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some advice and help thanks - 12/2/2012 5:17:49 PM

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hello A/all

I have this little issue but it is still very new but I am just not sure what to do

1) I have been in talk with a male slave for life ownership 24/7 from here in Auckland lives here but atm he is in London for work about 6-8 weeks W/we have been in talk for a few good months now and have a good understanding of each other and O/our need etc and feel like W/we would be a good match and see how things go once he gets home and get together and take it from there still in daily communication with each O/other .

2 ) I have been in talk with this other guy off a dating site and only for this last week or so and we meet up and find out we have alot in common and almost everything the same we like , same upbringing etc , we live opposite the same street from each other and well we both like each other and are both wanting and looking for the same thing in life . but we have only just meet so this is very new

so as you can see I am just a bit concerned that if I pick 1 over the other will I regret the choice I make or do I just keep things the same for now see how things go , as I don't think this 2) guy is into this lifestyle and that is a worry to Me as apart from the bdsm side of things in every other I think he might be My Mr right .

so this is what I am dealing with right now and just not sure what to do so if A/anyone can give some idea's or thought's or any help I would greatly be thankful .

Miss Nina

RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/2/2012 6:34:25 PM

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Since you had everything working out towards owning the slave that is currently in London, and that you
seem to be perfect for each other, what motivated you to go to another dating site to meet other men?
I think the answer to that question might help you determine what you should do.

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/2/2012 7:55:56 PM

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I guess I'm just confused why a sub you may or may not meet in 2or3or4 months (I'm reading this as an online thing) is dictating your entire life?

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/7/2012 8:49:26 PM

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Why not enjoy both?

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/8/2012 6:51:23 PM

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Just wanted to chase you down here and let you know I love your new avatar, LaChienne.
And the one before this one, and the one before that too. :)

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/9/2012 8:14:08 AM

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Thank you, poise! My daring with the last one passed quickly. Haha.

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/9/2012 8:28:42 AM

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Funny, poise...I've ALWAYS liked your avatars!
You have great taste!

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/12/2012 11:49:19 AM

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You are considering life ownership at this point, I hope you choose neither till you learn a lot about bdsm , humans, and relationships.

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/12/2012 4:39:06 PM

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Whatever happened to going on a date or two before taking the plunge? I must be old-fashioned...

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/12/2012 7:13:17 PM

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FRing it...

You are concerned about choosing one over the other. If you are having doubts, why are you considering owning someone who you are not sure you want to select over someone else? I think you should probably take some time to figure stuff out before you drag someone else into what could turn out to be a messy situation.

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/13/2012 2:57:45 PM

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Whatever happened to going on a date or two before taking the plunge?

I completely agree. Dating is all part of getting to know someone. Just be honest and upfront with both guys that you're dating and not ready to tie the knot after one meeting.

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/13/2012 3:29:29 PM

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I completely agree. Dating is all part of getting to know someone. Just be honest and upfront with both guys that you're dating and not ready to tie the knot after one meeting.

You mean after a couple of emails messages it is too soon to tell you to pack your bags and move in with Me?

Seriously, OP, just play with them both. Just don't play with their emotions by lying to them.

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/14/2012 5:30:09 AM

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You mean after a couple of emails messages it is too soon to tell you to pack your bags and move in with Me?

Sometimes there are exceptions to the rules.

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/14/2012 8:56:13 AM

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Sometimes there are exceptions to the rules.

There are rules?

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/14/2012 9:01:37 AM

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There are rules?

The rules are, there ain't no rules.

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/14/2012 9:42:06 AM

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The rules are, there ain't no rules.

Indeed. Just so you know; I will be dating others, communicating with others, and likely playing with others. On board?

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/14/2012 9:57:00 AM

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Indeed. Just so you know; I will be dating others, communicating with others, and likely playing with others. On board?

I wouldn't have expected it any other way. Choo Choo!

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RE: some advice and help thanks - 12/14/2012 10:06:48 AM

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Indeed. Just so you know; I will be dating others, communicating with others, and likely playing with others. On board?

I wouldn't have expected it any other way. Choo Choo!

See how easy that is, OP?

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