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east coast-serving a group - 6/16/2006 5:44:44 PM

yowza2009

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Greetings:)

I am new to this world, but very interested in being trained by a Dominant/Mistress.

I have had three sessions and in the last one, the Mistress brought in friends to watch...I didn't mind this since I was there to learn and serve.

However, do Mistress/Doms normally demand that you service others of their friends?

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RE: east coast-serving a group - 6/16/2006 6:16:45 PM

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Not always...I do when I have people over. I expect my submissive to serve my guests. Whether play is involved or not, though, depends on many factors.

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RE: east coast-serving a group - 6/16/2006 7:02:12 PM

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Dear yowza2009, Ladies and Gentlemen;

If I had the opportunity to train a slave/submissive, I would not bring in friends for service right away, as to permit the slave to feel comfortable in practice first before tossing him/her into a situation of serving others as well as myself. Especially, if it was serving food and drink at a tea or meal. My training is also not confined to a set time table. I also would establish if training was for general service, personal service and or domestic service.

In an academy setting, the entire training system is different, to which the academy's director has a wonderful flow that has worked rather well. However, it is mainly focused on the Master/slave dynamic and not heavy on BDSM and or S&M.

Now, I don't know if your sort of service was sexual however, I wouldn't share that time with others, as I am a lady and prefer such to be discreet and not open to other's eyes. I do not 'share' or 'train' slaves in the sensual arts so, there would be no sharing. I prefer slaves and not horny men that use the lifestyle as kinky sex but, that is just me.

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RE: east coast-serving a group - 6/19/2006 9:32:38 AM

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Thank You, Mistress for your reponse!

To clarify..."serving" in my post meant of a sexual submissive nature...and that is why I am anxious about it..

Mistress, you require that of your subs at these parties?

If so, how does a slave prepare for this...so the slave can handle all of it...yikes! :)

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RE: east coast-serving a group - 6/19/2006 9:37:35 AM

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I enjoy entertaining so it's important they serve well. My number 1 slave is my personal slave and never shared for play, however I have had other slaves, mostly males, whom I will allow others to use.

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RE: east coast-serving a group - 6/19/2006 12:06:34 PM

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Greetings, Mistress DiannaVesta! Thank you so much for your response...I have heard much about you based on my research :)

The only way I think I could do this is if I am tied down, can't move and then they have their way...The restraints would have to be MIGHT STRONG to hole me down...:)

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RE: east coast-serving a group - 6/19/2006 12:26:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: yowza2009

Greetings, Mistress DiannaVesta! Thank you so much for your response...I have heard much about you based on my research :)

The only way I think I could do this is if I am tied down, can't move and then they have their way...The restraints would have to be MIGHT STRONG to hole me down...:)

Had you done your research you would have known better then calling me that. Its Goddess Dianna Vesta and I never need to tie anyone down. Trust me on that. They do exactly what I tell them to do.

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RE: east coast-serving a group - 6/19/2006 12:29:17 PM

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Sorry Goddess Diana Vesta!!!! Crap, my first attempt at trying to be polite and respectful to a Dominant Woman who knows what she is doing...and I blow it :)

I am sure, with time, I would do as you demanded..not tied..obedient...giving up my mouth and ass for you as you please :)

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RE: east coast-serving a group - 6/19/2006 1:15:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: yowza2009

Sorry Goddess Diana Vesta!!!! Crap, my first attempt at trying to be polite and respectful to a Dominant Woman who knows what she is doing...and I blow it :)

I am sure, with time, I would do as you demanded..not tied..obedient...giving up my mouth and ass for you as you please :)

You have a long way to go boy if you plan on getting and keeping anyone's attention. My name has TWO n's DIANNA

Pay attention.

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RE: east coast-serving a group - 6/19/2006 1:56:10 PM

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uggh :)....you are right...long way to go :) hope a Mistress gets some enjoyment of me on the way...

Cheers and thanks to all the responses!

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RE: east coast-serving a group - 6/19/2006 2:46:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yowza2009

Greetings:)

I am new to this world, but very interested in being trained by a Dominant/Mistress.

I have had three sessions and in the last one, the Mistress brought in friends to watch...I didn't mind this since I was there to learn and serve.

However, do Mistress/Doms normally demand that you service others of their friends?

You first say they came in to watch.
And then you phrase it that the domina demanded you service them?
And you've only played with her three times?

Me thinks you need to SLOW down and learn some more before you get hurt, or worse, infected with a disease (like hepatitis) that has no cure.

The technical answer to your question, boy, is no, ESPECIALLY when it's not negotiated. Period. There are no exceptions because she's a dominant female. If she was concerned for your safety, she'd take the time to negotiate that with you and make sure it was OK with you before it happened.

I do hope that whatever you did (and clearly we know that if it DID happen, it wasn't just someone watching), that you at least had the sense to require that it be done with YOUR health in mind.

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RE: east coast-serving a group - 6/19/2006 5:01:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yowza2009

Thank You, Mistress for your reponse!

To clarify..."serving" in my post meant of a sexual submissive nature...and that is why I am anxious about it..

Mistress, you require that of your subs at these parties?

If so, how does a slave prepare for this...so the slave can handle all of it...yikes! :)

As I stated, it depends on many many factors. If you came to me today and I decided to train you...no, you would not be used in that manner. You are not ready. But my parties are social occasions with some possible play...they usually are not sexfests anyway. My main concern is that the slaves serve...food, drinks, ensure comfort...properly. Sex and play would be negotiated per the established relationships.

Is your question based on someone's command/demand/request or your own desires to do so? If it is your own fantasy of what happens when a group of Fem Doms get together for a drink or dinner, you may want to reevaluate your expectations.

and I agree 100% with MisPandora...you need to learn a bit before jumping into anything. Slow down and educate yourself.

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