out of your set boundaries is breaking the rules, trust, and a betrayal. i wouldn't want my playmate giving my personal details to anyone without my concent, nore would i give out his. however, if he were to give his number to someone to check them out first that is fine, but i think i may be a bit put out if i hadn't known from the start about the person. i'd find anything else tantamount to breaking the rules, cheating, whatever. i think i've answered correctly. needles

MissShey -> RE: question for ladies of couples (11/26/2012 1:40:02 PM)
1) I very rarely make the initial contact. I'll keep a lookout for interesting girls, but if I see someone who looks interesting then I'll let Daddy know about them. He is the head of the Household, and if anyone wants to join us then they need to talk to Him first. If someone approaches me, then I'll talk to them about our life and what we're looking for, but if they want to get into serious discussions about joining us then it's Daddy they need to talk to. 2) Of course. 3) With Daddy doing all of the serious discussions, He judges whether or not someone might be genuine, and He decides if and when to take things further. He will give out His email address and/or His phone number when He sees fit. He has a disposable untraceable pay-as-you-go phone for this kind of thing. We do spend time apart, and if we are, and if He feels someone is real enough and right enough to meet, then He'll arrange a meeting with them. He certainly doesn't need my permission or consent to do so, but He will let me know what He's doing because He's polite like that! If and when He has established (i) that they're real, and (ii) they might be suitable to join us, then He'll introduce me to them. But if we're together, then we'd probably go to the initial meeting together. But your question includes a lot of "if"s, so it's heavily loaded towards a specific situation that doesn't apply to us. If you have a specific question in mind, ask it: don't beat about the bush.

cuckslaveUK -> RE: question for ladies of couples (11/26/2012 1:51:57 PM)
Thanks again girls...... you have been really helpful.... Question 1 again...specially to needlesandpins.... you say you did the advertising as you had to be happy with the male... does it make a difference if you both have to be happy with the male or just yourself?? and..... does it matter or make a difference if its a female you / your partner is meeting? Xxx

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