Airlia
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Joined: 12/9/2012 Status: offline
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Personally, I clarify myself a switch because it often depends on my company. I'm currently with a switch as well and surprisingly, the switch from Dominant to Submissive is fairly easy for him. At first he clarified himself as a dominant but seeing how I enjoyed taking initiative at times in the relationship, he did give me that option to dabble into. From what I have noticed, at first sign of your partner being dominant, either commencing a moment or acting more forceful that usual, the best way to delve into submission is by appraising her. Tell her the things that she enjoys hearing, be appreciative towards her and allow her to take the reigns of your actions. At first, submission is all mental. If you are not willing to accept what she offers, most likely submitting will be difficult. It takes a lot of trust. I found out that the term 'switch' described me well because on a regular basis in day to day things I showed a lot of dominance in my structure, composure and persona. I had gone into a relationship with a male submissive and since altering his services as a top was something very difficult for him, I decided to take the lead. I found out that at times I really did enjoy it although my preference was towards submission (though obviously being very selective of who I would be with). There was an excitement in deciding who would hold more of the power stance and that rivalry often claimed a victor. It was fun and changed at different occasions. What I suggest to any switch is that you keep reluctance in the storage area, because that is often what deprives people of submitting or dominating. Try new options and see what it is you may like.
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